Hey everyone

I am definitely still far far away from my goal but i am just wondering whether there is anyone who feel cant be bothered to go on a date after the surgery? I know its a very silly question to be asked but after since i have my surgery and have been losing weight, i have not really adapt to my new body. Simply put i just feel still much going on with me to the point i cant be bothered to focus on anything else.

My doctor only tell me about the benefit / risk of the surgery, but no one explain to me about the psychological effect from losing massive smount of weight and adjusting to new body ( especially for me who have been fat since i was a kid haha).

Sorry again for the stupid question .. AnywAy thanks for reading it and all the best for all of u!

It kinda makes me nervous too...I broke up with someone about a month before surgery...He said he was scared and didnt want to lose me, not because of the surgery, but because I was/will lost/loose alot of weight (I lost 41lbs pre-op)...Ugh. No signs of getting back together...My mother, being super supportive, said that there is a different type of man out there from the ones that I have dated in the past. I always felt that I had to have something extra to hide my weight. We will be in a totally different game...I do feel that eventually I will be too bothered to go on a date, because I'll too many offers of course, lol but really its alot for someone to take in and I really just want to concentrate on myself for a while til I am comfortable with my body.

I had surgery 9/19. Close to six weeks post op..lost 39 lbs incl pre op diet. I worry about meeting someone in the future and having loose skin and being embarrassed to become intimate. I don't know how I will look when the weight really starts to drop but I am a bit worried about that.

I had surgery 9/19. Close to six weeks post op..lost 39 lbs incl pre op diet. I worry about meeting someone in the future and having loose skin and being embarrassed to become intimate. I don't know how I will look when the weight really starts to drop but I am a bit worried about that.

I feel the same way! I also don't know how to tell someone new about my surgery and what not

I agree with you! It can be such a private matter (it is for me at least) that sharing that with someone is out of my comfort zone. To be honest, my children and family/friends don't know. Only 3 people in my circle are aware.

I had surgery 9/19. Close to six weeks post op..lost 39 lbs incl pre op diet. I worry about meeting someone in the future and having loose skin and being embarrassed to become intimate. I don't know how I will look when the weight really starts to drop but I am a bit worried about that.

Ok....here are my thoughts on this. It's quite simple, but its true!

Once you are naked....the significant other is just glad you ARE naked.

Now, in saying that, I will be sure to do my part and get some cardio and weight training in to minimize the skin! Lol

I love this topic! I met the love of my life 1 year ago Exacty. I was about 3 months post op when we went on our 1st date, and still 200+ pounds he definately was aware of my tiny appetite. He has been supportive and open to all my surgery and body issues. I feel like its the first time I have had a relationship where I wasn't settling! What I am getting at is: it is so much easier to attract a great person when you love yourself.

That is wonderful that you are so happy!! I think you are right about loving yourself first and of course the confidence! I've settled in the past too many times, and I think as the weight drops further, confidence will follow. I'm released this Sunday to return to the gym too so that will help with loose skin concerns.