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I would ask you please not to terminate your pregnancy like every body said they are a gift from God I was on some type of birth control and none of my 7 kids were planned as of right now I'm a 29 year old single mother of 7 age range of 15 years old to my 8 year old twins I was 14 when I had my first so nobody though I would make it with my baby but I soon as you lay eyes on your baby your whole world changes and your mothering instucts will kick in I would do anything for my kids I made it work when I was 14 and no I didn't live off my parents I moved out and got married and got a job and got my Ged and made it work

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Sorry hopefully I didn't step on anyone's toes that is just my opinion

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I would ask you please not to terminate your pregnancy like every body said they are a gift from God I was on some type of birth control and none of my 7 kids were planned as of right now I'm a 29 year old single mother of 7 age range of 15 years old to my 8 year old twins I was 14 when I had my first so nobody though I would make it with my baby but I soon as you lay eyes on your baby your whole world changes and your mothering instucts will kick in I would do anything for my kids I made it work when I was 14 and no I didn't live off my parents I moved out and got married and got a job and got my Ged and made it work

I TOTALLY agree! A mother will do what she has to to make sure her child is happy and healthy! I'm impressed by how far you have come. I couldn't imagine a baby at 14, but you seem like a great mom!! ????

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My dearest friends.

Today is my 1 year surgevarsary.

I day i was looking forward to, but one which came with so much mixed emotions!

So let me just spill it. I found out I am pregnant!

This is my first pregnancy. ?de33 It is unplanned. Only told my partner yet, nobody else. And noe you guys.

I am both happy and scared and a bit upset. And worried. Because it is not a good time now.

We just bought our first house, moving in a month's time. But we're not married. But we have been planning it (our plan was exactly this easter weekend next year!). Although nothing concrete as we have to save up, this house is a big thing.

And now the pregnancy. Honestly i dont know what to do. I cant speak with my mum about it, because if we decide not to keep it (a reality, unfortunately, due to financial circumstances), they will be devastated. I cannot do that to them. I cannot do that to us. But also, the reality of it happening.

What a crazy day!

I was looking so forward to the day i would get pregnant. And now, this day of all days, it's not as i envisioned.

I am also worried whether it would be fair to a child seeing that i am mentally not at my best - although i am much better than 6 months ago.

On the other hand, if i end the pregnancy, i am so mortified that it will have a dire effect on my emotional state especially with regards to my partner. What if i come to loathe him for it?

We love each other very much. And i know i would be a great mum. And i know people say a lot of the times "it is never the right time", but now is honestly not a good time!

Friends I dont know what to do!

I am like a deer caught in headlights.

Please give me some sound advice. And dont be too harsh on me, i am very emotional right now, and well, yeah.

What an anniversary, hey?

(Plus I am not yet at goal weight, have lost about 115 pounds if i'm not mistaken, need to lose about 40 more - but this wont have an effect on my decision, i am quite relaxed about the weight issue now).

There will always be a mortgage or bill of some sort .some ppl only have one chance @ having children. Think about what happens if you are never again able to concieve again? You could regret terminating a pregnacy, children are the greatest we are given they are a big blessing. Please don't make any rash/sudden decisions yet. Think very hard &I pray you keep the baby ... praying for you.

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I TOTALLY agree! A mother will do what she has to to make sure her child is happy and healthy! I'm impressed by how far you have come. I couldn't imagine a baby at 14, but you seem like a great mom!! ?de0a

Thank you dorian I try my hardest

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Thank you dorian I try my hardest

I've gotta say you are an amazing inspiration! I have my one and while it's not easy it's the best thing that ever happened to me. I knew from the moment I found out about him I would move heaven and earth for him and I always will.

The loss of my twins and all the others babies makes this a difficult topic for me to stomach.

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I've gotta say you are an amazing inspiration! I have my one and while it's not easy it's the best thing that ever happened to me. I knew from the moment I found out about him I would move heaven and earth for him and I always will.

The loss of my twins and all the others babies makes this a difficult topic for me to stomach.

You are a GREAT mama too Alaina! I have your back and always will! Love you!

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You guys are doing great! My date was the 8th and it was 110 by then also.. I've been quite discouraged myself because I've been at a stall for a few months and it's been driving me nuts! But I'm not going to let it get me down. I have abt 50 - 60 lbs to go to get to my absolute goal and I want to do that by July or August because I want to do skin surgery by next winter! We can do it guys!

Yes we can!

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There will always be a mortgage or bill of some sort .some ppl only have one chance @ having children. Think about what happens if you are never again able to concieve again? You could regret terminating a pregnacy, children are the greatest we are given they are a big blessing. Please don't make any rash/sudden decisions yet. Think very hard &I pray you keep the baby ... praying for you.

Only you and you partner can know what's in your hearts.I'm afraid, my friend, there is no crystal ball as to the emotional / financial/ spiritual outcomes. Look into your heart.

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You are a GREAT mama too Alaina! I have your back and always will! Love you!

You are the BEST!!!! Love you too!!!

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Happy Easter all. Since Tuesday is my Surgerversary, i thought I'd post a picture of my progress. I'd like to lose another 30 or so but it is what it is! Have a great day all!

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Happy Easter all. Since Tuesday is my Surgerversary, i thought I'd post a picture of my progress. I'd like to lose another 30 or so but it is what it is! Have a great day all!

Whoop whoop!! Way to Go!!! Looking amazing and a wonderful success story!!

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My one year is looming here shortly. So excited!! Is there anything you guys wanted to happen and didn't? I might have a thing or so..over all this year pretty much helped make a lot of my dreams come true health wise. I went into this hoping to reach a single digit in clothing and able to get off my cpap! I feel so awesomely blessed both of those things happened and a lot more! What are some amazing things you dreamed/ wanted to happen that probably like me.. Wasn't sure it would...in the year post surgery!? Just curious to hear what u ladies had happen amazing to your lives as well!

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My one year is looming here shortly. So excited!! Is there anything you guys wanted to happen and didn't? I might have a thing or so..over all this year pretty much helped make a lot of my dreams come true health wise. I went into this hoping to reach a single digit in clothing and able to get off my cpap! I feel so awesomely blessed both of those things happened and a lot more! What are some amazing things you dreamed/ wanted to happen that probably like me.. Wasn't sure it would...in the year post surgery!? Just curious to hear what u ladies had happen amazing to your lives as well!

Well with over 140 lbs gone, which is bigger than you Alaina!, I feel a ton better. No more excessive sweating, losing breath when doing little tasks, and not being able to find anything that fits! In fact now when I shop, I have a hard time deciding what to buy, because so much does fit!

I have actually starting walking a bit despite by back and leg pain and I love the way it makes me feel. I initially had the bypass to help my back pain, and while that didn't happen, I am so grateful that I had the surgery. It has changed my life forever. Just would like to lose about 20-30 more, but if not, I'm OK with it!

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Happy Easter all. Since Tuesday is my Surgerversary, i thought I'd post a picture of my progress. I'd like to lose another 30 or so but it is what it is! Have a great day all!

Dorian, you look petite! :-)

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