So my aunt is turning 36. She is obese but also has a lot of health issues. She had a blood clot in her leg a while back and her legs swell up SO bad all the time like she can't wear regular boots that cover her calf she has to cut the backs.. I'm super worried I'm going to lose her cause she can only do yoga for like 15 mins...I think surgery would be great for her but she thinks surgery is a last resort for anyone

I mean doesn't she care to be able to do things with her 8 year old son? Isn't she sick of only being able to do so little I mean when I'm there I have to do all the lifting and I'm fat too lol..it just sucks cause she is the only positive/motherly family member I have. I look up to her..without her I would be lost and it sucks to see her in such horrible shape..I hope she chooses to do something before its too late. I wish I could tell her but I know she feels bad about her weight every time shoes don't fit her or when she can't find cute things in her size..I don't want to make her feel any worse and I already know where she stands on surgery when I told her I was looking into it...maybe if I do it and show her how great this tool is she will come around ..idk I'm just venting..

You know the old saying - you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. I used to have a boss with the same issue. He weighs maybe 330 and went to a bariatric surgeon to check into it. Obviously he qualified and he had the money to pay his copay. But he never followed through. To this day he is still 330 or more and he thinks he is doing ok. It wasn't the surgery he was avoiding - it was spending the money. All the talking in the world cannot get this guy to do what he needs to do.

Hopefully your aunt will see the light but if she doesn't all you can really do is love her as is and pray that she sees the light one day.

You know the old saying - you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. I used to have a boss with the same issue. He weighs maybe 330 and went to a bariatric surgeon to check into it. Obviously he qualified and he had the money to pay his copay. But he never followed through. To this day he is still 330 or more and he thinks he is doing ok. It wasn't the surgery he was avoiding - it was spending the money. All the talking in the world cannot get this guy to do what he needs to do.

Hopefully your aunt will see the light but if she doesn't all you can really do is love her as is and pray that she sees the light one day.

she works for Symantec and gets Cigna insurance so I hear they are a pain in the ass but they cover at least some of it. It just sucks to watch this I love her to pieces and don't want anything bad to happen and if she continues down this road something will

Cigna is a pain - but they covered mine 100%. They just make you jump through some hoops first. Definitely makes sure you're ready, and that you are committed to following through. I used to feel that way - that I could do it without surgery, that surgery was the "easy way out", and on and on and on. Finally after trying every diet there was, busting my butt working out, eating right (albeit too much), and not seeing the scale move, I finally decided I needed help. I am 37, and I didn't want to spend the rest of my life like this. I don't have any major health issues (diabetes, HBP, etc.) but I knew I was headed down that road if something didn't change. As previous posters have said, you can't make someone make a huge decision like this. The best you can do is be a good example - and maybe once she sees how much happier and healthier you are, she will change her mind. I'll keep you all in my prayers.

Cigna is a pain - but they covered mine 100%. They just make you jump through some hoops first. Definitely makes sure you're ready, and that you are committed to following through. I used to feel that way - that I could do it without surgery, that surgery was the "easy way out", and on and on and on. Finally after trying every diet there was, busting my butt working out, eating right (albeit too much), and not seeing the scale move, I finally decided I needed help. I am 37, and I didn't want to spend the rest of my life like this. I don't have any major health issues (diabetes, HBP, etc.) but I knew I was headed down that road if something didn't change. As previous posters have said, you can't make someone make a huge decision like this. The best you can do is be a good example - and maybe once she sees how much happier and healthier you are, she will change her mind. I'll keep you all in my prayers.

i am hoping to be a good example thanks!