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I have been very open with the fact I was having the wls but, now every time I see or talk to anyone within the first 5 minutes I get " the question" how much have you lost. It's very annoying just don't see why they can't say hey you look great and leave it.

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I’m pre-surgery and already thinking of a nice way to say thank you and I appreciate your support - I KNOW folks are going to ask me and I KNOW it’s going to take everything in my power to NOT ask them an equally personal question - such as - “So when was your last bowel movement - describe for me the shape, color, consistency - smell?"

see i’m a smart ass and it’s really going to take allot to NOT ask that question to them when they ask me HOW MUCH.

xoxo

sit next to me - i say what y’all are thinking and i say it out loud

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Oh that one gets followed up with a question about something equally private - that one drives me NUTS and it comes out of peoples mouths so smoothly...

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Peoples is peoples. No is buildings. Is tomatoes, huh? Is peoples, is dancing, is music, is potatoes. So, peoples is peoples. Okay?

Pete from Muppets Take Manhattan

I think people like to keep track of changes and may be sharing your progress in a nice way, like checking their cell phone to find the score at an important football game . I am not put off when people ask that but I understand that not everyone is like me.

Peoples is peoples.

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I hate saying this - but maybe it’s a man or woman thing - I don’t see many men offended about their age or weight - we as women are conditioned -- just look at tv.

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I had that--replied with, "I am not focused on what the scale says, but I feel great. Thanks for asking." People seemed to get the message and quit asking.

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I had that--replied with, "I am not focused on what the scale says, but I feel great. Thanks for asking." People seemed to get the message and quit asking.

I love this and will use this for the rest of my life. What a great comment.

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I usually just say, I'm not sure or that's private information that I'd rather not share. It's no one's business.

When I'm asked how much I've lost, I just say 'about xxx'. I don't give actual amounts.

I haven't had my WLS yet but will be - these are examples of when I lost ~45 lbs when I took another journey via a fork in the road.

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When people ask how much I have lost I just tell them I don't weigh myself between doctor appointments so I don't know.

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Yeah, it's very annoying. I really like the "I'm not focusing on the scale" reply. I'll have to try and remember that.

I totally get feeling like a science experiment though. I kinda regret telling one coworker because she watches what/how I eat *very closely*. We recently went to lunch and she was so busy staring at me that she hardly ate her own food. :blink:

I'm already self conscious, trying to make sure I'm not eating too fast, chewing each bite 1,000 times, not taking a sip of Water, etc etc and it's annoying as hell! LOL

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