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I am a little sad today and really missing my mom. Going through this experience has really made me miss my mom. She past away 9/24/13 from breast cancer. When I first told my mom I wanted to have the gastric sleeve surgery her first words were ok as long as you do what your suppose to do. Meaning to follow dr. directions and not cheat and make myself unhealthy after the surgery. She was so supportive. I know that she would have been at my house everyday the week before surgery helping me get my house cleaned, doing laundry, getting all my food that I was going to need the first two weeks. And she would have been at my house almost everyday helping my husband take care of me. She would have been so proud of me and the progress I have made. Even though I am only 3 1/2 weeks out and 25 lbs down. She is my top 3 reasons why I did had the surgery. My family has been blessed we have not had any other sick people in our family we are a close family who try to support each other. I will tell you though we defiantly have our differences. I think of her everyday. And I know that she would not have wanted to me to be sad. Going through my own emotions during this journey and mourning the loss of her sometimes gets overwhelming. I think of all the great times we share and that makes me smile. THANK YOU EVERYONE for reading and being a great support. This site has been amazing.

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I am so sorry your mom wasn't physically here to be by your side. She sounds like a wonderful woman. Keep up the good work, she is watching from the other side.

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I'm sorry you are sad

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I am sorry for your loss. Keep your head up. We are here to support you.

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Your are blessed to have a wonderful, supportive mother ..she is proud of you. She may not be physically with you...but her spirit is within you to give you the strength to be successful even though it is such a difficult time . I know how mourning can zap the energy out of you. I lost my husband 16 years śo I sympathize what u r going through. Blessing to you and your family.

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Wish your Mom could be with you to see how great you have done with your weight loss,even though you miss her like crazy. That is a major emotional hurdle you have had to endure & yet you have done so with an obviously large amount of grace.

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Just hang on to those memories that make you smile & remember she is always in your heart! You are a part of her & so she still lives on in you!!! Sometimes crying is the best medicine & its ok to cry & to miss the ones who are unable to be with us physically but are so dear to our hearts! Stay strong & as someone else said we are all here to help & support you!

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sorry for your aching heart you made a year come to my eye in remembrance of my mother who sounds very much like your loving mother. I know she is so very proud of you thanks for sharing your story and feel better hugs and love that we are sending your way.

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She is with u always.... she will be your strength to get thru the hard times ......my dad passed away from pancreatic cancer 2 yrs ago so I know how u feel. They would be proud of us for makjng this change to get healthier ;)

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I'm so sorry for your loss and that you are missing your mom. I know she is proud of your success and that you are "doing what you're supposed to do." :)

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Tears, my mom left us 9/10/10... it still feels so fresh sometimes, especially reading your post. You are not alone, and there would be something wrong with you if you didn't feel a blanket of sadness for your loss. It is very recent and this is a major life changing event that is something significant you would have shared with her. It does get better, you find a new normal and you move past the shock and hard to accept reality that they are gone. You never stop missing them and wishing you could have just a little more time with them.

I use it to remind myself to spend time wisely when with people I love. There is a lesson in the pain. I changed jobs to have better quality time with my own daughter and be more available to my wife. Time is a non renewable resource for us in this life, we need to use it wisely.

It takes a good 12-18 months to get to your new normal existence. Hugs to you. It's tough, really really hard in ways only those of us who have grieved can understand. Nothing I say can make it any better. Sometimes it is just comforting to know we are not alone and to know it won't feel so raw and all encompassing forever.

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That was beautiful. God bless you and we hope all of your dreams come true. Stay focused.

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