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Hello "sleevers", and "sleevers to be". I am scheduled to have my sleeve on November 1st. Exactly 2 months away with Dr Zane at Kaiser Harbor City and I am having major anxiety over this HUGE decision. I know most people here who view the forums are those that have already had the surgery, but I'm wondering if anyone actually just simply changed their mind and just lost weight on their own. Somebody? . . . Anybody? . . . lol

One 1 hand it seems so unnatural, eating such small amounts of food for the rest of your life, not being able to drink large amounts of any liquids (Water included) at one time.

But on the other hand of course there are quite a bit of benefits.

I guess I am in the category of just simply being "morbid obese" but have no other medical issues (yet). But I'm able to go to the gym and work out so I kinda feel like if I Really put my mind to it I can do it. I have been going to the gym faithfully for the past month and have lost 23 lbs. this first month. IT's like as soon as I got my surgery date I got this high surge of motivation/energy out of nowhere to "prepare" for my surgery . . . that I don't know if I still want.

Anybody else in the same boat?

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Nope, I didn't have any doubts whatsoever. I was excited as could be to finally get off the roller coaster. I was "only" morbidly obese myself with no co-morbidities other than aches, pains, no energy, no self esteem and just generally feeling like a slug 24/7. I never had any trouble losing weight over the years when I put my mind to it, it was keeping it off that was the devil for me and I think I speak for most of us here.

YOU, on the other hand, must be 100% sure that this is for you, it's major, drastic, last resort stuff. If you can tackle the situation with diet and exercise, fantastic!! Then yes, maybe you should wait a year or so and see how the diet goes. To be successful with the sleeve, you must be in the right mindset or things will be so much more difficult for you.

Oh, and what we eat is by no means unnatural. What I USED to eat was very unnatural and look what it got me. I feel what I eat now is the most natural thing in the world at about 1200-1400 calories per day. This is how humans are supposed to eat, actually. Same with drinking. The first few months are tough with drinking, at least they were for me, but it's sorted itself out. I work out a lot and need to drink a lot and I do. I easily get in 100 oz per day, more on workout days. I'm a little over seven months out.

You are being very responsbile voicing your concerns and maybe NOT going through with it, by the way. Good for you.

Good luck whatever you decide!!!

Carol

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Thanks so much Carol. Your oppinion is very much appreciated. 1200-1400 calories is what I'm doing now on my "diet". Maybe I'm focusing too much on what people are eating immediately post op (500 calories a day).

So what is a typical day for you (or any other post sleevers who read this) food wise? Breakfast lunch and dinner?

Thanks so much! :-)

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I was having thoughts about not doing the surgery then I realized that I had been here before... I have done the jenny craig diet, the Atkins diet.. you name it I have tried it. Everything works well for awhile.. but, then I fall back into my old habbits and I gain everything back and then some. So for me this is the extra kick in the ass that I need to get my life straigthened out. I want to live longer, happier, and healthier. I want to go on a hike with my husband. I am missing out on a lot of life and I am willing to do this surgery and completely change my life to have one again.

The hard times do not last forever... i can and will do this!

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I hear you. I think that's what I feel too. I have done just about everything and been successful, but then of course I've also gained everything I've lost right on back.

I think it's normal to feel afraid/scared/anxious. I think what makes it worse is this waiting period. The idle time makes me think about it even more. 2 whole months to wait and almost 9 plus months with this whole process altogether.

But in the end it'll be worth it. I feel so much better now. I'm not the only one who feels like this, but I know I need to not have any doubts and just commit and succeed! :-)

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I would of loved to be losing my excess wight by Gym and diet alone but there comes a time when you have to wake up and smell the coffee.< /p>

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I always thought of WLS as a bit bizarre until I heard some lectures on obesity in medical school and the expert (physician, not surgeon) who lectured to us told us that only 2% of obese people can lose the excess weight and keep it off for 5 years. He also told us that he believed WLS to be the ONLY treatment for obesity for the remaining 98%. After doing more research into the physiology of obesity, it suddenly made sense that surgical treatment was the way to go. Of course, surgery is a big thing, it's irreversible, and I really wish we could just pop a pill instead, but it's not an option now. Maybe one day there'll be a pill to suppress ghrelin, but probably not until we reach retirement age.

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I've had my doubts occassionally, especially since I lost 30 lbs in 6 weeks preparing for the surgery ( I still don't have a date, hopefully the end of September). However, I have lost that much and more before and put all of it plus more back on. It is scary, but I am looking forward to be able to do things I've put off in the past. Like going to the theatre, flying, walking in the mall, etc. It would be nice to be able to buy clothes in regular stores again, I've already outgrown two plus size stores.

