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34 Yr Marrge And Supportive But Now I Think Its Gone So Confused



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married 34 years got married 16 great man but since my weight loss wont touvh me so so hard his mom lived with us toruture chamber 18yrs we have been going through hell he supported me but havent made love in 6 moths :( dont get it worked so hard for this wont let anyone take it from me .....................none im alive so i dont know stalled 6 weeks back Protein Shakes and cardio backed weight traiing as hard lost 4 pds 4 days so happy but its not my sleeve its him and i am going forward! so sad though buried 5 kids and this at the greatest times how i feel REALLY?

im hurting i cant let anyone take this from me

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Have you had an open and frank conversation with him about how you feel?

This could stem from many things. If it is about the weight loss, perhaps he feels threatened that you are on a new, exciting journey, yet he flounders in feelings of being left behind. Perhaps he has some urilogical disorder which has gone undiagnosed. When was his last physical or trip to the urologist?

It could be a multitude of things and an open, frank talk needs to be the starting point. As a guy, I can tell you the quickest way to shut me up during one of these is to judge or threaten me, so, it will take a lot of listening for the first go around. You don't need to solve the problem during this first go-around. It's just like a brain-storming session getting everything out there.

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:(

Pdxman said it as well as I could. Good luck, God bless.

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You look beautiful...I'm sorry for this pain but like you said you have to move on for you...you deserve better...and I promise if you put yourself health etc.. first... life will get better hon! Hugs to you!! xo

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you cant just throw away 34 years without trying everything first. like PDX man said you have to figure out what is wrong with him!! Men are stubborn, you probably know that after all this time. and if it is a sexual problem on his end he is embarrassed. Maybe he just needs some TLC and to know that you still love him and find him attractive. He is seeing this body he loved for so many years change shape and shrink in front of his eyes almost daily. it is quite overwhelming! good luck.

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Yes its just I think too much his mom living with us 18 yerars now shes in nursing home I took care of her and I cant anymore and sexually hes fine ... I dont get it I dont

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He comes home there isnt another woman I dont know!~

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