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I need some words of encouragement to get back on track. One year ago I was down to 174lbs. I felt better and looked better than I ever had in my life. I also met the woman of my dreams. I fell in love and the two of us have become very happy and content with each other.

The only problem...I have also lost focus of all the hard work that I put in to get where I was. I find myself eating things that I would never dreamed of eating a year ago. A few drinks here and there. And I have gone from exercising 2 to 3 hours a day to barely at all. I am back up to 195. I feel terrible. I know now is the time to get this under control before it goes any further. I'm just not sure how. I get up everyday and tell myself get back on track. I can do it for a few days and then I slip up again.

I still see my doctor regularly, going again this week. I am thinking about asking for another fill. Although I am honestly not sure if that is the smart thing to do. Day to day it varies. Sometimes I can sit down and eat a meal like I don't even have a band, other times one or two bites and I'm in terribly pain.

When I first started this I was on this forum all day long. Looking for inspiration and motivation. I'm back. I need help, I do not want to go back to that old person that I was. I refuse to.

So today I start again. I am a smart person and I know what to do to get this under control. I'm sure there are other folks out there that have been and still are where I am. We hear it all the time...lap band isn't an easy fix. It is a tool to help you along with lifestyle changes. You can't go back to your old way of living and expect to never gain the weight back. It takes work every day.

Wish me luck...

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Get the fill. I recently found myself in a similar situation, suddenly found myself almost15 pounds up...went in for a fill and it worked for me!

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Ya, I would say you might need a "small" fill, but you can do this. You say you used to exercise 2 to 3 hours a day and now hardly at all. Maybe you should get back to exercising, just an hour a day may solve your problem. You know, you are going to have a drink here and there or eat something that's probably not the greatest choice once in a while but don't let all you did slip away! Your in love and like to go out and have a drink and dinner... there are healthy choices that are good and remember to recongnize being full! Now is the time to get back to it before it gets out of hand. Best of luck to you. YOU CAN DO IT!!!

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When you have trouble eating is it in the morning? Most people at restriction have trouble in the morning. I am definatly tighter in the morning then in the afternoon. My other question is what are you eating and exactly how much? When you have things you "should'nt" is it one oreo a day or is it 2-3 oreos 2-3 times a day? Have you gone from exercising hours every day to never, or one hour 2-3 times a week?

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I lost 70 pounds, then got off track. I gained 30 pounds and was devastated. I went and got a fill and am now almost where I was. It did take a fill to get me on track. It sounds like you have a great attitude and are very motivated. You can do it, I have no doubt; it's just that you have been on Cloud 9 lately and it's hard to focus on that amazing woman and your weight. Back to reality time (haha), just pay attention to both!!

Good luck! :)

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Thanks for the replies folks!!

I am not here to make excuses. I know I have been slipping up big time.

Honk - to answer your questions...I never have any trouble eating in the morning, although the only thing I ever eat for Breakfast is oatmeal. So maybe since its mushy anyhow it just goes on down without a problem. I eat a ton of salads, they seem to give me the least amount of problems. I run into trouble when I add in the Protein. Somesdays I can eat an entire grilled chicken salad with no problems, the next day I'll be lucky to get a couple bites down. If its just the salad without any Protein I'm fine.

Like I said I'm not here to make excuses, and for the most part I still make good food choices for my meals. My problem is with inbetween meals and late at night. I completely admit I am eating the wrong foods. As far as the exercise goes, once again I admit it fell completely to the side. I have started back up a few times a week for the past couple weeks.

Yesterday was a fresh start for me. I feel like I have my focus back to where it needs to be and I getting back on track. I have gone back to doing something that I really believe helped me with the weight loss. Drinking Water and lots of it. I hit the eliptical machine again for the first time in months and found that I had actually forgot how good I felt after a good workout.

I have been overweight my entire life...over 300lbs for as long as I can remember. I lost the weight and like everyone else swore to myself that I would never regain a pound of it. It's not that easy. This is going to be something that I have to work with everyday for the rest of my life.

Thanks for listening and your words of encouragement. It really does help to know that I am not alone in this.

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Have you ever heard people talk about after you get married (or shack up) you get "fat and happy"? I think you are going to be just fine because you are catching it before you pack on too much weight. I am glad to hear you are being pro-active to get back on track... and congrats on meeting the girl of your dreams!!

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I need some words of encouragement to get back on track. One year ago I was down to 174lbs. I felt better and looked better than I ever had in my life. I also met the woman of my dreams. I fell in love and the two of us have become very happy and content with each other.

The only problem...I have also lost focus of all the hard work that I put in to get where I was. I find myself eating things that I would never dreamed of eating a year ago. A few drinks here and there. And I have gone from exercising 2 to 3 hours a day to barely at all. I am back up to 195. I feel terrible. I know now is the time to get this under control before it goes any further. I'm just not sure how. I get up everyday and tell myself get back on track. I can do it for a few days and then I slip up again.

I still see my doctor regularly, going again this week. I am thinking about asking for another fill. Although I am honestly not sure if that is the smart thing to do. Day to day it varies. Sometimes I can sit down and eat a meal like I don't even have a band, other times one or two bites and I'm in terribly pain.

When I first started this I was on this forum all day long. Looking for inspiration and motivation. I'm back. I need help, I do not want to go back to that old person that I was. I refuse to.

So today I start again. I am a smart person and I know what to do to get this under control. I'm sure there are other folks out there that have been and still are where I am. We hear it all the time...lap band isn't an easy fix. It is a tool to help you along with lifestyle changes. You can't go back to your old way of living and expect to never gain the weight back. It takes work every day.

Wish me luck...

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Awww...good luck then! You CAN do it!

You sound like you're in the comfort zone we all get to in relationships. I was a size 8 the day I got married, now 12 years later.....here I am on lapbandtalk.com for obvious reasons! You already know what you need to do, you don't need any of us telling you how to eat. What if you tried thinking that you are doing this for her? Obviously it's a personal thing and we lose weight for OURSELVES, but sometimes I think I should stay on track, because I think my husband would appreciate his skinny wife back. food for thought :)

I need some words of encouragement to get back on track. One year ago I was down to 174lbs. I felt better and looked better than I ever had in my life. I also met the woman of my dreams. I fell in love and the two of us have become very happy and content with each other.

The only problem...I have also lost focus of all the hard work that I put in to get where I was. I find myself eating things that I would never dreamed of eating a year ago. A few drinks here and there. And I have gone from exercising 2 to 3 hours a day to barely at all. I am back up to 195. I feel terrible. I know now is the time to get this under control before it goes any further. I'm just not sure how. I get up everyday and tell myself get back on track. I can do it for a few days and then I slip up again.

I still see my doctor regularly, going again this week. I am thinking about asking for another fill. Although I am honestly not sure if that is the smart thing to do. Day to day it varies. Sometimes I can sit down and eat a meal like I don't even have a band, other times one or two bites and I'm in terribly pain.

When I first started this I was on this forum all day long. Looking for inspiration and motivation. I'm back. I need help, I do not want to go back to that old person that I was. I refuse to.

So today I start again. I am a smart person and I know what to do to get this under control. I'm sure there are other folks out there that have been and still are where I am. We hear it all the time...lap band isn't an easy fix. It is a tool to help you along with lifestyle changes. You can't go back to your old way of living and expect to never gain the weight back. It takes work every day.

Wish me luck...

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