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Hey everyone

I am definitely still far far away from my goal but i am just wondering whether there is anyone who feel cant be bothered to go on a date after the surgery? I know its a very silly question to be asked but after since i have my surgery and have been losing weight, i have not really adapt to my new body. Simply put i just feel still much going on with me to the point i cant be bothered to focus on anything else.

My doctor only tell me about the benefit / risk of the surgery, but no one explain to me about the psychological effect from losing massive smount of weight and adjusting to new body ( especially for me who have been fat since i was a kid haha).

Sorry again for the stupid question .. AnywAy thanks for reading it and all the best for all of u!

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It kinda makes me nervous too...I broke up with someone about a month before surgery...He said he was scared and didnt want to lose me, not because of the surgery, but because I was/will lost/loose alot of weight (I lost 41lbs pre-op)...Ugh. No signs of getting back together...My mother, being super supportive, said that there is a different type of man out there from the ones that I have dated in the past. I always felt that I had to have something extra to hide my weight. We will be in a totally different game...I do feel that eventually I will be too bothered to go on a date, because I'll too many offers of course, lol B) but really its alot for someone to take in and I really just want to concentrate on myself for a while til I am comfortable with my body.

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I had surgery 9/19. Close to six weeks post op..lost 39 lbs incl pre op diet. I worry about meeting someone in the future and having loose skin and being embarrassed to become intimate. I don't know how I will look when the weight really starts to drop but I am a bit worried about that.

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I had surgery 9/19. Close to six weeks post op..lost 39 lbs incl pre op diet. I worry about meeting someone in the future and having loose skin and being embarrassed to become intimate. I don't know how I will look when the weight really starts to drop but I am a bit worried about that.

I feel the same way! I also don't know how to tell someone new about my surgery and what not

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I agree with you! It can be such a private matter (it is for me at least) that sharing that with someone is out of my comfort zone. To be honest, my children and family/friends don't know. Only 3 people in my circle are aware.

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I had surgery 9/19. Close to six weeks post op..lost 39 lbs incl pre op diet. I worry about meeting someone in the future and having loose skin and being embarrassed to become intimate. I don't know how I will look when the weight really starts to drop but I am a bit worried about that.

Ok....here are my thoughts on this. It's quite simple, but its true!

Once you are naked....the significant other is just glad you ARE naked. :)

Now, in saying that, I will be sure to do my part and get some cardio and weight training in to minimize the skin! Lol

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I love this topic! I met the love of my life 1 year ago Exacty. I was about 3 months post op when we went on our 1st date, and still 200+ pounds he definately was aware of my tiny appetite. He has been supportive and open to all my surgery and body issues. I feel like its the first time I have had a relationship where I wasn't settling! What I am getting at is: it is so much easier to attract a great person when you love yourself.

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That is wonderful that you are so happy!! I think you are right about loving yourself first and of course the confidence! I've settled in the past too many times, and I think as the weight drops further, confidence will follow. I'm released this Sunday to return to the gym too so that will help with loose skin concerns.

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