Dr Visits- did you know there are no fat Pow?

[BellaHugz 331]

So I went to my Doctors to get an Xray of my foot, since I used to be a Xray tech I asked to view my film. I have a bone spur in my heal, no wonder it hurts to walk.

Then this Older Slender Nurse ask me why I am in here I tell her to get my foot look at and to get Doc's approval for VSG surgery. She give me this look.. Ya all know the look. Then she hits me with Well you know you can fix that. But I am not supposed to say anything but "Off the Record".. Wait for it... Remember I am in a gown and I can't leave, I am captive to hear what she says... She blurts Out "There are no FAT Pows. Really, I must have given her a look lady ya gotta be kidding me.

I almost hit the floor. Then she point to her mouth and says If ya dont put it in here, it cant come out here and she points to her bottom.

Ok, beem me up scotty before I "off the record, Kill someone!!"

I smile and walk out her Xray lab as fast as i can limp. Slowly i get release to go back to my Dr and get the referrals I need in order to check of the Pre-Op list of to do's.

Seriously, What would you have done?

[RJ'S/beginning 5,357]

Now....I would have said you don't know me or my history...And your opinion means nothing to me..Just do your job and I will look after myself....

Before the surgery I probably would have done the same thing you did....I put up with so much abuse over weight and with all my heart I wish I had retaliated...But then what good would it have done....It is a prejudice like all others..People make judgments fast mostly without thinking...She should know better but she is human.....

Now I don't take anything from anyone....I am doing this for me and trust me a lot of medical people are anti-weight surgery....So I just put what they say out of my head but first I tell them that they don't know me or my story or my history......

Don't take it too hard....Every one of us have had Dr/nurses before who think they have all the answers.....

[LipstickLady 25,682]

I would have told the doctor about the experience. Then, I would have followed up with a letter addressed to all the doctors in the practice exactly what was said to you and by whom. That witch should be fired. On the record.

[Kimbaru 10]

I would have given her my cold look and said, " Yes, I can see why you aren't supposed to say anything." I would have held my cold look in her eyes until she turned away.

[gaijingal 62]

On the record, I would have told her that "You know that you could lose your license for saying something so inappropriate and downright hurtful, and yet you couldn't stop yourself from saying it, so perhaps you understand my plight of knowing what's good for you, and not quite being able to achieve it. Perhaps if I, like you, had a big fat foot in my mouth all day, I'd be skinny, but, unfortunately, I am a decent human being, so I've had to look for other weight loss options."

And then let her worry for weeks that you were going to report her.

It's soooooooo easy to think of the right thing to say when you're not being actively flabbergasted at what a See You Next Tuesday a supposed "care giver" is being!

[SerendipityHappens 1,594]

I would have told her that perhaps there is a reason she's not to give "off record" advice is that it is so incredibly rude and unwelcome.. and that you'll be sure to let your doctor know that nurses in the hospital are dispensing medical advice that conflicts with his course of treatment.

[BellaHugz 331]

Thank you all so much, I wish I had those great come backs in my mind at the time. We all know the fat comments can be hurtful. I just cried on the way home floored someone would say such a thing.

[DayByDay 123]

So I went to my Doctors to get an Xray of my foot, since I used to be a Xray tech I asked to view my film. I have a bone spur in my heal, no wonder it hurts to walk.

Then this Older Slender Nurse ask me why I am in here I tell her to get my foot look at and to get Doc's approval for VSG surgery. She give me this look.. Ya all know the look. Then she hits me with Well you know you can fix that. But I am not supposed to say anything but "Off the Record".. Wait for it... Remember I am in a gown and I can't leave, I am captive to hear what she says... She blurts Out "There are no FAT Pows. Really, I must have given her a look lady ya gotta be kidding me.

I almost hit the floor. Then she point to her mouth and says If ya dont put it in here, it cant come out here and she points to her bottom.

Ok, beem me up scotty before I "off the record, Kill someone!!"

I smile and walk out her Xray lab as fast as i can limp. Slowly i get release to go back to my Dr and get the referrals I need in order to check of the Pre-Op list of to do's.

Seriously, What would you have done?

Don't you wish you had a super power to change skinny people who make those kind of remarks into fat people? I have so been there. Like walk a mile in my shoes. It's not that easy, if it was wouldn't everybody be skinny?

I think the only thing I could say to her was, "Thank you, I never knew that, I wish someone would have told me."

[BellaHugz 331]

DaybyDay, Why Yes yes i do wish I had super powers to change skinny people into fat if only for a few minutes to let them see how silly they are!

[Fixerupper 335]

Please report her. She knew what she was saying was inappropriate and did it anyway. She should be written up.

[lsereno 2,525]

I agree that she should be reported. You are not the only person she has done that to. I wouldn't have said much to her F2F. Everyone has a right to their opinion, but it a medical setting, it is not her right to express personal opinions.

Lynda

[Ahealthyme2013 39]

Report her in writing to the Dr. and the tactics or hospital she works for. It was rude, inappropriate and unsolicited!

[Ahealthyme2013 39]

*The practice..

[girliegirl 49]

okay...so what is she saying? Is she basically telling you to keep your mouth shut and dont eat then you would lose weight? i cant understand how people can be so hurtful, but of course this comes from a skinny person, a person who probally has no clue what its like to even have to lose 20 lbs. its not easy!! try not to let her get to you. i am like you and id probally cry the entire ride home too, because im sure you are experiencing so many mixed emotions. i always think of better stuff to say afterwards too. i hate that!! lol

[BellaHugz 331]

Thank you all for understanding, it is real easy for those who are smaller and have never had to fight for each pound they lose to throw judgement towards anyone bigger then them. Yes, Girliegirl, i did cry as soon as I got into my car. But then my favorite song came on, What doesnt kill ya makes you stronger. So I sang at the top of my lungs! (with the windows closed of course)