I am completely approved for surgery all I need to do is get to my goal weight of 298. I am currently at 311 lbs. I was put on a liquid diet by the P.A. At my surgeons office. I cannot for the life of me, stick to it. I keep sabotaging myself and I'm so afraid I'm not going to have surgery. I don't know what else to do. I don't know why I keep cheating. I want this so bad. I keep getting stuck right around this weight and can't seem to get out of the 300's, which is so depressing. Please tell me what to do. I am so afraid to face the P.A. And see what my weight is this Thursday and tell her I've been cheating AGAIN. Obviously this liquid diet is making me hungry as hell and I'm cheating. What should I do??

Talk to your PA, ask if there are things you can do to keep from feeling like you're starving. Do they have a list of 'free foods' that you can snack on (celery, cauliflower, cucumbers) stuff that will give you a crunch and fill you up....I know it's hard, but somehow you have got to find a way to work through this.....you CAN do this!!!!!

Part if the pre-op is to shrink your liver, part of it is to prove you can follow a regiment for an extended period of time. Post-op, if you cheat on the wrong things at the wrong time you can do damage...you have to show them you can do this correctly.

And lastly....do you have a counselor or therapist? It may help to talk this out and make sure there's not an underlying reason you are sabotaging yourself....

Good luck! You CAN do this!!!!

See if you can do a low carb diet... That usually helps.. I have also seen some where they have to have three protein drinks a day and one meal 320 cal or less and all the veggies they want. I would definitely see what else they can do for you.. If anything this is proof as to why this surgery is so important.. Good Luck

I'm having the hardest time myself with this. It's terrible.

I agree its hard. I find that when I get all my protein in that I do much better because I feel full. Good luck.

I was doing a low carb diet. I lost 5 lbs the first week then gained 1 lb the following week, that's when she put me on this liquid diet. I like the idea of contacting her and getting some suggestions as to what I can have as free foods. I also think I need to see a therapist about this because this is really hard, and NO ONE seems to get that. They just think ( they being my family and friends) here we go again, she's cheating and its not going to happen. Maybe they're right. I don't know anymore but this is driving me crazy. I can't enjoy food anymore. I feel guilty about everything I eat if its not on my plan, so why do I keep doing it? I will tough it out and get back on track. I know I can do this, I just have to let go of food somehow.

I agree that one thing that still really does not get addressed is our "relationship" with food. It's like being told you have to break up with your best and oldest friend, who has seen you through the roughest times of you life. I had a halfway decent support group for this, but still, we really didn't address this head on. I've ordered a book that may be helpful. I'll let you know if I still think so once it comes.

I agree that one thing that still really does not get addressed is our "relationship" with food. It's like being told you have to break up with your best and oldest friend' date=' who has seen you through the roughest times of you life. I had a halfway decent support group for this, but still, we really didn't address this head on. I've ordered a book that may be helpful. I'll let you know if I still think so once it comes.[/quote']

What book is it? I agree, it's like a break up!

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It's 100% a break up. And I cheated too. In ways that were better than what it how much I would have ate before the liquid diet, but cheated none the less. On Christmas I murdered my aunts dressing lol but the good news... I'm almost 2 months post op. Have lost 43 pounds and haven't done anything I regretted food wise. I feel I'm finally free from that horrible relationship I was in. In the lunch room I secretly spy on others and can't imagine how I use to be the one eating ritz by the handfuls or looking at the "healthy" eaters eating 3 wedges of laughing cow cheese. I never thought I would have to track my calories to make sure I got enough in lol such a great change!

I am completely approved for surgery all I need to do is get to my goal weight of 298. I am currently at 311 lbs. I was put on a liquid diet by the P.A. At my surgeons office. I cannot for the life of me' date=' stick to it. I keep sabotaging myself and I'm so afraid I'm not going to have surgery. I don't know what else to do. I don't know why I keep cheating. I want this so bad. I keep getting stuck right around this weight and can't seem to get out of the 300's, which is so depressing. Please tell me what to do. I am so afraid to face the P.A. And see what my weight is this Thursday and tell her I've been cheating AGAIN. Obviously this liquid diet is making me hungry as hell and I'm cheating. What should I do??[/quote']

Water, other high Protein low sug drinks sf Jello smoothies google world according to egg face blog for great recipes I copied and pasted to my iPad...... This is to shrink ur liver so they can operate and get u used to what ur body will only be able to do post op. power of life and death is in your tongue( bible)..... So stop talking and thinking negative and conquer one meal at time. Clean out cupboards & fridge of trigger foods and talk to ur nutritionist by phone, get linked to a face to face support group. Also perhaps therapy. Most of us have it recommended to retrain how we think about food and why we have the addiction ( self-worth, body image, past traumas). And keep coming hear for support. Wls. Is a tool not the cure.

