Non-Supportive Parents

[Hope4Healthyme 12]

I have been keeping my weight loss surgery a secret from everybody, and its been very hard especially through holidays. I cant eat solid foods yet, and every get together is surrounded by food. I have been pretending to eat and when no one is looking I spit in napkin, and shovel the rest on my husbands plate. This has caused a lot of pain, spitting up, and it sucks. My husband and mom are the only ones that know. Had to tell my mom because she needed to dogsit for us. She grilled me, and stressed me out even more, and so I would rather not share my journey with those closest to me, because they stress mr out. I just want to come out of the closet with it, so there is not so much presssure. Why are you not eating, you need to try this etc. Sometimes I pretend to be sick, then people are concerned because I have already lost 27 lbs in 3 weeks. Family and friends are so quick to judge, I feel like I have to keep this a secret as well. Maybe oneday I will tell everyone, but for now I am stuck.

[jewelgirl 12]

I kept it a secret until I had my surgery date and there was no turning back. I did my research and when my parents had their doubts, I had the knowledge to back up my decision. Ultimately they are just wanting to protect me as their child (even though I'm 32 lol). I would do the same for my daughter. I had my surgery as planned, only told my husband,my step daughter, and my parents. After the surgery I told my friends and family. When they saw my happiness and success, my parents supported my decision. Do it for YOU. It's your happiness and health.

[1Day1Life4Now 882]

If you are still on your parent's insurance...you may be covered for weight loss surgery. Check on that first. You are a 22 year old woman and if you want to pursue WLS, then that is your prerogative. Your parents love you and when they see you are hell bent to follow through on this road, I am sure they will then support you. Parents do not want their children to go through any crisis alone... they will eventually get on board. As for self pay.... you are old enough to get a loan if you have a job. Look at all of your options before you decide anything, Good luck.