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My husband needs a site like this but for spouses. Those who didn't have surgery, but need to learn how to live with someone who has. My surgery date is coming quickly and it's for sure he needs a group for support as much as I need you all! Thanks!

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Hi, my wife went through VSG in August 2012. It has been life changing! She is down over 100 lbs. So I know what it is like to be the spouse. I am also prepping for my VSG on June 14th so I know what you are going through as well.

I do not know of any spouse's support group however, I did find our surgeon's monthly support group meetings useful, both as the spouse and the patient.

Good luck.

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For boyfriends as well...my boyfriend asked me could he log in to my page & tell everybody how he feels...lol I told him this is not the place to complain about ur insecurities & fears, those ppl will eat u alive if you say u dont want me to have the surgery so YOU can be comfortable...he said he will make his own site then...lol poor baby

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My hubby DID NOT... I repeat DID NOT want me to have surgery... He has went through many emotional changes with me... We're doing well though. He's not as bad as I thought he was gonna be lol!

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I can totally understand the need for a place where spouses can talk, question and vent their fears and frustrations--but if it were an unlocked thread in this forum, it would exist for about 2.4 seconds before it imploded, I think.

We'd have people arguing pretty darn strongly on both sides of the issue, things would spiral out of control, and the banhammer would wear out.

If there were a way to keep everyone separated so the spouses/significant others wouldn't worry about having their threads seen by sleevers, then maybe it would work.

...Maybe.

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My husband didn't want me to have the surgery until he educated himself on it. He works for BCBS so he did all the inquiries on it & found it to be a safe surgery & certainly safer than me staying at this body weight. So after he was educated, he not only approved but he's my biggest supporter! I don't know if I could go thru something this drastic without his blessings. I really don't. Especially since he's only one of 3 I've told! :wacko:

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For my insurance I have had to do 6 months worth of classes doctor visits and support groups..my hubby has gone to every single thing with me and asks I think more questions than anyone else lol it has been great having his support, he doesn't have any weight or food issues but he has changed his eating habits, uses MFP to log all his food and encourages me whenever I need it.

Keep your spouse involved as much as possible since it is part of his life to that is going to change even though its your journey

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My husband needs a site like this but for spouses. Those who didn't have surgery, but need to learn how to live with someone who has. My surgery date is coming quickly and it's for sure he needs a group for support as much as I need you all! Thanks!

That's a brilliant idea!!

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I think I may start one...or rather have him start one. He's currently in The Middle East, but should be home soon. Then I'll remind him to start the forum. I'll post a link on here when the site is up...I'll also post it on FB.

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It's a great idea! My husband has been incredibly supportive and my biggest cheer leader! I'm so blessed to have him!

pre-surgery weight 325; surgery date 2/28/2013; surgery weight 307; 8 weeks past-op weight 281.4; 12 weeks post-op 274

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My husband has been awesome through my whole journey so far !!!!!!! !I do love and appreciate him everyday..... he is just a pain in the butt in other waysss!! LOL :P

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My husband needs a site like this but for spouses. Those who didn't have surgery' date=' but need to learn how to live with someone who has. My surgery date is coming quickly and it's for sure he needs a group for support as much as I need you all! Thanks![/quote']

I agree!!!!! My husband try's but gets frustrated at times with the whole not knowing what to think , say or expect. Hoping to be a June sleever.

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I've added a new forum called: "Fan Forum: for WLS Family and Friends!" Not sure I'm in love with the forum name. I'm open to other suggestions.

This new forum is specifically for spouses, other family members, and close friends of weight loss surgery patients. Unconditional love and support get WLS patients through their journeys, and close family and friends are the main sources for many WLS patients.

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