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Day 4 on pre op diet. Last day at work. Everyone wants to frickin feed me. I got out of dinner by saying I have a charity event to attend to***ht, now they want to take me to lunch! Don't care to tell these people I'm having surgery. Ahhh!!!!! What do I do?

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And I'm hungry!!!!! Ahhhhhhhhhhh!!!

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And they know I haven't had lunch yet

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Respectfully decline and tell them you are trying to be very mindful of your eating. And that much temptation so early in the "diet" could set you back.

It's the truth, just not every detail of the truth. :-)

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Don't care to tell these people I'm having surgery. What do I do?

JGO

besides my DH and immediate family i chose not tell anyone about my pending WLS,

i used to tell people that i was trying to lose weight, i was eating much smaller portions,

i said that it was hard for me to sit around with other people eating a lot of food in front of me, thats why i didn't want to go out for meals, drink or appetizers

hope this helps

kathy

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You also have to remember that whenever you are not supposed to think about something, you begin to see it everywhere. In actuality, their behavior has not changed, but your perceptions have.

Just breathe deep. It will be all good.

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Suggest something else, like going for coffee or for a walk. In the event of an emergency, blame it on diarrhea...no one can dispute the runs!

Unfortunately we live in a society where extreme emotions are marked by food. Celebrating? Let's do dinner! Depressed? Ice cream with the girls! Bereavement? Bring over a casserole. It'll be really hard breaking that cycle. Good luck!

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It's crazy how much we revolve around food. Could you ask if they could take you to coffee? Then you could grab a tea. Just say your stomach is a bit upset today. Or that you're watching what you eat because you know the people at the event will be handing you food left and right and you don't wanna fill up early.

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