I am doing a poll because I am trying to find a marriage that has not had some sort of cheating involved either from one spouse or another. I need your feedback guys. From the smallest indiscretion to the horrible, please tell me there is a relationship out there that had neither party cheating!! PLEASE!! Only sane people please reply.

sorry girls-

My opinion-

I think most men do cheat. Even if it is only once and it is a one night stand and it happened many years ago. Sure seems like alot of women here think they have never been cheated on. Someone on the first page said something I definately agree with. " The wife is always the last to know". I bet more of us have been cheated on then realize it. Sad to say but the truth. Like I said, MY OPINION.

Thats a ridiculous generalization. Its quite offensive as well! Im really sorry for you that you have such a negative outlook on your marriage. your view is not the reality i live in.

Thats a ridiculous generalization. Its quite offensive as well! Im really sorry for you that you have such a negative outlook on your marriage. your view is not the reality i live in.

Can you show me one place where I said anything about having a negative outlook on MY marriage. And it is not a rediculous generalization. It is MY opinion. I don't think my opinion is any more "rediculous" than yours. I'm pretty sure I made a point to say "MY OPINION". Maybe you missed that.

Can you show me one place where I said anything about having a negative outlook on MY marriage. And it is not a rediculous generalization. It is MY opinion. I don't think my opinion is any more "rediculous" than yours. I'm pretty sure I made a point to say "MY OPINION". Maybe you missed that.

Well...using your logic....your current husband is cheating on you too....that seems like a negative outlook to me.

It is your opinion...and he was posting his opinion of your opinion. That's how this stuff works right?

You are absolutely right about him stating his opinion. and no, as far as I know my husband is not cheating on me and never has. Same scenario as most the other women in this thread. I always seem to know where he's at, unless of course he doesn't go to work when he is scheduled to. I doubt that of course because we work at the same place. Like I said earlier. I just enjoy playing devil's advocate. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

I've not wanted to chime in here, but this thread is taking an alarming anti-male tone.

It is a two way street folks. Don't put all the burden, or all the blame on half of the marriage.

If I were to say... most women are Assholes (I do NOT believe that, I am just using it to make a point), you'd get mad at me for making a crass generalization. saying most men cheat, is not your opinion, it is a ridiculous made-up fact that you are saying to make the husbands out to be the bad guys, and the wives into innocent bystanders that "just never saw it coming. Both concepts are ridiculous. Most men aren't that selfish, and most women aren't that stupid.

Let's stay away from making rash assumptions about the entire male population, even if it is just your opinion. I agree. As a man, it was insulting.

Just my opinion.:rofl:

next time just say all men are low life dogs.

I don't think ALL men are low life dogs. Not at all. Like I said. I enjoy playing devil's advocate. Makes for interesting conversation for all who can handle it. And I absolutely would not be mad at you making the generalization of "all women are assholes". If that was your opinion I would respect that. And for the record. I know just as many cheating women. I read back over my posts and I did sound very anti-male. I promise I'm not. I apologize for that tone. I don't believe the "statistics" that it is mostly men cheating either. I think the amount is probably alarmingly the same between men and women.

You are absolutely right about him stating his opinion. and no, as far as I know my husband is not cheating on me and never has. Same scenario as most the other women in this thread. I always seem to know where he's at, unless of course he doesn't go to work when he is scheduled to. I doubt that of course because we work at the same place. Like I said earlier. I just enjoy playing devil's advocate. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

Yeah me too. That's why I wanted to remind you that using your own logic...your husband is likely cheating on you....of course...this is YOUR logic...not mine.

I don't think ALL men are low life dogs. Not at all. Like I said. I enjoy playing devil's advocate. Makes for interesting conversation for all who can handle it. And I absolutely would not be mad at you making the generalization of "all women are assholes". If that was your opinion I would respect that. And for the record. I know just as many cheating women. I read back over my posts and I did sound very anti-male. I promise I'm not. I apologize for that tone. I don't believe the "statistics" that it is mostly men cheating either. I think the amount is probably alarmingly the same between men and women.

