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thank you sweet girl, I really do appreciate the advice. I am a "everything happens for a reason" type person but I guess being that close and on liquids for a few days was beyond disappointing. I rearranged my life around June 25th as most of us have. I just want it done and over with and now I have to wait another month because of work conflicts, the waiting is the WORST! Summer is just beginning and I don't want any part of it! blah! thank you all so much for your kind words :)

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I am so sorry about your situation, but this is just a bump in the road. I had my sleeve on June 19th and I have had 2 c-sections, the first not scheduled, the second scheduled. So, regarding the pain, it is similar to a c-section. Except the pain is not under your belly but on your side. To give you some prespective, one of my friends was also going for the sleeve but learned last week that she had stage 2 breast cancer. She is now fighting that first and then will re-visit the sleeve in about a year. I hope this helps you move forward with your brave journey for a healthy life. Don't let a bump in the road de-rail you. Good luck with everything.

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Thank you honey, and god bless your friend, I pray everything works out for her as well..Cancer is a disgusting disease! :(

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Thinking that everything is a sign right before surgery is so totally natural. Been there - done that... and SO happy that I went through with it.

1. How do you train your brain to stop shoveling it in after surgery?

I didn't struggle with this like a lot of people do, because I didn't have a food addiction. If you have a food addition, that is something to start working on pre-surgery because surgery will do nothing to change that. If you're an emotional eater, find how you're going to deal with emotions before surgery. I feel full on 2 oz of food and that is enough for me to stop shoveling it in. Feeling full on so little is such a blessing.

2. I had a C-section and it wasn't that horrible, is the pain similar ?

There are a lot of differences when it comes to this. My gas pain was horrendous. I have a daunting account of it on my YouTube channel 3 days after surgery when I decided to talk about it. It was way worse than I thought it would be - but everyone is different - you may feel nothing!

3. Can you describe to me what you consume in a day?

Breakfast - shake

lunch - tuna salad (sometimes with Protein chips)

dinner - chicken with cheese

"The WLS 4th meal" (as I call it) - ground turkey with cheese

Snacks - turkey Jerky

liquid calories - half a bottle of Isopure, cup of milk

I eat 4 meals a day because I need to in order to get my Protein in and I also tend to get a headache if I don't eat something in a 4(ish) hour time span. A lot of us eat 4-5 meal per day. If you're interested in looking through daily meals, you can find me on MyFitnessPal. My food journal is public. http://www.myfitness...iary/mhomchenko

Make sure you are fully educated before you go for surgery - but that being said - doubts before surgery are so natural. When I look back at videos I made before surgery on my Vlog I wonder why I worried about those things. Now they seem so silly!

My surgery got put off 3 times - it felt like it was never going to happen - but I'm so glad that I kept pursuing it!

Hope this helps!

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Thinking that everything is a sign right before surgery is so totally natural. Been there - done that... and SO happy that I went through with it.

1. How do you train your brain to stop shoveling it in after surgery?

I didn't struggle with this like a lot of people do' date=' because I didn't have a food addiction. If you have a food addition, that is something to start working on pre-surgery because surgery will do nothing to change that. If you're an emotional eater, find how you're going to deal with emotions before surgery. I feel full on 2 oz of food and that is enough for me to stop shoveling it in. Feeling full on so little is such a blessing.

Hope this helps![/quote']

I tried to tell people I didn't have a food addiction and for me it was genetic and low metabilism and I was told that was not possible.. I hope you do not get treated like that too.

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I tried to tell people I didn't have a food addiction and for me it was genetic and low metabilism and I was told that was not possible.. I hope you do not get treated like that too.

I'm sorry you get that! Not many people know about my surgery and I moved across the country 3 weeks after my surgery so my loss and all the questions and comments that go along with it have kind of gone unnoticed. It's hard to get comments like that from people who can't possibly know the answer. Keep your head up - we're on this journey for us!

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I'm sorry you get that! Not many people know about my surgery and I moved across the country 3 weeks after my surgery so my loss and all the questions and comments that go along with it have kind of gone unnoticed. It's hard to get comments like that from people who can't possibly know the answer. Keep your head up - we're on this journey for us!

I get it from people on this site

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Interesting. I'm new to this site - when we had this discussion on YouTube there seemed to be a pretty good split on those who thought they did/didn't have a food addiction. Not more on one side or the other.

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I get it from people on this site

Been there too! Was told on this site that I had an eating disorder for legitimate hunger. As if the therapist at my surgeon's office couldn't possibly know better than them (my surgeon would never sleeve a person with an untreated eating disorder). Too many people on this board assume we all get to this point for the same reasons , but obesity is a disease with a multitude of causes. Period. Don't let them bully you honey.

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thank you ladies! you guys Rock! seriously!!! have a fantastic day ..lots of love to you all :)

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