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Pretty sure its true..just a hard pill to swallow..he liked me better fat with no self confidence..today he asked me why I think I'm the shit since surgery if I haven't even lost "the weight" yet...and reminded me that when we met I was just an overweight single mother with no friends and no man...and he made me awesome ...I never heard him say such hateful mean things...wtf...

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That's so incredibly disrepectful. I can't tell you what to do, and I don't know the details of your relationship, but I know I would not be okay with someone talking to me that way. I think you should re-evaulate your relationship, minimally.

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I totally agree I was stunned I looked at him like..damn...I lost like 50 pounds and can run a mile..if I didn't loose that weight where the eff did it go?

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I have to agree with Belladonna723. You are the **** and he is acting like a douche. I can understand how someone going through the changes we all go through could bring up some odd feelings in one's significant other, but as a man his comments to you offend me. They show a complete lack of respect for you and a desire to just keep you down. I'm not one to tell people how to live their life, but you deserve better! Hopefully he can come around and treat you better. If not, then do whatever is best for you as you deserve so much more than that kind of treatment.

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Thanks for the support...as of this evening his things are packed and he's on the couch..I'm nobody's door Mat..I've never taken crap off him and I'm not about to start...

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Thanks for the support...as of this evening his things are packed and he's on the couch..I'm nobody's door Mat..I've never taken crap off him and I'm not about to start...

It's only going to get better! Don't even worry about it.

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Thanks for the support...as of this evening his things are packed and he's on the couch..I'm nobody's door Mat..I've never taken crap off him and I'm not about to start...

Oh my...he's really going to be lovin' you when you hit your goal. Just be thankful he allowed you to see whats really in his heart before you wasted anymore time. Life is too short...and it GOES ON!

Best wishes.....

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Pretty sure its true..just a hard pill to swallow..he liked me better fat with no self confidence..today he asked me why I think I'm the **** since surgery if I haven't even lost "the weight" yet...and reminded me that when we met I was just an overweight single mother with no friends and no man...and he made me awesome ...I never heard him say such hateful mean things...wtf...

Oh my goodness, this guy is a mental abuser! If you kept him in your life he would only play games with you as his insecurities got stronger. I am so proud of you for getting him out of your life and your kids life! Now girl consentrate on making yourself stronger and teach your kids that this kind of behaviour is not allowed in your life or theirs!

PSsss, How much did that looser weight? Cause you can count that extra weight off and watch your weight come off now too!!

Hugz baby!!

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Wow. Sounds like your head is on straight and his, apparently not so much.

To imply you were awesome because of him? Nope, sorry...he should be reminding you how awesome he is because of YOU! He's got things twisted. It's up to you to decide if he made your life any better, not him.

Best of luck to you and you're doing a great job!! Take care of yourself.

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Pretty sure its true..just a hard pill to swallow..he liked me better fat with no self confidence..today he asked me why I think I'm the **** since surgery if I haven't even lost "the weight" yet...and reminded me that when we met I was just an overweight single mother with no friends and no man...and he made me awesome ...I never heard him say such hateful mean things...wtf...

What???..

Shel

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So sorry. That really sucks to hear your partner say that. I'm going to play devil's advocate for a minute...

Is he in general a decent guy? It is not abnormal for the spouse of someone who is going through a big change like you're going through to become insecure and scared of the changes. He may be doubting himself, his place in your life, the shifting of the relationship, your love for him, etc. You're new found confidence, while so totally awesome and wonderful, is probably changing the dynamics of the relationship.

If he is in general a decent guy...loves you, respects you, is not cruel, is supportive....then he may need more understanding and support from you for his burgeoning insecurities. Relationships end so quickly these days without both people giving all they can to save them.

If he is in general an ass...then maybe your confidence will give you the strength to end it with him.

Good luck!

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Good luck. You do not need him in your life. You are an incredible person and strong. You will get through this and it will make you stronger. Remember that you are #1.

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You might what to so what Beyonce said To The Left. To The Left.

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Be strong and love yourself, you're beautiful and he knows it. He sounds like someone with self esteem issues and he's lashing out because he's afraid he's going to lose you. Don't allow him to bring you down and don't let your kids think this is how a.man should talk to a lady.

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