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gurliepunk12543    111

gurliepunk12543
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I have to stop comparing myself

I had my wls September 19 and i was 318 lbs now i am 242. but theres a girl in my office who had wls in dec and she flew past me with how much she lost. And rubs it in my face :( every time i feel good with how much i lost. I get the response thats all u lost.

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libra_lisa    136

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I have to stop comparing myself

I had my wls September 19 and i was 318 lbs now i am 242. but theres a girl in my office who had wls in dec and she flew past me with how much she lost. And rubs it in my face :( every time i feel good with how much i lost. I get the response thats all u lost.

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It's easy for ppl to say not to compare but hey we're all human and we have all done it at least I know I have so don't beat yourself up about it and you've done an amazing job so be proud of yourself....now for the Debbie Downer at work, ignore her, some people don't think before they speak and may not realize how the things say may come off as rude or even hurtful...so either she has no filter or just an ugly spirit...but keep up the phenomenal work!! :)

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gurliepunk12543    111

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Ty libra i am trying to ignore her she is always there lol my coworkers tell her 2 shut up lol

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Wendilou    180

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you have done an amazing job! over 70 lbs gone is super and that dopey girl at work can bug off! What an inconsiderate thing to say. Just keep hanging around here with your support group and blow off Her Highness as best you can.

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gurliepunk12543    111

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Ty everyone. I am trying to keep going positive.

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abbybeep    53

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It's got to be so hard having her around saying stuff. Keep your chin up, because you're doing a FABULOUS job!! Congratulations on all you've lost so far and all you'll continue to lose!

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gurliepunk12543    111

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Between her comparing the weight she compares how much easier it is for her to drink n eat without puking. Best is she only got wls bc i got it. I feel like i am in hs lol

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abbybeep    53

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Hmm, I feel like that's not something I would go bragging about- "I can eat & drink more without puking!" yeah- seems pretty hs ish to me!

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btb2013    84

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Between her comparing the weight she compares how much easier it is for her to drink n eat without puking. Best is she only got wls bc i got it. I feel like i am in hs lol

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She is acting Nasty and unsupportive. She hopped on your coat-tails when you went and got your surgery. Just smile and thank her for emulating you as that's the best form of flattery. Then keep smiling and let her know that she needs to keep her opinions to herself and nothing good to say, etc.... Say it nicely and walk away while her mouth is hanging open.....

It works...:-).

You are a grown woman now. No bullying, no popular girls/boys, ppl need to grow up and take care of their own business.... Because if she is taking her precious time to say this crap, she doesn't have much of a life.

Chin up. You are getting trim and WILL be HOT!

Just focus. Haters aren't welcome.... :-)

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michelecaples    224

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Also was she heavier than you? Maybe thats why its flying off faster, or maybe you had a healthier diet to begin with. Just because she has no troubles.now does.not mean no troubles ahead. Plus, she is prob only bragging because she is being bullied at home and needs an outlet. Worse case scenario, find a new job and leave her nasty ass in the dust

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worm2872    635

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Some people need smacked. Period. You have done amazingly well. I know it's hard but try to ignore her. This is a new life not a race and I know you know that. You will be way better off then her in the long run. Who brags about eating without puking. Gag.

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Vicki Loichinger    444

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Some people need smacked. Period. You have done amazingly well. I know it's hard but try to ignore her. This is a new life not a race and I know you know that. You will be way better off then her in the long run. Who brags about eating without puking. Gag.

seriously, you hit it heather. It does sound so HS or even junior high. Chin up girl you have more class in your little finger then she does in her whole body

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gurliepunk12543    111

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Ty everyone, ya today shes looking over what i am eating and asked if i want her handy down clothes

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michelecaples    224

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Ty everyone' date=' ya today shes looking over what i am eating and asked if i want her handy down clothes

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I think I would have to report her to management for harrassing you. The nerve!!!!!

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