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So I've been thinking =/



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Hey, long time no talk.

I cannot decide what I want to do! :(

I am not getting anywhere on my own. I am pretty much where I started when I first got the surgery the first time.

It's just making me more depressed. I am trying and trying to lose it all on my own, but not having that restriction of feeling full I don't know when to stop. I never feel full like I did when I had the band. :(

I was actually able to lose weight when I had the band, looking back, it really was helping me. It sucks that my infection i recieved when I had revision surgery made me lose my band :(

I am SO scared to get it again because what if this time my body can't handle it and I die? :/ I'm so scared that what happened back in april where I had to get the revision surgery and get my band removed due to the abscess and then having high fever and high heart rate because of it. Being stuck in a hospital for a week with drain tubes and a feeding tube, what if that happened again?

That was such a traumatic event :(

So scared.

I feel like I should do it tho.

I am not getting anywhere with what I am doing now. The only way I lost like 10 pounds in October was because I wasn't really eating and you have to eat to lose weight.

People are trying to back me out of it too.

Why can't they just support me in what I think is best for me?

The people that back me out of it are already skinny people and they seem to not understand that some people just can't lose it on their own. I am one of them.

Decisions, decisions.

*sigh*

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The ONLY reason I had the surgery was because I could never loose weight on my own...it is something I wish I had not needed to do...bit I made the best of it...

Have you thought of other WLS ?...such as the sleeve procedure? If I ad to do it all over again, that is where i would be looking....

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I agree with B-52. I'm only 5 weeks out from surgery but still have pains at the port. I keep thinking that between maintenance, band corrosion, band slippage, and port flip, maybe sleeve WAS the better route. Aside from staples, there is no "device" being implanted so maybe less recovery. Maybe less chance of infection too.

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B52 why would you consider getting the sleeve? I always read your comments and think very highly of them. It always seems as though your are very with your band. I'm 4 days post op.

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We all have to do what is best for us and maybe you should look into the sleeve but I cant say that getting the band again would come out the same. Maybe something just upset your system to cause you to have infections and the place they picked was your band. I wouldn't just give up because what choice do you have not to have one of the surgeries. I would really research the sleeve and see if it would be of help to you, however I wouldn't give up on the band because as you can see it was fixable and even though you had to have it removed you still have the chance of getting it back. Good look on what ever you decide.

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Wow sweetie I feel for you. I know you loved your band but have you considered or thought about the sleeve? We certainly can't do this thing alone. Hope you can make that decision. I wouldn't want you being infected again either. Good luck.

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I would suggest that you look into some of the threads on the sleeve side for band to sleeve revision. This might help you to make a decision. You have to do what is right for you and talking to some others who have been through this might help you. Best of luck with your decision. :)

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I will definitely have to do some research. After I posted this, I told my mom what I was thinking and she told me "If you did, maybe you should get Gastric Bypass since the band wasn't really doing much for you besides causing you pain. You also won't have to worry about getting fills." Would any one suggest Roux EN Y? I will do research on both the Roux EN Y and the Sleeve. I'm seriously scared to get surgery again, what if I die this time? Anyways, also after posting this new topic, My mom suggested to me that I should give it 3 months and try to lose 20 pounds, if I don't then she said I should look into it. So far, I gained like 2-5 pounds since I posted this, so I'm weighing what I weighed when I originally got the LapBand. It's so frustrating you guys!!

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I looked up videos on both and the Sleeve doesn't sound as scary as Roux EN Y, so maybe I will look a lot more Into the Sleeve since it seems highly recommended (:

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Have you talked to your doc? Maybe he could help you with the pros and cons of each surgery and help you decide which is best for you. Best wishes!

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My issue with RNY is the malabsorption issue. My wife worked in a skilled nursing facility(Sniff unit) and saw several people come in who were still obese but couldn't take meds normally due to the fact that their stomachs were gone and intestines wouldn't allow the medications to absorb as well as the stomach did?

I personally would do a sleeve before I'd go all the way with RNY.

tmf

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Haven't talked to my bariatric doctor since may/June last year when I got a tube taken out. I wasn't interested in surgery back then, I told myself I wasn't going to get surgery ever again. Then when I started seeing the pounds piling back up it started to change my decision. I was going to give it a year from May/June for a just in case type of thing. Every month since then I started to think about it. Someone I know had Roux EN Y and lost 160 pounds since July. Anyways. I watched videos on the Sleeve, I saw that they staple your stomach? I also worry about all the loose skin. I have 120-125 pounds to lose and the only thing is lose skin and I know its supposed to be the last of our problems. I don't want to lose it too too fast, but to know that ill be full quicker and eat less would be a great feeling, I miss that feeling. I'm still going to give it until April, but I don't see what it'd hurt to go talk to my doctor about surgery options. I think the last time I saw him he told me "if you ever decide to get weightloss surgery again, don't be afraid to give us a call" I should give them a call and make an appointment with my doctor and ill bring a list of questions on bypass, roux en y, and the sleeve. I talked to the girl I mentioned about her roux en y and I told her about people telling.me I shouldn't get surgery that I can do it on my own if I put my.mind and heart to it blah blah blah and she told me that I'm doing it for myself nobody else. Okay you guys, if I get surgery again, only you guys, my mom, dad and one of my brothers will know. I need you guys for the support as well as those three

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If anything, I'm leaning more towards the sleeve, before it was the roux en y. The sleeve doesn't sound or look as scary as the other one and I have no idea why. All surgeries are scary. But I feel like surgery is best for me, I feel like I try and try, I am a yo yo dieter, I never feel full, I constantly think about food. I had posted something.on Facebook one of my aunts had commented on it, it was about me thinking about getting weightloss surgery again and she tells me "Erin, you're just bored, you don't need surgery, go out get a job to occupy yourself..." coming from a person who got a Boob job? And barely eats and from what I heard if she eats too much, shell go three days without eating? Mmmk. But yeah I might get it done after I get to talk to my doctor and get more info about them all and as I stated before I'm not telling anybody besides the three family members I have listed and you guys as well.

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I struggle with food..

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http://www.amihungry.com has some good information regarding food obsession. It's a program site, but the blog portion of the site is free and has some good info for all of us.

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