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After all my research I -- in the end -- could be comforted only with the realization that only the good die young.

and I ain't so good.

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I wasnt that nervous until I saw the hospital through the windshield, then the thoughts started coming hard and heavy.

When it happens, remember why youre doing it. I always advocate writing a list and keeping it with you. Go over it. Then tell the nurse in pre-op that youre nervous and they'll give you a little liquid courage lol!

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I felt the same way! I was sleeved last Tuesday and had tears in my eyes going in the operating room. I have a 5 year old son and the thought of possibly leaving him without a mother was overwhelming. But the same was true if I didn't get the surgery. You just need to stay positive! I wish you the best!

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Sabredy12,

Thanks for this post.

I'm right there with you, I'm a single parent to a beautiful 20 month old girl and my surgery is scheduled for Dec 26th.

I'm terrified out of my mind... BUT, I know, just like having her, that this is the BEST thing for BOTH of us.

I made a list of all the reasons that I'm tired of being fat, and all of the reason I want to do this.. and on the top of both lists are my quality of life for myself... and my daughter.

Similar to labor and delivery, I just keep telling myself, everything will be ok.

We will be fine. We will not die.

We will be happy, successful at this, and will tell our story to future nervous pre-op folks. :)

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Yes. Me. I'll be that one. Not so much as dying from the actual surgery but complications thereafter.

On the other hand, I keep convincing myself things will be ok because I've seen people who were a lot more unhealthy than me who have woken up from the table and are keeping on with life, losing weight, and doing great. Not to mention all the great success stories here on the boards. Also when you have people who depend on you, the instinct is to be a fighter and pull through anything as hard as it may get, so yeah I guess we shouldn't worry, we will be fine :rolleyes:

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I feel the same! My hospital boasts that they have never lost a WLS patient. I keep fearing I will be the first!! ????

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Sorry... That was supposed to be a smile, not dde-whatever.

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I am on Thursday too and I can't even sleep or concentrate. I am so worried about my kids being motherless. I really hope this is worth it--I want to be a healthy fun mom.

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I started a thread a couple of months ago called "Smooth Recovery, Anyone" after reading

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I started a thread a couple of months ago called "Smooth Recovery, Anyone" after reading[ too many complication stories and needed some positive reinforcement. I got a ton of responses. You should check it out. I'm 2 weeks post op now and so far so good. I'm already back to working 12 hour night shifts (with my surgeon's approval).

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