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Definitely troll the boards here.. you will see you are not alone. Everyone feels worried about their choice and thinks about it twice or twelve hundred times before doing the surgery hehe. All I can say is RESEARCH and more research. The more I read about the procedure and followed people on their individual journies, the more I realized this is the step I want to take. Am I scared? Damn right, but I am not willing to continue in the same patterns that have made up my life until now. Day 3 of the liquid diet and I was close to tears when a coworker brought in a chili dog but I refuse to give in. Raaar!:001_smile:

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I could have written your exact post. I too got a surge of motivation pre-sleeve and lost a bunch of weight myself and it seemed so EASY that I thought maybe I should delay this and do it myself. But then I realized I am great at losing weight.. I just couldn't maintain the food and exercise effort at such an intense level that I needed to keep the weight off.

Since having the sleeve, since day 1 really, I feel like I will really just BEAT it once and for all now instead of yo-yo-ing. It's such a relief.

PS: I can drink fine, I'm 5 weeks postop.

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Hello "sleevers", and "sleevers to be". I am scheduled to have my sleeve on November 1st. Exactly 2 months away with Dr Zane at Kaiser Harbor City and I am having major anxiety over this HUGE decision. I know most people here who view the forums are those that have already had the surgery, but I'm wondering if anyone actually just simply changed their mind and just lost weight on their own. Somebody? . . . Anybody? . . . lol

One 1 hand it seems so unnatural, eating such small amounts of food for the rest of your life, not being able to drink large amounts of any liquids (Water included) at one time.

But on the other hand of course there are quite a bit of benefits.

I guess I am in the category of just simply being "morbid obese" but have no other medical issues (yet). But I'm able to go to the gym and work out so I kinda feel like if I Really put my mind to it I can do it. I have been going to the gym faithfully for the past month and have lost 23 lbs. this first month. IT's like as soon as I got my surgery date I got this high surge of motivation/energy out of nowhere to "prepare" for my surgery . . . that I don't know if I still want.

Anybody else in the same boat?

I do not have a date yet...but I understand how you feel I have been going to the gym 3 times a week and I've lost 15lbs now wearing some clothes from the back of my closet....lol

The last few days I've been thinking about not doing this and continuing my gym membership...but then I thought about the 89lbs lost in 2005 gained back...65lbs in 2006 gained back....etc Now I've decided to look at the weight loss as a stepping stone to my new life after my sleeve and the new energy as starting my journey the right way. If we did not have doubt we would not be human....:):confused1::confused1::confused1::confused1:

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I'm 12 days out. I already can drink the same way I drink before the VSG. food is a little more difficult, but I'm alble to take any Soup with meat pieces easily.

I also was so much afraid to regret, but now that is done no regrets I whould do it again.

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I too, am great at losing weight. Lost 40 preop, over 4 months. But what I cannot do is keep it off. I am in the 98% that BBJ talks about. I have lost and gained 250lbs twice in my lifetime of yo yo dieting and this is literally killing me. I like the idea of finally being in control with the tool to help me.

Today I started soft foods and after 20 days of liquids, I have to say, I was thrilled. I ate a scrambled egg with cheese for Breakfast. Actually, could only eat half and was full. Then I ate a stick of string cheese for lunch. For dinner I had wild sockeye salmon that I broiled, with some wasabi, ginger and soy sauce and green onions chopped very tiny. It was sooooo good. But I could only about 3 oz. So guess what I am eating tomorrow? :)

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I felt the exact same way since I was so successful at losing during the Options classes. And I feel this is exactly why Kaiser patients are so well prepared by the time they have surgery. It's so great that you're thinking long and hard about this and you have the opportunity to "weigh" (ha ha) all your "options" ha ha (I crack myself up). I can offer you this: with all my thorough thinking and even though I knew I was so sure about going through with it, the moment I woke up from surgery I said "why didn't someone talk me out of this?" (But I was just a miserable whiney surgery patient). But now? I love it. Every day I feel like I have a secret weapon that has finally broken the pattern. I finally feel normal and have such comfort knowing the weight is off for good. I have zero regrets. Zero. I can still eat whatever I want. I'm not deprived. Wish I had it done 10 years ago. Keep thinking and good luck on your decision!

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OMG I LOVE this forum/site. IT's the best! Everyone's input is greatly appreciated. I think Kaiser has prepared me well. I'm doing so good pre op that I know this sleeve will definitely be a success. I think my stomach is already "trained" at being content with smaller amounts of foods because I watch my Portion Control in a major way and literally log every single calorie I put in my mouth (gotta love iphone apps!)

I already am prepared to wake up from my surgery full of regrets initially because I do NOT tolerate pain very well. But I'm sure I'll be just fine. I am 110% sure that I'm going to do this. And the more weight I lose pre op the more successful my surgery will be and the less I'll have to lose after.

Thanks again everyone. Enjoy your long labor day wknd! :-)

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