Lapband Just Did Not Work For Me

[meyouus 415]

Good, paragraphs!

Please just don't give up, that would break our collective heart.

You did come to the General Support Forum, just sayin. I support you...

[womanof1000secrets 4]

Thank you, Polly (aspiring evangelist)

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

I am alot of things but a mean thin girl and pompous I am not. I am sorry you took it that way. But I don't sugar coat it and I have been around long enough to know that when my dr told me the band will do 70% of the work he means that when properly restricted the band can prevent over eating but it cannot stop you from eating the wrong things or eating too much of the wrong things too often he was right.

Since you didn't state the calories or tracking methods you used I had no idea you were doing that. Your post did come off as being angry at the world and this must be everything or everyone's fault. If you didnt mean it you should try to convey your feelings more accurately as unfortunately we can only read what you write.

In the 4th paragraph of your original post you specifically said I stop eating when I am full. I was saying that we shouldn't eat until we are full. We should eat until we are satisfied.

When you post on a forum such as this you will get people who coddle, who stroke and people like me who cannot under stand how if you ate 900 calories you didn't lose weight. But since you say that's what you did I believe you must have an underlying medical reason for not losing weight because the math doesn't add up.

If you feel you need a new dr then by all means get one who specializes in the band and had a good staff who will give you step by step instructions. Mine did and I couldn't have done it without him.

As far as my success..... I am damn proud of it and the point is if I can lose it...anyone can. The amount I needed to lose was huge... But no matter how much one has to lose.... had it not worked after 3 or 6 months I would have turned every stone to find out why. It just didn't seem like you did that. If I misunderstood then I regret that but I still would tell you to channell your energies into finding out why instead of resigning to the fact that the band failed you.

[meyouus 415]

Thank you, Polly (aspiring evangelist)

NO religious affiliation! "Aspiring Evangelist" is a name LBT gives to mass poster's.

[2muchfun 8,927]

I gotta back up Floridays and marfar here. If you're looking to be baby'd and coddled, this is the place to come. It's also the place to come to if you want or don't want the hard truth.

I lost 12 lbs the first 2 weeks and then nothing for nearly 4 months. I didn't throw in the towel. If you're looking for consoling for giving up after 3 short months, I can't help you. Sounds to me like you're looking for consoling or affirmation that giving up was the right path?

And it aint being mean Cheri. Enabling someone can also be mean. We all have different paths here and we all advise and support differently. That's why this is such a great forum.

tmf

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

NO religious affiliation! "Aspiring Evangelist" is a name LBT gives to mass poster's.

You know you can change that if you want to on your profile...not sure where exactly but I managed to find it one day... Just in case you wondered.

[meyouus 415]

FLORIDAYS demeanor was heavy. Maybe this ONE time, womanofa1000secrets needed an ear, support. FLORIDAYS can be harsh but she's almost always right. Her approach is just not for everyone. Nevertheless, I look to her for advice.

[FLORIDAYS 3,040]

FLORIDAYS demeanor was heavy. Maybe this ONE time, womanofa1000secrets needed an ear, support. FLORIDAYS can be harsh but she's almost always right. Her approach is just not for everyone. Nevertheless, I look to her for advice.

. That's the beauty of a public forum.... If you throw it out there ... You will get lots of different styles and hopefully one will fit yours.

So now I may need to start my own support thread as I have been called harsh, mean and pompous.... Hmmm maybe I need to just go to bed.

[meyouus 415]

But I think you're keen, FLORIDAYS! :wub:

True, the forum brings many styles of poster's but it also brings many different styles of listeners!

[destynee1 417]

Don't give up.. find out everything you can about what is going on with you. Just very odd and you need to absolutely address it.. which you have.. grab the bull by the balls!

Floriday's is straight forward and will say what she thinks, it is her way of helping and isn't meant to be mean or insensitive. She gives information to try to help.. don't take offense hun..

I can only imagine how fustrating it must be to not lose weight after being excited.. pumped going into this. We all face mountains from time to time, climb it, and you will get there. I know you have been doing what you are suppose to be doing, there is something Clearly wrong.. talk to dr's and get 2nd and 3rd opinions if need be. Anything.. but don't give up.!

Good luck to you.. and if you need someone to talk to.. message me anytime. *hugs*!

~kayna

[womanof1000secrets 4]

Thank you kayna

[123crod 170]

I think there are different ways to say things. It just seemed a little mean FLORIDAYS . . . hey look at your weightloss, you DO seem to know how to work with the Band. Congratulations on your weightloss it is GREAT!. And I take back my mean remark now since I reread everything.

Sometimes we need a "nice understanding" post and some with "lots of advice" and of course the "Kick in the Butt". I have needed the "kick in the butt" many times.myself, I have also given the "kick in the butt" reply to others.

I am not enabler, I just felt a connection with her words. Sometimes we need to be welcomed in before we get the kick in the butt. I did not baby her I told true facts. She was angry at a lot of people including herself, no Doctor should talk that way, unless they were sitting at the next table by you at pizza Hut and watched you down a whole pizza. I would not put up with an unprofessional Dr. I would leave. After the past 3 years being banded and on the message board. I have seen a lot of people that were treated that way and thought it was normal.

My Dr saw all his LapBanders and did their fills himself not a nurse or PA. He was ALWAYS respectful and nice and very encouraging. Wish everyone had that. We should all be nice and help each other. With written words it is hard to know the what the same words spoken would sound like.

cheri

[Maddysgram 6,159]

NO religious affiliation! "Aspiring Evangelist" is a name LBT gives to mass poster's.

Polly, after you hit 500 post you can change the name to whatever you want, through my settings in profile. J/S

[erin313 44]

I agree, find a new doctor! Don't let yourself be miserable just because your doctor was an unsupportive jerk. I drive almost 2 hours each way to see a good doctor and I can tell you, it makes all the difference in the world. A good doctor is concerned about his/her outcomes and wants to see the patients succeed and will work with you to help you through any issues you have. Good luck to you!

[4sweeties 63]

Just because a person or people loose weight with lapband, does not mean everyone can or that anyone can do it. There are medical reasons that can make this tool not work at its best. I know some insurences and some doctors make sure you go through a lot of medical testing pre surgery to make sure it is safe for you. I hope your doctor did this. Do you think you have a true medical problem causing you to gain weight? If so, try and narrow it down and go to that specialist. An ob, a gastro doctor....whatever area of your body does not seem to be working, see that specialist. Knowledge is power. If it turns out you do not have a medical problem that needs attention, then find a great nutritionist or therapist to help you through this. Do not give up on yourself. Follow the rules and see the doctors. and write a letter to the dr who said you are eating in your room at midnight and let him know how that made you feel. Then move on past him. Write a thank you note to the other doctor who was kind and considerate. Good luck with your journey.