So rude

[Firefly2 9]

Tat2Swan - lol priceless!!!!

Yeah I am in the same boat, some of my co-workers who have found out and think it's wonderful that I am taking charge of my life. The others are like, why would you do that to your body. And the funny thing is that the ones who are against it are the ones who are over weight themselves. So I think to myself that if they are complaining then they are jealous that I am taking control of my life and doing something for myself that in the long run will greatly benefit me. So let them talk all they want. When I drop all my weight and look sexy as hell they will be the ones who wish they could have had the same surgery too!!!

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,281]

EXACTLY why I have chosen not to tell anyone unless they have a vested interest in my health.

Not sure how everyone at work came to know of your personal decision, but hopefully folks will read this and see how insensitive others can be. They really DON'T care about you nor your feelings.

I prefer not to spend my entire day relaying messages on why I've chosen to have any kind of medical procedure. It is my personal private business, and unless the person I tell is planning to be on the other side of me after my operation, they really don't need to know a darn thing.

[Gina A. 6]

I've told a few co-workers that I'm close with because they support me and are encouraging. But, I made the mistake of telling this one guy that went and told someone else that I totally don't even associate with in that way. It annoyed me, but, I really don't care what they think.

The thing that does annoy me is that this same guy thinks he knows everything and tries to tell me that I need to take Protein, i.e. eggs, tuna, cheese, Beans, in lieu of the Protein drinks, which my surgeon recommended. So who do I listen to, this guy that doesn't know crap or my surgeon? It's no question there. But, the truth is that it is annoying and people need to mind their business if they don't know anything about the process.

[shaundra 5]

sadie_mo, im from oklahoma city. i have checked prices on flying out from dallas because sometimes its a lot cheaper but as of now its about the same. maybe when i actually book my flight it will change. please look me up next time you are on Facebook. (shaundra barnett) i have 2 pages because i lost the login info for the original one, so just send a friend request to both of them, but i think its the first one on the list. where do you gamble? i have been to a few of the casinos but dont go very often due to finances.

[NinaX 6]

As they are so generous with "good" advice, maybe you should return the favour? You know; tell them how to dress, how to style their hair, how to do their job, how to raise their children etc. Maybe that will get the message through?

Best wishes and good luck!

[M2G 1,836]

One thing I have learned is once you "share" with someone, you cannot control who they tell. Ugh.

My almost 10 year old daughter spilled the Beans to her friend who then told her mom. Except the good part was she didn't really say what kind of surgery, so when mom asked about it (she is a good friend of mine, but I didn't feel like sharing the info yet) so I just told her "yes, I had surgery, and I'm feeling MUCH better now, thanks for asking" and the mom didn't press and ask any more questions. She just let it die. Phew.

As for the quitter comment, ooooh, that would have burned me up. But whatev...like you said they will all be eating their words a year from now!

[sadie_mo 2]

Tat2Swan - lol priceless!!!!

Yeah I am in the same boat, some of my co-workers who have found out and think it's wonderful that I am taking charge of my life. The others are like, why would you do that to your body. And the funny thing is that the ones who are against it are the ones who are over weight themselves. So I think to myself that if they are complaining then they are jealous that I am taking control of my life and doing something for myself that in the long run will greatly benefit me. So let them talk all they want. When I drop all my weight and look sexy as hell they will be the ones who wish they could have had the same surgery too!!!

Yea I knw 2 years ago when another co-worker got the surery I was like so jelous watching her fade away and though she no longer works here we are still in contact and she answers all my questions. I wasnt mean to her though I tried to show support even though I didnt understand the surgery because thats what you do. It was a man co-worker was so negative so go figure I think his wife could use some work but I dont say anything I am just supportive of him having that ugly wife.

I have 5 kids and dont take much time to myself and havent even bought new shoes in 2 years so this right here is for me and I am doing it ! I know it will be life changing in so many ways and I am ready to strap in for the ride

[lorie 0]

I am going on the 21st to Dr. Kelly as well. I am very excited and I am glad there is alot of support here. The way I look at it is that all the people that are so judgemental arent true friends. People can be just down right cruel when it comes to image. Sadie I have known you for many many years,,,and you deserve this like no other!!!

[MommyTawnie 3]

I'm not shy about my surgery either. I don't view it as a way out. I see it as a chance to get my life back. My family knows all about the surgery and they are very supportive. Out of my husbands family only my sister in law and mother in law know. My mother in law has thrown a big fit and has made it known that she doesn't approve of my having surgery. I could care less what people think this surgery is happening, but at the same time I wish she would get on board with it and be happy that I have found something to add in my weight loss and in the end result in a new healthier happier me. That's the extent of people knowing about my surgery. I don't air it out for the world to see my decision. If people ask then yes I will tell, but if they have anything negative to say I don't have time to hear it and walk off. Don't let this bother you. Maybe they are jealous that you are getting time off for a surgery that's optional for some and very much needed for others. Stay strong and don't let others bring you down.

Met surgeon for first time March 3, 2010

Started supervised diet June 3, 2010

Met new surgeon September 27, 2010

Finsihed Supervised Diet November 15, 2010

Approved for Surgery December 8, 2010

Surgery Date December 21, 2010

[seniorsleever 17]

When someone makes a rude or insensitive comment, cock your head in a curious way and say, "I wonder why this topic makes you feel threatened?'' Then just walk away. In other words, make the REAL question "why does this bother YOU so much?"

I have a few coworkers who gets do angry I just want to slap them ! I get tired of people asking why I don't just go on a diet and eat right. I only told them because I wanted to request the time off ,not because I want their advice. I am a 33 year old woman who is paying cash out of my pocket and my hard earned vacation time . I am not shy about telling people to mind their buisness but I had a guy today act like I owed him an explanation of some sort and he just kept popping off and saying what a quiter I am.I just wish I could slap a gag on his big mouth and put tape over it !

[pumpkin07 32]

YA - been there. I had one lady really try to talk me out of it. Such that I didn't feel comfortable discussing it with her further. Now I've lost 72 lbs and she never said a word about it even when we go to lunch . AWKWARD...right? I mean, I've gone from 220 to 148 and from size 20-22 to 8-10. Kinda the elephant in the room. But she keeps to it by never mentioning it. If I say anything about the surgery she is silent. Nothing. She is overweight but wouldnt consider weight loss surgery bc she thinks it is dangerous and probably bc she is very spiritual and believes it would be against her Christian beliefs. She is very evangelical at her non denom church, so I guess that is against their beliefs.

So she is still heavy.

It is hard for me to see if it is a spiritual thing, because she is so religious surely if anyone could lose it that way it would be her. I believe it starts out spiritual sometimes but winds up being a physical problem that sort of sustains itself in a very self defeating way.

So we're still friends, but I just try not to mention it.

IN hindsight, I would not have told most people. I came ot realize a) no one wants to know and no one wants to know. Not fat people, skinny people, old people, young people. Most people seem to be against WLS.

One time though a girl at office got a boob job. No one was against that I guess, or no one said. She was very very flat like a pancake. SO when she walked in you could not help but keep staring at her chest. It was so funny. She didn't know we knew I think, it was not discussed at all. But I learned that day if I ever get a boob job no one will know except my husband. And it wouldn't be adding anything anyway. Just moving them from the floor to the ceiling.