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Hi...I don't even know where to start..I was seeing my doc every 6then the hurricane came and I didn't have an appt. I have felt turned off by good good all the healthy stuff I was eating depresses me now so I have been eating junk namely eggnog.. Tis the season...

I have gained at least 10lbs I made an appt to see my surgeon don't feel really supported there

I don't know how to get back on track how to like healthy good again and get motivated

Any suggestions?

Thanks!

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You know what you are doing now is wrong, and you know what to do that is right. Just DO IT!

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This weight loss battle is mostly all a head game for me. I have to remain focused on the prize...a healthier me! I no longer require a sleep machine my blood pressure and sugar are under control.YEA! A thinner me is a healthier me so I will slowly truck forward in my journey knowing my health is at risk. And that keeps me straight most of the time. I do have a moment now and again of cheating, i do get right back on track however. But for the most part I am in this to win! (My health that is!)

You have the strength within yourself just change your habits...if you eat while watching TV play cards or exercise while you drink lots of Water. You can do this!

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You cannot drink the eggnog if it isn't in your house. Also, that is all up to you. You can get fills, go to the dr, etc but eggnog is still going to go down just as easy,

Either add some Rum to it and really enjoy it or get rid of it (kidding obviously on the Rum).

None of us are perfect; however, you cannot blame it on the surgeons or not having an appt, etc. Your behaviors are what you have control over. Find some healthy alternatives, Also, eggnog is an easy fix. I suggest have healthy Snacks accessible so you can grab carrot sticks or something else instead. I bet if you actually got back to the basics of eating 3-4 ounces of Protein, then veggies you would stay fuller longer and not continue gaining. Are you exercising? That will make a huge difference. Not only will you burn calories, but it is a great disctraction and the endorphines that release make you feel better.

Is there a support group in your area? You should look into that as well. Get the crap foods out of the house for your own good.

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Just start over. I have been banded over 3 years and I start new all the time. Forgive yourself and move forward. Just think if we stopped at 10 lbs when we all first started gaining we would never have needed the band. You can lose 10 easier than 15, 20 or more. Don't wait start over. We are all doing it too you are not alone!

cheri

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I agree forgive yourself and from this min ...Get back on track...

This may sound harsh...and Im sure I will get mean comments but...

Its in our own hands...if we want some one to say Ooo I understand we have all been there..its ok....have the egg nog....

but thats really what we dont need to hear...you have to just dump it down the sink....I made banana breads yesterday and as soon as I was done mixing I stuck that bowl under the soapy Water so I wouldnt lick the bowl like I did every other time....take control hun...YOU CAN DO THIS....if you want it bad enough ~hugs~

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Thanks everyone for responding... I've done we'll today I even went to the gym! My roommate and I are supposed to decorate the apartment for the holidays tonight and she's bringing home EGGNOG!!!! AAAGH! I will say no thank you and revel in the festivities... Thanks again :-)

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I agree forgive yourself and just get back on track. You have been. Through a lot. The hurricane was an unexpected obstical.

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You may want to talk to your roommate too about not bringing that home, if it is a weakness for you. Is she bringing it home for you or for her? If she is bringing it for you, it is important to be strong and say no and please don't bring those things home for you any longer. You need to get serious about eating better and making better choices.

I have seen some cases where a close friend, or loved one brought stuff in the house to sabotage the other as they were jealous or resentful. Not saying this is the case but just be mindful if it is.

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Having been in a roommate situation you can't really ask a roommate not to eat things that they want to eat it is after all their house too. Especially at the beginning this is willpower diet. I would start off the new week going back to the healthy eating habits that you had started off with. In addition to healthy eating habits you can also make going to the gym a habit. Believe it or not you can get to the point where is skipping a workout depresses you. I plan on going to the gym 7 days a week and if I miss a day I really miss it. Also if you join some kind of class (I go to Water aerobics ) people expect you to be there and will comment when you miss a day.

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Hi...I don't even know where to start..I was seeing my doc every 6then the hurricane came and I didn't have an appt. I have felt turned off by good good all the healthy stuff I was eating depresses me now so I have been eating junk namely eggnog.. Tis the season...

I have gained at least 10lbs I made an appt to see my surgeon don't feel really supported there

I don't know how to get back on track how to like healthy good again and get motivated

Any suggestions?

Thanks!

I'm sorry you are having such troubles, it really sucks when you succumb to the desire to eat bad food. Healthy foods don't always have to be no fun. Be creative with your cooking, plan your meals and journal what you eat and drink (be honest) and start all over, as if you were a new bandster. Use the net to find creative healthy foods, they're everywhere. I know how you feel, but you can do it!

BTW, I looked up "Generic Eggnog" on myfitnesspal and these are the stats on eggnog...

Per ONE CUP

354 calories

34 carbs

19 g fat

10 Protein

This alone ought to keep you from ever drinking eggnog again! I know it's awesome and it's the season, but you must not drink it! Do you drink coffee? If so, they have eggnog flavored creamer.It's not really good for you either, but it's better than full on eggnog.

Please hang on, it's extremely hard sometimes and you want to quit, but don't. You are a worthy person, treat yourself as such. I wish you much success....

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It might help you to look at food/drink as a percentage of your total daily consumption. For example 350 cals is a total meal for me. So drinking 8 oz of dessert would not be my first choice. Also 19 g fat would be almost be a daily allotment.

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