Well obviously. Who do you all think the married man is cheating WITH?

My theory....Men brag about it...Women are ashamed of it. You hear about one...and you don't the other.

Makes sense to me.

I don't think ALL men are low life dogs. Not at all. Like I said. I enjoy playing devil's advocate. Makes for interesting conversation for all who can handle it. And I absolutely would not be mad at you making the generalization of "all women are assholes". If that was your opinion I would respect that. And for the record. I know just as many cheating women. I read back over my posts and I did sound very anti-male. I promise I'm not. I apologize for that tone. I don't believe the "statistics" that it is mostly men cheating either. I think the amount is probably alarmingly the same between men and women.

I appreciate that. Hope I did not come across too harsh.:rofl:

Well obviously. Who do you all think the married man is cheating WITH?

My theory....Men brag about it...Women are ashamed of it. You hear about one...and you don't the other.

Makes sense to me.

there is something to be said for that statement. Men do talk on such issues more than women, at least the ones I know.

interesting thought... something to ponder over.

Good points, everyone.

I guess using my logic I would be very likely to cheat on my husband too. I know for myself that is not the case. But I can only speak for myself. Not for him. Trust me, I have all the same feelings as most the other women in this thread. Love, respect, etc. You just always seem to hear how shocked people are when they find out it has happened to them after x number amount of years they have been married. I sure hope it never happens to me. And I am sorry for anyone it has happened to. Definately had some rocky times in the beginning though. I think that comes with getting pregnant and married as young teenagers. (16 years old).

I appreciate that. Hope I did not come across too harsh.:rofl:

Harsh? Nah. If I can dish it out, I can definately take it. Trust me, I love hearing all points of view. ESPECIALLY ones that do not agree with me. I love having my views and opinions challenged. Keeps me level.

This is a totally ridiculous forum. Not because of the topic per se, but because of the rudeness here. A forum is where someone can post their own opinions!!! And the reader should either be able to walk away from it saying "eww I would never do that" or "I am so glad someone else thinks the way I do". Wow some of you profess you would never cheat yet you have no trouble bashing others.......so sad.

For the hell of it, I looked up cheating. A lot of you who proclaim not to cheat .....are cheating in a way that may not be as bad as cheating on your spouse but damn it comes close. (your cheating on a potential friend)

"To cheat is to deprive of something valuable by the use of decit or fraud". That is straight from Websters.

So the bashers, slammers, flammers whatever you want to call it......are taking someone else's belief's away from them Or at best, telling them their beliefs aren't worth a damn....so...if you have nothing left to believe in, what is left?

Stop pointing fingers...."it's non christians", it's christians", "it's men--they all cheat", "its porn" .............its none of the above....its human.

there is something to be said for that statement. Men do talk on such issues more than women, at least the ones I know.

interesting thought... something to ponder over.

Good points, everyone.

They say men are like dogs, and women are like cats. We both do the same things, we just have the good sense to cover our s**t up.

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This is a totally ridiculous forum. Not because of the topic per se, but because of the rudeness here. A forum is where someone can post their own opinions!!! And the reader should either be able to walk away from it saying "eww I would never do that" or "I am so glad someone else thinks the way I do". Wow some of you profess you would never cheat yet you have no trouble bashing others.......so sad.

For the hell of it, I looked up cheating. A lot of you who proclaim not to cheat .....are cheating in a way that may not be as bad as cheating on your spouse but damn it comes close. (your cheating on a potential friend)

"To cheat is to deprive of something valuable by the use of decit or fraud". That is straight from Websters.

So the bashers, slammers, flammers whatever you want to call it......are taking someone else's belief's away from them Or at best, telling them their beliefs aren't worth a damn....so...if you have nothing left to believe in, what is left?

Stop pointing fingers...."it's non christians", it's christians", "it's men--they all cheat", "its porn" .............its none of the above....its human.

I personally was not offended by anyone in this thread at any point. And I certainly didn't intend on offending anyone. I think this is a pefectly good thread for anyone who wants to post or read here. If anyone doesn't, they shouldn't. Seems very simple to me.