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I am keeping my WLS surgery a secret (close friends and family know but that's it) and I'm paranoid about someone seeing my stomach and asking about the scars. How do you explain them? I've been thinking of saying I had some cysts removed or something like that....any ideas that are really plausible??

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Just say you had some laparoscopic surgery for a private issue and that you would prefer not to discuss it. Leave it at that its no ones business as to what goes on with your body.

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I agree. I am only 6 weeks out and mine have almost dissapeared! I doubt anyone will notice.

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I am keeping my WLS surgery a secret (close friends and family know but that's it) and I'm paranoid about someone seeing my stomach and asking about the scars. How do you explain them? I've been thinking of saying I had some cysts removed or something like that....any ideas that are really plausible??

Funny you should mention cysts... my boss at work asked me what I was having... she asked in a more concerned way and I felt bad saying nothing so I told her I was having cysts removed.... she was worried that something was really wrong so I figured telling her something would work better. It did, luckily. She hasn't pushed. I figured I can also explain the weight loss as my hormones finally being back on track and Portion Control :P

I have nothing against sharing that I will have WLS, but I was worried that since I only work part-time, they would ask me to leave since it is considered elective surgery. I have only worked there for a couple months so I decided to play it safe.

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i havent had the surgery yet....Oct 15th YAY! but, my boyfriend had his last November. Looking at his scars, they are IDENTICAL to mine from having my gallbladder removed

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You can hardly see mine anymore but you could always say you had a hernia or that you got a cut. There is really only one 1/2 inch long scar on my stomach that doesn't look like it could have bene a bad mosquito bite.

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I agree with the others. It's your business tell who you feel like telling. It will change down the line how you feel about your surgery. My scars really don't look that bad. Only the one do I notice and its so high and close to my bra line and doubt anyone will ever see it. Even if I ever get the nerve to wear a bikini.

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My 2 biggest scars are pretty close in location and size to my gallbladder removal scars... the only other 2 that are totally on the wrong side of my body to be gallbladder scars are tiny and have mostly faded..... (but the big ones ... about 3/4 of an inch each haven't faded.. neither has my biggest gallbladder scar)....

Anyway, just tell them that you had your gallbladder out, and in the meantime, head to Walgreens and buy some scar gel... I use the ones recommended by some of the people on here who've had tummy tucks:

Scar Zone--

http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/scar-zone-topical-scar-diminishing-cream/ID=prod392179-product

Mederma--

http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/mederma-scar-gel/ID=prod4690-product

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First, I'm going to grow hair over them so no one sees them. Then if they do see them and ask, I will say "what scars, I don't see any scars?". If they persist then well I will mumble something about an animal attack or a shotgun and I don't want to talk about it.

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First, I'm going to grow hair over them so no one sees them. Then if they do see them and ask, well it will be a Bear attack that I narrowly escaped. I'm also thinking up a story that involves a shotgun

If that doesn't do it, then the fall back will be "what scars, I don't see any scars?"

That is hilarious!! Thanks for making me laugh today biggrin.gif

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First, I'm going to grow hair over them so no one sees them. Then if they do see them and ask, I will say "what scars, I don't see any scars?". If they persist then well I will mumble something about an animal attack or a shotgun and I don't want to talk about it.

Okay I change my answer to this. If anyone ever asks I'm totally telling them I wrestled (and won) a black bear!

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I am keeping my WLS surgery a secret (close friends and family know but that's it) and I'm paranoid about someone seeing my stomach and asking about the scars. How do you explain them? I've been thinking of saying I had some cysts removed or something like that....any ideas that are really plausible??

I have a pretty stock answer for anyone that asks me a personal question. "Is that something you need to know or something you just want to know?" Kathe

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