We are all cheaters and taking the easy way out

Ms Lady in NC · April 19, 2011

I showed her today just how easy I am having it when I was with her 1/2 the day and she saw my routine of sipping every 10-15 minutes. Then I showed her exactly how much I could eat and she retracted her statement! She said she didn't know it was that time consuming to have to do all that I do and said she never meant it that way. Yeah right. But I took other's advice and just stop trying to prove my point because ultimately, I am the only one that truly knows how easy or hard it is. She is a friend but not even best friends understand everything we do. I gave her info and websites she asked for to research the surgery and left it at that. She will be the 1st and last person I do that to. From now on I will say I am losing from eating and exercising as I should and that's it.

Diamondstar · April 20, 2011

About 4 of my close friends who were against me initially having surgery have now begun asking questions about the sleeve so they can possibly join me as a loser. The heaviest is a size 16 and now instead of just dieting, wants to go the "easy route" like me as she calls it. I spent over 2 hours on the phone explaining what info I learned in my 2 years of researching all wls procedures. But it kinda annoys me and made me wonder if anyone else had people say they were losinng the easy way or cheating? I feel like this is anything but that and really hate people thinking having major surgery, eating like a bird for months if not years, and having to constantly monitor themselves medically for defenciencies is easy! She is a best friend so I know she didn't mean to totally insult me but the next person that calls wls easy or cheating will get a real good piece of my mind

I I weighed 238 the day of surgery I am 5"3 I did wear a 16 though, however my bmi was 42. I was sleeved on 4/6/2011. I am already tired of hearing things such as; you can't just exercise?, girl I think you can walk that off, you aren't that big. I havent had someone say this is the easy way out yet, I think it will bother me. Everyone doesnt know I am diabetic, have sleep apnea, have some serious joint problems, and acid reflux. Wearing black and spandex I can look somewhat normal. Women in particular are funny. A co-worker had a gastric bypass a few years ago. She got down to a size 5, she is in her 40's. The other women who were normal like a size 10 or so are jealous its ridiculous. You made the best decision for you. I wish you well on this journey.

Nicole W · April 20, 2011

Ugh, I absolutely hate when people refer to WLS as the easy way out. I had quite a bit of family say to me, "Why can't you just eat well and exercise?" And they knew darn well that I had been up and down on the scales for as long as I can possibly remember! Obviously something wasn't working for me. WLS is certainly helpful in the process but it is not a 'fix all cure'. Unfortunately, people who haven't been through it won't ever understand it... and that's just something we all have to grit our teeth and accept.. Trust me, I wish I could change the way they perceive it. Rawr!