You lose 20 pounds post surgery and no one notices. Sigh....

The 20 pounds mean a lot to me and I am really happy about the loss. It has been three weeks. i can see and feel a difference, but I have to admit I am a bit bummed that no one else has noticed.

I think it's the perfect time of year for this. Think of all the poofy sweater, jackets ect. You're shedding all this weight. Come summer when you are able to wear form fitting clothes everyone's gonna be floored!

I really don't want anyone saying too much till I'm done. If they notice then I think we'll I'm ok at this weight and stop. I guess I'm weird. Lol

Mrs Gina I feel the exact same way! I've lost weight before and when the compliments flowed in, it's was determinal because I stopped putting out the effort!

Im the opposite i cant really see it myself but everyone aroubd me seems to notice and comment.. Even ppl that havent seen me in a wjile and last time they saw me i was probably skinnier or less fat than i am right now... It makes me wonder how bad i actually looked and how fat ppl thpught i was... I saw a friend today that laat time i saw her i weighed exactly the same and yet she said i look sooo good.. I think just knowingg about the surgery influences ppl to say something even if i look exactly the same as i did last time they saw me

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Im the opposite i cant really see it myself but everyone aroubd me seems to notice and comment.. Even ppl that havent seen me in a wjile and last time they saw me i was probably skinnier or less fat than i am right now... It makes me wonder how bad i actually looked and how fat ppl thpught i was... I saw a friend today that laat time i saw her i weighed exactly the same and yet she said i look sooo good.. I think just knowingg about the surgery influences ppl to say something even if i look exactly the same as i did last time they saw me

Sorry for the typos.. My ipad isnt collaborating with me today

I really don't want anyone saying too much till I'm done. If they notice then I think we'll I'm ok at this weight and stop. I guess I'm weird. Lol

That's precisely what happened to me on all those other weight loss attempts. This time it's different because I know I'm going to keep losing. Now, when I get a compliment, in the back of my mind I'm thinking: "You ain't seen nuthin' yet!" :-)

People are funny. I saw a friend who I hadn't seen since prior to the surgery (so now four months) last weekend. He was funny...he said, "Do you have new glasses? Different Hair? Somethings different!" I laughed and said, "I've dropped 40 plus pounds" I got the same thing from a bar tender a few weeks earlier Sometimes people don't know what to say. For me, 40lbs is more than half the weight I was going to lose so it's significant and it shows. It makes me laugh.

Funny that you say this Iggy. I walk my dogs around a lake everyday and often encounter my neighbours. One day an elderly neighbour I had stopped to talk to started to look quizzically at me and said, " Did you change your hair, did you change the color"? She couldn't figure out what was different. I didn't tell her that I had lost 55 pounds!!

Sometimes it's difficult for others to see our weight loss because our 20-50 lbs is like 5-10 on normal sized people. We are bigger people so it is only natuaral for us to lose larger amounts before it is noticed. You'll keep losing and others will notice, but don't focus on what others see, just focus on your journey. Good luck.

McKate, let me tell you something interesting. Oh they notice alright, but this is where the jealousy and lothing comes in. This is where you find out whose your friend and whose not. . . don't worry, keep your head up. . .keep on shakin' your stuff, they notice alright. . . .

My sister recently lost a great deal of weight. She went from 220 down to 155. She said nobody at her work even noticed until she lost 30 pounds! Whaaaaaa? I noticed after she lost her first 10!

I'm thinking that on me nobody will notice until I get under 250 :-(

I think it is a really touchy subject. I know even for myself, I am always worried to say something if someone hasn't been publicly open about it. I am always worried I am going to offend them, almost like I am saying "you needed to lose weight". And I am coming from a point where I know how good it feels to get compliments, and I am still scared!