I was doing a low carb diet. I lost 5 lbs the first week then gained 1 lb the following week' date=' that's when she put me on this liquid diet. I like the idea of contacting her and getting some suggestions as to what I can have as free foods. I also think I need to see a therapist about this because this is really hard, and NO ONE seems to get that. They just think ( they being my family and friends) here we go again, she's cheating and its not going to happen. Maybe they're right. I don't know anymore but this is driving me crazy. I can't enjoy food anymore. I feel guilty about everything I eat if its not on my plan, so why do I keep doing it? I will tough it out and get back on track. I know I can do this, I just have to let go of food somehow.[/quote']

U live to eat now..,, but we have to eat to live. It's a whole different obstacle

It's 100% a break up. And I cheated too. In ways that were better than what it how much I would have ate before the liquid diet' date=' but cheated none the less. On Christmas I murdered my aunts dressing lol but the good news... I'm almost 2 months post op. Have lost 43 pounds and haven't done anything I regretted food wise. I feel I'm finally free from that horrible relationship I was in. In the lunch room I secretly spy on others and can't imagine how I use to be the one eating ritz by the handfuls or looking at the "healthy" eaters eating 3 wedges of laughing cow cheese. I never thought I would have to track my calories to make sure I got enough in lol such a great change![/quote']

Looking forward to forced change working w other tools to correct unhealthy thinking! Go girl!

Thanks for everyone's replies. I appreciate all the words of encouragement. I need to come on here more often. The past few days I've been doing a little better. One day at a time.

The book is "Life Without Ed." It's more about people with bulimia (and if you had bulimia, you probably would not have been approved for this surgery), but even though it hasn't arrived yet, I suspect it will be a good read anyway. I could write a five-page essay about my thoughts on eating disorders, but I'll try to summarize. It's like many other things: a sliding scale. You make a bad choice, you do it enough times that it becomes a habit, then you forget how to deal with whatever it was you made the bad choice about without your habit. Then the habit no longer satisfies, and you need more and more of it to feel like yourself. We could be talking about nicotine, drugs, surfing the web, gambling, skipping meals, eating when we're not hungry... it's all the same as far as I'm concerned. Once the habit becomes strongly entrenched, the brain begins to make changes to conform. Hence, when you withdraw the action that was part of maintaining the status quo, we suffer. REALLY and literally suffer. But it's temporary. Just like we made old habits, we can make new ones.

Anyway, I'll give you a book report in a week or so and let you know if I think it's worth buying or checking out at the library.

The book is "Life Without Ed." It's more about people with bulimia (and if you had bulimia' date=' you probably would not have been approved for this surgery), but even though it hasn't arrived yet, I suspect it will be a good read anyway. I could write a five-page essay about my thoughts on eating disorders, but I'll try to summarize. It's like many other things: a sliding scale. You make a bad choice, you do it enough times that it becomes a habit, then you forget how to deal with whatever it was you made the bad choice about without your habit. Then the habit no longer satisfies, and you need more and more of it to feel like yourself. We could be talking about nicotine, drugs, surfing the web, gambling, skipping meals, eating when we're not hungry... it's all the same as far as I'm concerned. Once the habit becomes strongly entrenched, the brain begins to make changes to conform. Hence, when you withdraw the action that was part of maintaining the status quo, we suffer. REALLY and literally suffer. But it's temporary. Just like we made old habits, we can make new ones.

Anyway, I'll give you a book report in a week or so and let you know if I think it's worth buying or checking out at the library.[/quote']

Sounds good, thanks!

HW 245; CW pre-op: 229; Surg Date: 2/26/13

I got the book, and I'm loving it! In lieu of a review, I invite you to take a look at my blog (follow if you like). I will be working through the book in the blog, and this will have the double-benefit of distracting me from wanting to eat for the sake of eating, as well as hopefully helping me tease out the negative and harmful self-talk until I can banish it completely.

I do highly recommend the book!