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I'm usually a pretty sexual person but after this operation I have no want or need to be sexual at all :( this is pretty sad for me and for my boyfriend... Do you think this feeling will revert back to the old me soon?!

Btw, I was sleeved on the 15th of July

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I'm usually a pretty sexual person but after this operation I have no want or need to be sexual at all :( this is pretty sad for me and for my boyfriend... Do you think this feeling will revert back to the old me soon?!

Btw' date=' I was sleeved on the 15th of July[/quote']

Woah, you're not even 10 days out from major life-changing abdominal surgery! It's not hard to see why sexy times aren't on the top of your priority list right now. For now focus on sipping and Protein, the rest will fall into place :)

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I actually feel similar but a bit different I do feel the need to be with my husband but I feel sooooo tired that is really hard for me to do it. He has notice and told me he want me to be the same as before surgery I am 10 weeks out. Will this feeling of being tire will ever go away. I love my husband but is just that tiredness

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I am feeling the same way, I am 2 months out today, and my sex drive has gone down the tube! I was super sexual before surgery, wanting to have sex every day if not more.... Now, the urge just isn't there. Makes me sad, any suggestions?

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This is so sad :(.. I'm so embarrassed to ask my doc what's happening... He is so handsome

There's gotta be something we could do... If anyone has good advise please give it!!!

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Okay, deep breaths ladies!! It is actually quite touching how this worry comes up, like clockwork, here on the forum every few weeks, with every batch of new sleevers (this month I'm 3 years out). Here's the deal:

Though invasive, lap band surgery is nowhere near as traumatic as VSG, and the weight loss is different. Your body is recovering from major surgery, you just lost 80% of one of your vital organs, it's going to take time. If you had just had your appendix removed, or gallbladder surgery, would you be humpin' it up within a week?

As for sex drive: once you have healed physically and the weight loss has begun in earnest, you will ABSOLUTELY see a change. A very funny, slightly alarming, change. :P As you begin to lose fat rapidly your body is flooded with all of the estrogen that was trapped in the fat cells, making you super super horny, a sexual T-Rex, a Sex Rex, if you will :). This usually happens around month 2 and you will be back here on the boards, posting about how you have become a sex maniac and you are draining the life fluids out of your SO and omg sex is SOMUCHFUN!! :)

That lasts for about 2 months on its own, but if you are instilling good exercise habits during that time, once you have lost a significant portion of your weight and have also become fit from all the exercise, you suddenly discover SKINNY SEX, and then there will be the phase of posts about that here :) All the positions you can suddenly do, the stamina you have, the sensations you receive because he can now go deeper than before, etc. etc.

So, in summation, this is all perfectly normal, there is nothing wrong with you, have some open dialogue with your SO, and above all, take tender care of yourself and give yourself time to heal.

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Okay' date=' deep breaths ladies!! It is actually quite touching how this worry comes up, like clockwork, here on the forum every few weeks, with every batch of new sleevers (this month I'm 3 years out). Here's the deal:

Though invasive, lap band surgery is nowhere near as traumatic as VSG, and the weight loss is different. Your body is recovering from major surgery, you just lost 80% of one of your vital organs, it's going to take time. [b']If you had just had your appendix removed, or gallbladder surgery, would you be humpin' it up within a week?[/b]

As for sex drive: once you have healed physically and the weight loss has begun in earnest, you will ABSOLUTELY see a change. A very funny, slightly alarming, change. :P As you begin to lose fat rapidly your body is flooded with all of the estrogen that was trapped in the fat cells, making you super super horny, a sexual T-Rex, a Sex Rex, if you will :). This usually happens around month 2 and you will be back here on the boards, posting about how you have become a sex maniac and you are draining the life fluids out of your SO and omg sex is SOMUCHFUN!! :)

That lasts for about 2 months on its own, but if you are instilling good exercise habits during that time, once you have lost a significant portion of your weight and have also become fit from all the exercise, you suddenly discover SKINNY SEX, and then there will be the phase of posts about that here :) All the positions you can suddenly do, the stamina you have, the sensations you receive because he can now go deeper than before, etc. etc.

So, in summation, this is all perfectly normal, there is nothing wrong with you, have some open dialogue with your SO, and above all, take tender care of yourself and give yourself time to heal.

This seriously made me laugh!! Thank you :)

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