A message about hurt feelings on another thread reminded me of one of those moments when a zinger hits you without warning. I thought that probably everyone has had one of those moments and venting it here may help remove some of the punch. After all, it's not the sort of stuff you can vent in normal conversation.

One of my moments happened when we were on a four hour hike through the mammoth cave in kentucky. At mid point through the cave the guide is supposed to tell interesting stories and facts about the cave. He asked if anyone had any questions, so since we were two hours hike in both directions from the exit, I asked what they would do if someone had a heart attack there in the cave. WELL, He said, "they would die. AND ma'm I don't want to hurt your feelings but obesity is the main cause for that." :embarassed: The group was about 120 people, all of whom became quiet and wanted to see what obese person had asked that question. I was mortified. I hadn't been feeling all that "fat" that day (you all know that "fat" is a feeling like sadness), and as I always notice whether or not I am the largest person in the room (that day I wasn't), I suddenly became so huge that any interest in the rest of the tour was impossible.

If you are ever in mammoth caves, avoid the skinny old man tour guide who brags about his 28 inch waist. He is a jerk.

reading this thread reminds of things that have been said to me. its great to have a place we can go to talk about these things!

this thread also reminds me of a movie i watched on monday its called "just friends" its a comedy about a boy that was overweight in high school and his best friend was a girl and he had a crush on her, he told her he liked her in her yearbook and it got into the hands of a jock and he humiliated the chubby guy in front of everyone, long story short he moved away lost all the weight, saw the girl again and she wants him! in my opinion he shoulda said.. um i dont think so.. but of course not! ya'll gotta see it, its actually really funny!

My big sister who is "normal size" introduced me to a lady that has been going to the gym where we go. (I hadn't been going lately because of a health issue with my hand) My sister said this is my little sister and that lady who is 5 foot nothing and well over 200 lbs had the audacity to look me up and down and then at my sister and said Yeah Right! I just looked at her and walked away. Then I teared up and my sister came over and I told her that was not pleasant introduction and she said we just have to ignore people like that. Well,I told her just give a few more months and I'll be a statuesque 5'10" very proud woman and she will still be overweight and rude! Why is it acceptable for people to say such hurtful things with no thought of it being rude?

Carla

The meanest things that have been said to me have been by ME!

I remember I had to make an appointment for a gall bladder ultrasound for a routine test. Anyway, I called my local hospital to set up the test; and when it came to giving my weight, it was "we can't do your test here, you are over the weight limit our table holds. You have to go to another hospital." They couldn't hold someone that was only FOUR POUNDS over the limit? :rolleyes What really chapped my behind was me wasting ten minutes on the phone only to be told I'd have to call somewhere else! Why didn't they tell me this stuff before wasting my time with the questions? Sheesh.

I no what you mean LoriPA, been there a few times. Your doing good and remember that! Good luck on the Arthritis Walk!