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I never thought this would be so hard for me, before I was banded I wasn't this hungry or weak. I know I was just banded like five days ago but this is so hard or maybe I'm just weak, I know you all did it, so I feel like such an ass for feeling like this.

I am trying so hard, I guess I'm not as strong as I thought I was. I keep thinking I did the wrong thing by being banded, but it's probably just the hunger talking. I sound so disgusting right now.

and the self loathing isn't helping one bit.

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Cheer up girl! I got a few years on you, but our other numbers are about the same. I was an overnight stay and I think that helped me. I was good the day I went home, I live over an hour from the hospital and napped when I got in. Later that eveing I went out to watch my DH play pool. I also went the next to nights. The first week and few days went just fine. THEN, I got tired. I was glued to the sofa and I just had no energy or strenght. It lasted a few days and then was gone. Each of us will have a different experience, but try to follow the doc's intructions and you should be fine. I did some pre work, just because I know I am hard-headed and don't make changes easily. I went to my seminar in Nov. and started my changes then. I gave up sweet tea and lost 4 pounds in a week. I added the "new" habits until my surgery in March. Using the smaller plates, without seconds was a big one for me. You can, and will do this.

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Give yourself a break! I've been there too, so I can definitely relate. I could barely move off the couch my first week and I kept thinking what a mistake I had made. I cried all the time because I missed food so much and if I had to drink one more Protein Shake I was going to scream.

But I got through it, and so will you. That in itself will show you just how strong you really are. Don't beat yourself up, you're doing great and this too shall pass.

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I never thought this would be so hard for me, before I was banded I wasn't this hungry or weak. I know I was just banded like five days ago but this is so hard or maybe I'm just weak, I know you all did it, so I feel like such an ass for feeling like this.

I am trying so hard, I guess I'm not as strong as I thought I was. I keep thinking I did the wrong thing by being banded, but it's probably just the hunger talking. I sound so disgusting right now.

and the self loathing isn't helping one bit.

Erica , it does get better just follow the rules drink lots of fluids and get excited when mushy stage starts....mashed potatoes, refied Beans , lots of new things make you feel better again. The lapband is a journey. Im almost a year out and still from time to time have my struggles. but i look at my body and think Wow was i really that much bigger!!

It is a process with lots of learning curves.

Keep up the hard work,

Jennifer

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Erica,

I am also day 5 and I am 23 I have also been sitting at home feeling hungry and regret. Yesterday morning I woke up and felt like a new women but last night I was so weak and tired I could barley move!! I feel the same way you do trust me but were only day 5 and it will get better. Tomorrow I can eat yogurt and forthat I am so excited I just keep trying to stay busy, browsing online for new clothes I will fit in, reading magazines even calling up a relative an go for a short ride. It does suck right now I 100%agree with you but the benifets much out weigh the negatives and our growlig stomachs right now!

Good luck and stay strong

Lb love

J

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It gets easier!! I remember the first night I got home, crying...thinking what have I done to myself! But here I am 3 months later, 43 pounds lighter--the lap band was the best decision I ever made! Stay strong--and know it will get better.

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I never thought this would be so hard for me, before I was banded I wasn't this hungry or weak. I know I was just banded like five days ago but this is so hard or maybe I'm just weak, I know you all did it, so I feel like such an ass for feeling like this.

I am trying so hard, I guess I'm not as strong as I thought I was. I keep thinking I did the wrong thing by being banded, but it's probably just the hunger talking. I sound so disgusting right now.

and the self loathing isn't helping one bit.

Woah woah woah, Erica! Give yourself a break! I can guarantee you that you will feel better soon. I was really weak after surgery - I think I napped every day for two weeks and had a pretty good headache most of that time. Do your best to get your Protein shakes in (if your doctor allows them at this stage). Before you know it, you will have moved on to the mushies and that can be fun.

It's totally normal to be down or worried and hating yourself for having to do this to yourself but let me tell you this - you won't feel that way 50 pounds from now. Just be gentle with yourself for now. Rest, drink and look forward to the positive changes.

You can do this! Chin up!

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I am EXACTLY where you are, Erica! I was a MESS last night! Wondering what the hell I've done to myself, HUNGRY...Feeling down..-even thinking of having it taken out! and I was JUST banded Wednesday!! They say it gets better...So I just have to believe. The Soups that I get to eat are making today SO much better! My mom picked up some low-fat/low sodium creamed Tomato and corn Soups from Trader Joes, so at least it keeps the "pangs from hell" at bay! Hang in there girl! I will be too!!:) Mushies here we come!

I never thought this would be so hard for me, before I was banded I wasn't this hungry or weak. I know I was just banded like five days ago but this is so hard or maybe I'm just weak, I know you all did it, so I feel like such an ass for feeling like this.

I am trying so hard, I guess I'm not as strong as I thought I was. I keep thinking I did the wrong thing by being banded, but it's probably just the hunger talking. I sound so disgusting right now.

and the self loathing isn't helping one bit.

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Thank you everyone! You have no idea how much waking up to these messages helped me. I had a terrible night. I was hungry, in pain and it was a birthday in my family so everyone was running around eating cake and all this good food and I was sitting there sipping on Water. I'm still not 100% today, but much better than I was last night. I know I am going to be happy when this is all over, I just guess the hardest thing for me is that I haven't been feeling full and I'm so scared that it's going to always be like this and I am going through this for nothing. I guess I need to concentrate on healing like everyone says. We can get through this, I can, everyone else can and has and it will all be worth it.

Again thank you all so much for your kind words. Feel free to add me :) I really need a support system cause I'm really alone at home :(

<3

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You know, most of us go into this surgery in a "fairly healthy" condition. I mean, we might have diabetes, or high blood pressure, but we aren't acutely ill. We walk into the hospital under our own power then get cut on, get our innards pushed around, wrapped up, our stomachs stitched over the band, and then we get sealed up.

Although everyone says this is "minimally invasive" surgery, I say it is still one heck of a trauma! You go in healthy and come out sick. You haven't eaten much in days, it hurts to move, but you have to move. Everything takes five times more effort than ever.

Keep healing and following your doctor's orders. it will get better!

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Thank you!! I feel this way too!! I am getting through this one day at a time. day nine here for me and thinking...was it really that bad to be fat?

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(((Hugs)))

I was a complete emotional mess about 5 days after surgery as well. I wasnt in pain, I was just so very weak and tired. The Protein Shakes were starting to make me dry heave. I ended up adding some Soup and cottage cheese in addition to the Protein shakes I was supposed to be drinking. It made the world of difference in how I felt. I dont suggest you go against your doctor orders, I'm just sharing what worked for me.

It will get better...just hang in there.

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Erica, I was allowed Protein Drinks early on and they made a big difference for me. They provided the engery I needed, or at least a little. Just follow the intructions the doc gave and everything will be fine.

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