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....and all of yalls reasons ring true and are just the same for me...im now even thinking about a moment about 25 years ago (when I was 15)...I was walking along a sidewalk at school and of course I was on my way to lunch...I mean it was time...I had to go...the school pretty much makes you because everyone has to eat lunch...right...anyway...two of the "coolest" boys in school came up behind me (they were going to lunch too) and the comment was...."move over fat-so"!! ...and they laughed all the way to the cafeteria...embarrassment, humiliation, sadness...all then...AND NOW!

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I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. I had already been diagnosed with high blood pressure, high cholesterol, re-flux, sleep apnea, asthma, and had to see a chiropractor for back and neck pain. I was so tired of being sick and tired! I was tired of being so fat. I'd had enough and was willing to try something drastic. I have lost and gained 100's of pounds but never stayed healthy weight. I needed a tool, a way to try to jump start the process of becoming and staying a healthy me. This permanent operation to me was that first step to true lasting change!

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I had lost 80 pounds, met my husband, moved to a new city, got pregnant, got married and life was pretty good. After I had my son I'm not sure what happened...maybe staying at home too long and my husband wasn't really active either. I gained the 80 back and then some. When my son was 8 months I was admitted to the hospital for some bronchitis/breathing problems and over the next year I was sick with bronchitis 3 times, one of which kept me out of work for 4 weeks, other than my smoking and weight there was no physical reason I should be getting that sick, they don't even think I have asthma. I want to be a mom my son can be excited to come home to and is not embarassed of. I want him to ask me to play soccer/baseball or whatever with him and not worry about if I'll be hurting or if I can do it without passing out, I need this surgery to help me become me again and hopefully an even better me! I want to do things with my family and friends without having to worry about weight limits or physical limitations! I was sleeved 12-11 and I'm ready for 2013!

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Name it... higher life insurance premiums; a ruined trip to Vegas because my ankles and heels hurt so bad; at family gatherings continuously hearing "you are so stylish/cute/trendy for a big girl"; or on occasion "when are you due?"... (I've never been pregnant, btw); always being the "big friend/cousin"...and most of all a FAILED lap band. Hopefully I will be approved for a revision. I had my melt down today in the surgeon's office when I went for yet another hopeful band adjustment... Instead I left with a made up mind that this band has to go!! Revision? I'm hopeful!

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I'm a newbie here, but here goes.....

I've always felt 'chubby' even at 145 in my high school days compared to all my 115lb friends. Time passed, I was a size 8/10 in my twenties, then I met my husband and have ballooned to 215! I LOVE fashion, love clothes, love to shop.....well I DID. I'm tired of dieting and never losing, I can't even call myself a yoyo dieter because I never lose! I lost 2 lbs one month and gained it back in a weekend! So this is a gift to myself....my consult is scheduled Jan 8 - I'm a self pay and I believe every penny of it will be the best money I EVER spent. I can't wait to shop again and wear heels. I'm tired of being the 'fat girl with a pretty face' - WOO that felt good to let out!!!!!!!

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lol I totally understand..."you're so pretty for a big girl" or "you could be so pretty if..." I can't wait for a nice open-ended compliment without the slap to go with it!

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I want to live my life, and there are a lot of things that I don't do because I'm ashamed of myself. I have children. I refuse to miss more of my life.

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I just had the VSG two days ago! I'm still recuperating. I feel free already though! It's weird - I've alway felt hungry... all the time! But now I don't at all! I thought the Clear liquids diet would be hard for me, but it really hasn't been!

Anyways! There were a few straws that broke the camels back.

I'm starting out from a little bit of a lower weight than most (186), but I am 25 and everyone in my family has experience an incredible weight explosion at 25 and I'm partway through that. I recently gained 30 pounds in 1 month and I thought this is the beginning... soon I will end up over 300 like all my cousins. I'm not one to give in however, I worked out 3 times a week at the gym, I ride horses several times a week, I play football and baseball with my father and my dog keeps me busy with long walks and runs! I thought if this is my activity level and I just keep gaining and gaining then I need to do something about it BEFORE it gets out of control!

I also have hypertension (have since 22) and high cholesterol. Doctor told me I need to lose weight - I just keep gaining though - I don't even feel like it's in my control! The more I try to lose the more I gain!

My friends and family all think I'm crazy, but I KNOW I can't get down to my goal weight of 125 without WLS, maybe I could get close if I constantly starved myself and hired a personal trainer seven days a week, but I hate feeling hungry and personal training is expensive!!!

The real last straw where I started to look into it was when I started weeing stretchmarks on my stomach which will never change, and I don't want other parts of me to change that I can't change back. The thing I've been noticing since I booked the surgery is that I shuffle to get out of a chair now - my belly is too big to let me lean forward and stand up - it makes me feel fat or pregnant.

I can't wait to start this journey! I feel great and very optimistic already!

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When my husband and I first started dating, I was about 40-50 pounds lighter. We tied the knot this August and my wedding pics are nice, but I I felt embarrassed being that big. I tried to diet but nothing worked. Then, a few months after the wedding, I noticed my DH having issues with staying hard during lovemaking. While he sometimes has issues with this off and on, and he swears it isn't me, deep down nothing he says really can change my mind. A part of me died the day that happened-the last time, after quite a few times of this.

I jumped on that plane so fast, he didn't even have time to object. I have lost 25 pounds so far in a month and while I still have a long way to go, I am already feeling a bit more confident. I cannot wait to be the sexy, beautiful woman I feel I am on the inside-fully and completely.

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I'm 27 and I was on high blood pressure medication and I had a stroke scare with a bp of 200/160 and right side tingling. at that point I said that's it

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I was house sitting for a friend and she has a tub (my place only has a shower) I was so excited to get to soak in a tub! While I fit in the bathtub width wise, the Water didn't cover everything. It was a rude awakening for sure

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When my husband and I first started dating, I was about 40-50 pounds lighter. We tied the knot this August and my wedding pics are nice, but I I felt embarrassed being that big. I tried to diet but nothing worked. Then, a few months after the wedding, I noticed my DH having issues with staying hard during lovemaking. While he sometimes has issues with this of and on, and he swears it isn't me, deep down nothing he says really can change my mind. A part of me died the day that happened-the last time, after quite a few times of this.

I jumped on that plane so fast, he didn't even have time to object. I have lost 25 pounds so far in a month and while I still have a long way to go, I am already feeling a bit more confident. I cannot wait to be the sexy, beautiful woman I feel I am on the inside-fully and completely.

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While I'm glad you did the surgery for your health( I hope). Just thought I'd throw this out there DH may not have issues with you, but may have erectile dysfunction. He should have it checked out. It can happen at any age.... Just a thought????

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My name is Diane, 58 y/o. Final straw was last week's dr's apt when I refused to get on the scale. Wasn't a big deal, they don't push it. but my dr says with high bp and prediabetic, she can't keep me alive if I don't do something to help myself. She told me about the sleeve, and although I have been against bariatric help previously, something opened my ears. and my eyes. I've been reading fervently about vertical sleeve and have an apt with a bariatric dr. on Friday. I've already made an apt with a nutritionist in case it's needed. How I could live my life if I were 100 lbs - 150 lbs less. I want it. Soon. I'm going to read some more posts, then I'll post again. Thank you.

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While I'm glad you did the surgery for your health( I hope). Just thought I'd throw this out there DH may not have issues with you, but may have erectile dysfunction. He should have it checked out. It can happen at any age.... Just a thought

He talked to his doc and got some Cialis. Still doesn't take away the sinking feeling he needs extra help because he isn't attracted to me...you know?

But his doc says it is normal. Thanks!

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