Feeling Frustrated And Depressed

[milkD 37]

I can't believe I'm making one of these threads after reading the forums for weeks before my surgery and knowing what to expect. I learned about the 3-week stall and sure enough when 3 weeks rolled around my weight loss stopped. The first week I took it in stride but now it's 6 weeks and I'm still not losing.

I've only lost 23lbs since the day of my surgery and while that isn't a horrible number it's not a good number for me. 20 of those where in the first 2 weeks. The last 3 were lost in the next 3-4 weeks. Losing 1-2lbs a week is great.... but NOT when you're in month 2 post-op. These are horrible numbers and I didn't start out on the lower end, so no I don't believe I should be losing this slow. I'm only 5'3 and small framed with 100lbs to go, deep down I know I'm failing.

It's so hard seeing others post they lost 60 pounds in 4 months for example when I now know I will never reach this. I'm very frustrated that I'm wasting the most optimal weight loss time. My doctor told me the first 6 months is when you lose the most and should take advantage and exercise as much as you can. Here I am at 2.5 months and still not able to get over this stall.

And because you will ask, yes I've been exercising as much as I can, lately everyday. I believe I eat right. Yesterday was:

710 calories

68 Protein

30 carbs (-5 Fiber carbs)

33 fat

5 glasses of Water

429 calories burned exercising = 281 net calories

Wednesday:

602 calories

73 protein

21 fat

29 carbs (-6 fiber carbs)

5 glasses water

684 calories burned exercising = -82 net calories

The only thing I'm low on is water (but since some of my food is liquid I do hit the minimum).

Adding more exercise hasn't broken the stall. I was at around 500-600 calories and upped it to around 700 and that hasn't broken it. I'm not sure what else to do except going back to full liquids. I dread that because it felt like a diet and I was miserable. I had days where I broke down and cried I hated that phase so much. I want to feel like I'm living life not living on a diet.

Thanks

[tjloser 62]

It sounds like you are really frustrated, but I think that you need to relax and enjoy the journey. You sound like you are doing all that you are supposed to so you have to let your body do what it do. Some people, when they have a lot of weight to lose will lose a lot at one time, but on a smaller frame it won't come off that fast. Some are just slow losers and that's not bad as your body has time to catch up with what you are losing and you won't have as much hanging skin. You can't compare yourself to anyone else because you are you and different and will lose differently than someone else. I haven't dropped a significant amount of weight but I am surely happy with what I have lost because I know that I would have struggled to lose these 30 #'s and then struggled to keep them off. So now I know they are not coming back. Try not to stress so much and enjoy your sleeve and relearn how we need to eat for life and the #'s will come off. And good job on the 47 you have lost:)

[diedie 64]

This may sound crazy but try upping the calories a bit more. I stall horribly when i eat less than 900 .

[Tryan 20]

Are you doing weight training? Muscle weighs more than fat. Have you taken your measurements, are your clothes fitting better? I just ask cause maybe you're gaining muscle and that makes you seem like you're not losing weight. I don't know, I'm just trying to think postive cause, I also feel like I'm at a stall. I lost 22 lbs so far (surgery date 8/9/12) but most of that was in the first two weeks. This last week and half it's been like 2 lbs. I don't know what to do either.

[milkD 37]

Are you doing weight training? Muscle weighs more than fat. Have you taken your measurements, are your clothes fitting better? I just ask cause maybe you're gaining muscle and that makes you seem like you're not losing weight. I don't know, I'm just trying to think postive cause, I also feel like I'm at a stall. I lost 22 lbs so far (surgery date 8/9/12) but most of that was in the first two weeks. This last week and half it's been like 2 lbs. I don't know what to do either.

I have done a bit of weight training but you're right, not enough. I've been doing swimming and my muscles always feel sore so I hope that is helping. My clothes felt looser but that was from the initial 20lb loss, it's felt the same since then.

Hopefully your stall will end soon too!

I will try to get to 800 calories at least and see what that does. It's not easy gettting there... I'm still a 2-4oz eater, 6x a day.

[SheShe1976 1]

I was sleeved 8-9 as well and I noticed that I had actually gained a few lbs back. That freaked me out to no end,as you can imagine. I upped my Water intake and I also split what I was eating into much smaller meals, so instead of three meals and two Snacks its more like six 1 to 2 ounce high protien Snacks. It seems to work for me and Im starting to lose again. I do feel like I am eating all the time though but Im just trying to listen to my body and stay on track. I am also starting to get back into a regular workout schedule and I know thats going to effect weight loss as well.

I did notice that although the pounds may not be flying off right now, my body shape is definately changing and from what Ive read this is really common. You might want to start tracking your measurements or maybe try on some clothes that were previously too small. That is a great way to get NSV and keep you motivated. As long as your doing what your Dr and Nut says you will lose weight. The hardest thing for me is not being obsesive about weighing myself and also not comparing myself to anyone else.

