What Changed After Your Weight Loss Surgery Relationships, Friendships,confidence, Etc

[sexy_sleevegirl 101]

MY SIS HAD SURGERY LAST YEAR AND MINES IS IN 6 DAYS A LOT CHANGED FOR HER LIKE ATTENTION FROM MEN NEW GROUP OF FRIENDS AN ACTUAL RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN THAT HAS BEEN GOING STEADY BEING INVITED TO NUMEROUS PARTIES AND NIGHTS ON THE TOWN WOW IS BEING OVERWEIGHT THAT DAMN BAD THAT THE WORLD SHUTS U OUT!!!!

[NCsleever63 53]

I think it has more to do with the confidence someone has after the surgery vs before. Being overweight, I know that I didnt feel comfortable in my own skin, so I bascially cut myself off from the outside world. I quit going everywhere I was invited. Now that I am down 30, I feel so much better about me and it shows. So maybe that is what your sister has experienced and so will you. Good luck with your surgery, I wish you all the best.

[7carol3 212]

I totally agree NCsleever63! But I do think that people do treat over weight individuals differently.

I can't think of a single thing in my life that hasn't changed, at least a little bit, since I had WLS. I've changed and therefore I am changing the things around me. Nothing drastic so far, other than I have the energy for a puppy now so our family has a new member (since I can no longer have babies, probably a good thing). I'm still with my husband of 21 years but he eats much healthier, as do my kids. Family members come to our house for the YUMMY healthy treats that I make (that no one thought were healthy the first time they tried them). I am much more out going. Funny enough though, now that I don't drink and I am ALWAYS the DD for my friends I get invited out a lot more. I've noticed though that I got hit on (yes even though I've always been married and wore a ring) a lot more when I was heavy than I do now. Ah well, I'm comfortable now...except when I'm naked but I wasn't comfortable naked when I was heavy so I guess that hasn't changed. There, that is one thing that hasn't changed.

Ok, done rambling now...

[MoreganK 164]

My confidence for sure! And then my mood... I'm happier more often now than before and I think that those two things together has attrached people to me. Folks in my office who never smiled and told me hi now stop me in the hall to chat, and I've been at the same office for over 5 years.

I think I must come off as more approach able because I seem so happy and open, instead of frowny and dodgey.

[HalfTheWoman 107]

I have always been the friendly, life of the party, kind of person....(jolly fat lady) I got invited but I didn't go. I didn't go to my 30 year class reunion because I didn't want to be the fattest person there. When I went to our 20th...a girl who was very overweight...made a statement in front of my whole class about how much weight I had gained. I was a cheerleader in high school and very thin! After 3 kids and mulitple stomach surgeries...I gain a lot of weight. After that I never wanted to go to any group events. I sing and always get invited to sing at different churches and events but I got where I didn't want to because I didn't want anyone to talk about the fat lady singing.

I still shy away from these things but I believe as I get closer to my goal I will get more comfortable. We are going to my first work function in years this month and I can actually get into some reg size clothes! Praise the Lord!!!!

[MoreganK 164]

Oh, and I should add that my relationship to my boyfriend got better because I started being me again. Happy go lucky, outgoing, silly, and funny.

This is a good question, by the way, its really made me step back and think about what has changed and how.

[sexy_sleevegirl 101]

im so glad people responded i do know that there is a difference i have seen when your the fat girl in the group and when u become the skinny girl its like wow alot of women who have lost weight without surgery and with surgery notice the difference but i agree sometimes your weight will determine your mood your attitude your life period especially when all your friends are a reasonable size which is my situation i have great friends who never judge me and always want to hang and treat me equal but when we get dressed i notice like wow then once we get somewhere i really notice when everybody is getting asked to dance but me but that's okay i will admit after a couple times of being a wall flower i stopped going out

[Catracks 865]

EVERYTHING! I have so much energy that I'm practically running in circles. I drag my husband on hikes -- after work. I'm confident instead of timid. I even sing better if that makes any sense (I'm in a church choir).

It's all about confidence and when I was obese, I just wanted to hide all the time and do nothing. It's no way to live.

What MoreganK said about being ME again was right on the nose. My husband and I are SO much closer. He always loved me no matter what size. i treasure that about him, but he had to put up with an unhappy person.

[gaye jarvis 751]

I have had nothing but positive reactions, everyone is amazed at how fast this surgery works. The biggest thing that changed in my life is I can't get enough loving from my husband of 32 years, before I lost 75 lbs in 3 months with this surgery I would not hardly let him touch me because I was so ashamed of how big I had let myself get, but boy oh boy now it's a different story, and we are both enjoying the benefits of WLS!

[7carol3 212]

I have had nothing but positive reactions, everyone is amazed at how fast this surgery works. The biggest thing that changed in my life is I can't get enough loving from my husband of 32 years, before I lost 75 lbs in 3 months with this surgery I would not hardly let him touch me because I was so ashamed of how big I had let myself get, but boy oh boy now it's a different story, and we are both enjoying the benefits of WLS!

I have seen so many people talking on different threads here about renewed sex lives. Love it! Lovin' all of the LOVIN' going on!!