Rant - old habits die hard

[Day Dreamer 23]

It's not the end of the world, so why am I trying to eat everything in sight?!?! I am almost 2 months post op and thought hmmm just one bite won't hurt. The truth is, one bite leads to another bite. Listen, I didn't get obese by being able to have just one bite of anything. I have deep rooted over eating issues.

So here I am thinking that my sleeve won't allow me to eat certain junk foods - OR - that I won't even want them anymore. YEAH RIGHT?!?! I was being a very good girl till the neighbor brought over some ooey-gooey chocolate lava cake. Oh my goodness. I took one small bite. I walked away. Go me. Then I walked back. Bad me! I had two more bites. LOL WOW! Old habits do die hard.

The truth is, you have to tame the beast inside of you. You can still eat all the naughty foods from before, but now you need to be mindful of what goes in your mouth. So when people say the Sleeve is a tool, best believe it. You can totally eat the wrong foods, but you have to say No.

Just say NO to junk food! LOL

Yeah well, I am still learning this lesson. (But this experience was an eye opener.)

[thinoneday 445]

All I can say is " YOU BETCHA!!! " Old habits have to be tamed to new habits within the 1st year. . . the sleeve won't do it for you, YOU have to do it. . . this is exactly why I'm dieting again. . . just like in the olden days, except its a bit easier cause of the sleeve. . . i didn't learn my lesson and didn't change my old ways, so for 7 months i was at a big stall and even gaining between 10 - 15 lbs. . . Do you know how discouraging that is???? Then finally i realized that I hadn't paid $15,500.00 for this sleeve to remain a porker for the rest of my life. . .i took the bull by the horns and now i'm fighting to get my life back on track. . . i've been on a really strict diet for 2 weeks and have lost 20 lbs. . . i'm very proud, . . .this is my 3rd week (I'm doing this in 6 week increments) then on the weekend of the end of the 6th week I will treat myself to a glass of rum and coke and start again for another 6 weeks til I reach my personal goal of 180! I've reached the doctors goal, but now it has become somewhat personal and come hell or high Water, I will get to my goal!!!! You can do it too. . .together we can do this! good luck

[SKCUNNINGHAM 298]

You guys (DayDreamer and ThinOneDay) are so right! I am learning that same hard lesson that the demons I fought before the sleeve are still out there - but I have a new tool to use in fighting the good fight.

I think avoiding the first bite is important for me. Yesterday at my mom's birthday party - I was sitting next to her and chatting. She finished her cake - except she had left a large glob of icing on her plate. My fingers were absolutely twitching to scoop up the glob of icing and put it into my mouth. I had to have a long, stern conversation with myself not to do that. My sensible self won the argument and I didn't eat the icing.

Bad habits die hard.

[thinoneday 445]

The cravings are the worst for me. . . i fight everyday against those buggers. . . everyday . . . . i drink tons of Water, crystal light, chew gum, keep busy . . . but there it is, especially in the afternoons and at night. . . but i'm fighting and winning the battle slowly!

[Day Dreamer 23]

The lack of control really gets me. My twitchy fingers would have scooped up that icing and not thought twice - until I felt bad later that night. I have an after thought issue: Eater's remorse and it is real. I get Eater's Remorse every time I mess up, yet I continue to mess up. Now is the time to look in the mirror and confront my demons. Sadly, being honest with myself is pretty damn hard.

Hey Heather, get a clue!!! You need to stop acting irresponsible and woman up.

Two months out and I don't want to be a 15k porker. Ok granted I paid 2k but it is all the same - you paid for this elective surgery and didn't use it to your advantage. I don't want to be a statistic, I want to be a success story. So every day I battle with trying to correct the bad habits I built up over the years. I don't expect to be perfect; eating only veg for the rest of my life. Bloody hell I barely remember to eat a single veg per day. So everyday is a struggle but I refuse to fail my Sleeve. I just have to keep reminding myself to work for my Sleeve - not vice versa.