My husband was sleeved 6-9 last year and I know it DOES work. He has lost 140 so far and he feels great so that also keeps me motivated that the weight will come off.

[Izuri 428]

I had a three week stall at week three that I just finally have come out of. I tried changing around everything, increasing Protein, walking, Water, decreasing carbs. Nothing helped. I have no clue what eventually knocked me off the stall, but I do know one thing - it sucked! I can't imagine how you're feeling six weeks into one.

My clothes don't feel a whole lot different, but I was slowly losing an inch here and there, so if you're not measuring, maybe that'd help you keep going? I know you already acknowledged the low Water, but that would be one thing to add. When you work out it can be really important to replace water.

Hmmmm...Have you tried switching up the type of workout you do? I know other times I've reached plateaus in diets I was able to get over the plateau by exercising at a different time of day, for example, moving it to early morning to get my metabolism up. Or changing which workout I was doing so that I wasn't stuck in the same thing every day. On that same token, are you eating the same types of foods every day? That's another thing that will throw me into a plateau. My brother is a creature of habit and has the exact same lunch every day. If I do that, I will stay put at the exact same weight. My body likes it when things are consistent and will try its very best to keep them there.

Are you getting in enough Fiber? That might help keep your digestive system moving. I'm not sure if it will help the scale, but it would be a healthy thing to have in your diet. I'm not sure what else, but you will get through this! If you are doing the right things your body will eventually have to give up and let the scale move. For the mean time, maybe put the scale away (I know this is so ridiculously hard to do, maybe you'll be better at it than I was!), set some fitness goals instead of scale goals, and measure. You can still be successful even when the scale isn't moving.

[DEZ1975 170]

Hang in there! I was told to expect an average of 1-3 lbs a week with the sleeve. You're exactly there!!

[grannyk 58]

Your net calories are extremely low. Your body is in starvation mode trying to hold on to everything it can to exist. Give it a break. It has just gone through a huge transition. If you are going to use that many calories exercising, you need to up your caloric intake. Do a little research to learn how your body uses food and also on nutrition. You are setting yourself up for problems in the future. Please understand, this is life long journey, and don't compare your situation to anyone else's. Good luck...K

[milkD 37]

I had a three week stall at week three that I just finally have come out of. I tried changing around everything, increasing Protein, walking, Water, decreasing carbs. Nothing helped. I have no clue what eventually knocked me off the stall, but I do know one thing - it sucked! I can't imagine how you're feeling six weeks into one.

My clothes don't feel a whole lot different, but I was slowly losing an inch here and there, so if you're not measuring, maybe that'd help you keep going? I know you already acknowledged the low Water, but that would be one thing to add. When you work out it can be really important to replace water.

Hmmmm...Have you tried switching up the type of workout you do? I know other times I've reached plateaus in diets I was able to get over the plateau by exercising at a different time of day, for example, moving it to early morning to get my metabolism up. Or changing which workout I was doing so that I wasn't stuck in the same thing every day. On that same token, are you eating the same types of foods every day? That's another thing that will throw me into a plateau. My brother is a creature of habit and has the exact same lunch every day. If I do that, I will stay put at the exact same weight. My body likes it when things are consistent and will try its very best to keep them there.

Are you getting in enough Fiber? That might help keep your digestive system moving. I'm not sure if it will help the scale, but it would be a healthy thing to have in your diet. I'm not sure what else, but you will get through this! If you are doing the right things your body will eventually have to give up and let the scale move. For the mean time, maybe put the scale away (I know this is so ridiculously hard to do, maybe you'll be better at it than I was!), set some fitness goals instead of scale goals, and measure. You can still be successful even when the scale isn't moving.

Bad english on my part. My stall started week 3 and it's now week 6 so it's 3 weeks for me as well. I'm so happy for you that you managed to break the stall!

Thank you for the advice everyone, it really does help me feel better. I will try to increase my fluids and up my calories.

[alex&zsmom 33]

Try to get a bit more Protein. My doctor wants me to go from 70 grams to 90 at that point.

[LouiseC 1,029]

Try and up your calories.

[Cookeeeeez 269]

Two words: Colonic irrigation!

Lose some weight and get a spa treatment the same day, you'll feel much more energised to continue your journey

[15Kgold 22]

Two words: Colonic irrigation!

Lose some weight and get a spa treatment the same day' date=' you'll feel much more energised to continue your journey [/quote']

Did your doc approve the colonic? How far out were you when you did it?

[Cookeeeeez 269]

Lol! I'm still pre-sleeve but it shouldn't be a problem for your sleeves, should it?!