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Hi everyone,

I'm getting very nervous my surgery is December 9. I'm single, no children and live in the Philadelphia area. I Don't have a lot of support. Last year I tried to feel my friends and family out and most of them were against the surgery. So only one of my friends really know what is going on. Any suggestions and words of wisdom we be appreciated.

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Hey MtAirygirl,

Not much of a mentor here, but going through the same feelings you are. I've told a lot of people and haven't gotten many positive responses. It's good that you're on here. I've made a few buddies on here. It's nice to talk to others who understand what we're going through and that this is anything but the easy way out. One of my buddies on here was just sleeved and hearing firsthand from others helps me feel less alone in this.

Feel free to add me as a friend and ask away.

J

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Being alone is difficult at this time for you..but it is better then having people nag you about everything you are about to do...You are very brave to be taking this on!!!!!

You have a whole new life ahead of you and you can get the encouragement you need here on this forum... it is exciting and nerve wracking to be where you are..but it is finally getting close to being your turn....This is all about you and how you feel and deal with the new changes you are about to make....

Just relax and let it all happen...Many have gone through what ever you go through and can help you along the way....How exciting for you....

I remember when I began..It was my turn to be happy and reach for my goal....I am doing it and you will too....

All the best hun!!!!!!

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Thank you both for your kind comments

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I told very few people of my surgery oct 30. Did not want all the "eyes". I only told people who would be supportive. This is a good site. You will not feel alone

~best

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I told very few people of my surgery oct 30. Did not want all the "eyes". I only told people who would be supportive. This is a good site. You will not feel alone

~best

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I told very few people of my surgery oct 30. Did not want all the "eyes". I only told people who would be supportive. This is a good site. You will not feel alone

~best

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