Thanks for listening

[lucill35 73]

I was having this same conversation with myself today after eating, stale honey roasted nuts because they were there and cocoa cola cake for the same reason. I am coming up on my 6 month surgiversary on 7/29 and have lost 82 lbs so I justify days like this to myself by saying "well i chose the sleeve because i don't think it's normal to think that i'm never going to eat cake or a chip again." hello, it's not normal to eat stale nuts just because they are there. i really need to look at why i am eating these things and what need it is meeting because ultimately i am only hurting myself and my progress. If anyone has the magic answer, I would LOVE to hear it :blink: !!

[Lila21 36]

Hey folks,

Lately I've been similarly struggling and I'm not sure exactly why. I worked incredibly hard the first 6 months of my sleeve, and going into the 7th month, it's like I got pooped or something. I started slacking and letting myself eat some sweets, then I added having a drink or two on the weekends, and then I added more carbs, and suddenly I have been lazy about working out, too (whereas I was working out sometimes 2 hours a day to get to my weekly goals). It really bums me out because I have so far to go, and I cannot afford to lose momentum now. I guess I am writing this down so that I hold myself accountable and really think about what it is that I have been doing. I am 9 lbs away from Onederland, and I should be working my butt off. I really can't understand what has gotten into me!!! So, I am going to take a deep breathe and realize that this is not helping me. That I only hurt myself when I eat junk, and that I am only slowing MYSELF down by cheating. I think I will create a meal plan and stick to it for the next week. Part of my problem is that I have just been grabbing whatever is handy for meals, and not planning. So my plan is LOW CARB, HIGH Protein, NO SWEETS OR JUNK! Thank you for posting this, it really helped me to think through my own struggle!!!

[lsereno 2,525]

What everyone else said!! The last cookie I ate was so stale my husband was like "Didn't you throw those Cookies out?" It was a sad day for me in a way when I found I could eat a lot of my fav junk foods such as chips, crackers, and sweets. Only kinda sad because I think I would have been even sadder thinking they were gone forever. Now I know I may have to fight to control them, but I will be able to enjoy them in moderation when I'm at goal or for a special occasion. And I deserve better than a stale cookie or something a thin person wouldn't dream of eating!!

Little Miss Diva started a 30 day challenge in the General VSG Support thread. Check it out! It's a great way to get back on track or stay there.

Lynda

[SeattleSue 25]

Oh Lord help me. I need to learn the lesson now...because I found out a food devil lives in the dorito bag. 3 servings of dorito's yesterday...now I know what a slider food is. WHY??????? Why??????????????????

[Papa Jack 86]

Have some of you been to support groups? Do they help? I'm doing good now but could easy be in your shoes. I tell myself this Sleeve is a GIFT over & over to keep me straight. But I miss food right now.

[Jinjin 21]

Im lovN this post!! I can sooo relate!!

[YellowRose 21]

ditto!!

I feel like I want to eat every couple of hours! Stress eating

thanks for posting this.

[juzmejnee 9]

Im in the same boat!!

[Day Dreamer 23]

Funny to see this thread alive and well... sadly, it is still happening in my daily life. I am now 3 1/2 months out and can really pack in some slider foods. At frist I was so happy to be able to eat more than 2 bites... that was, till I realized was eating multiple serving sizes at a time. Things like crackers and dip - oh lord - I can eat a whole box of flatbread crackers with some french onion dip like no ones business. It is sad... crazy.. mostly sad, but even disappointing.

I know the rule, eat Protein first but come on... I was never a stickler for the rules before, you think one surgery is going to change my mindset overnight? (Over 3 months worth of nights? LOL) Well I try... I do. During the day I do pretty good. In fact, I don't eat much at all; a few bites here and there. But come 8pm or so and I am starving. Right for the salty comfort foods... and they slide. Darn... who knew the Sleeve had sliders... Oh wait- I knew hahah I read it before I even had the surgery. BOOO ON ME! I have fallen into this comforting pit of eating junky slider food but enjoying it because it makes me feel like I am eating a normal amount of food again. I know what I have to do... I just need to do it. MAN UP.. err WOMAN UP! LOL Yeah, easier said than done.

I will keep you posted

[YellowRose 21]

GGOD post. GREAT FOLLOW-up comment.

I will be watching this thread for updates.