Im sooooo upset right now. I told my boyfriend how I signed up for this website and he saw I added a picture to it and he thinks that I'm using this website to look for guys. Are you kidding me??? It's the dumbest thing I've ever heard!!!!!! I have no intentions on that! I have one and one intention only to be on these forums and it's because I have all these questions and all of you have great answers! He says "Why cant you be like a normal person and just search it on google?" He doesn't understand that stuff found on google is just general information and the people on here can answer so many things that google cant!!! Most of you have experienced VSG and that's who I need answers from, not some stupid search engine..

Sorry...I'm just so upset about this...just ranting!!

Personally? He sounds like a nutcase. Get rid of him!

how long were you with that guy?

Sounds like good news for you, dont' give it another thought he did you a favor.

how long were you with that guy?

We have been together a little over a year now.

I am sorry that you are going through this. He may be insecure and because of this he is acting irrational.

I agree that this forum is so important for information before, and after surgery.

You hang in there and do not let it get you too down. Keep the focus on you and your health!

Best wishes

Yes because there are tons of men trolling WLS support boards looking for women

He sounds like the Jealous type...not generally a good type to keep around. They get weird controlling and start accusing you of doing things you aren't. It quickly becomes an abusive dynamic. I say Good Riddance.

I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

It really sounds like HE'S insecure... and, while I don't know him I would almost bet it would only get worse as you have the surgery and start to change.

I believe that WLS can make a good relationship, better. Or a rocky one worse. It just depends on the people. Sadly enough

If he is not supportive of you, then he did you a huge favor! What a wack job!

Be glad that he is gone!

Kelly

He might be feeling neglected if you spend a lot of time on the forums. This site is somewhat addictive.

Sounds very controllling, those are the first signs of an abusive person! I would let him go!!

I know all of the advice you will get from friends on this site will be logical and heartfelt, but that doesn't make you hurt any less right now, does it?? I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this pain at a time when your life should be looking brighter than ever. Has the door of comunication closed for good? Any talking it through??? No one can be solely responsible for another. Believe me know. I am experiencing no support from my SO . That being said, I am going forward with my sleeve--alone if need be. This is for me and only I can make the final decision. The same is for you. Search your heart, and you head. Follow the one the is right for you. You know which it is or you wouldn't be hurting so much.

Keep us posted. We all really do care.

Valentina

Im sooooo upset right now. I told my boyfriend how I signed up for this website and he saw I added a picture to it and he thinks that I'm using this website to look for guys. Are you kidding me??? It's the dumbest thing I've ever heard!!!!!! I have no intentions on that! I have one and one intention only to be on these forums and it's because I have all these questions and all of you have great answers! He says "Why cant you be like a normal person and just search it on google?" He doesn't understand that stuff found on google is just general information and the people on here can answer so many things that google cant!!! Most of you have experienced VSG and that's who I need answers from, not some stupid search engine..

Sorry...I'm just so upset about this...just ranting!!

My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year ago. And my boyfriend's ex girlfriend apparently had gastric bypass years ago when they were together. They were together for 6 years and she left him after she got skinny. So this is why my boyfriend isn't very supportive. He is afraid that it will happen again..and I understand that must of been hard but I really need him to be supportive of me through this whole thing. I mean it's not like he's mean about it or anything it just worries him that he's gonna have to go through the same exact heart break over again. I love him more than anything in this world and he is the one that I want to make my husband. How do I get him to understand that I'm not going to do this to him? Has anyone else had a similar situation?

Yes because there are tons of men trolling WLS support boards looking for women

He sounds like the Jealous type...not generally a good type to keep around. They get weird controlling and start accusing you of doing things you aren't. It quickly becomes an abusive dynamic. I say Good Riddance.

hahaha good one!! I told him the exact same thing!! He just said that it's something that me and another guy on here would have in common and thats how we could relate. Blah Blah BLah !

You will be better off without him. Sounds like he has serious issues anyway. Do your program and prep for surgery--it is YOUR time now. Take care!

Im sooooo upset right now. I told my boyfriend how I signed up for this website and he saw I added a picture to it and he thinks that I'm using this website to look for guys. Are you kidding me??? It's the dumbest thing I've ever heard!!!!!! I have no intentions on that! I have one and one intention only to be on these forums and it's because I have all these questions and all of you have great answers! He says "Why cant you be like a normal person and just search it on google?" He doesn't understand that stuff found on google is just general information and the people on here can answer so many things that google cant!!! Most of you have experienced VSG and that's who I need answers from, not some stupid search engine..

Sorry...I'm just so upset about this...just ranting!!

Yeah, "chubby chasers'" frequent THIS board looking for women that are intending on backing out of their surgery and staying chubby. *insert sarcastic eyeroll here)

My husband told me this when I asked him about my surgery: "I'm a smart man. We've been together over 20 years and I wanna keep it that way. I have no opinion. I love you whatever you do, and I stress this, I have no opinion." LOL I have to agree, he IS a smart man.

It's not my place to judge your b/f, but can you let him browse the forums or even sign up for his own account? Let him see that this isn't E-Harmony, it's for people that have had the surgery to get support and advice and people that haven't had the surgery so that they can get accurate information. This site could literally end up saving your life someday. Think about the forums for searching for a GOOD surgeon or the complications sections, those alone are like gold to me.

Hope things work out for you

Renee`