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I am right now fighting myself to let go of my comfort clothes (they are my 22/24 size shirts)...I am now 14/16 in shirts. Don't get me wrong, I've gotten rid of a lot of big clothes but...

There's something about those shirts...those shirts that hide those back rolls so well not to mention my pot belly...those shirt which, in my mind, create some sort of optical illusion and "slims" me. But they're sooooooo big on me now! Seriously now. I can't believe how incredibly hard it is to let them go!

My friend suggested I put them in a box for my mental "just in case" and just leave them there until my brain catches up. What gives? I am literally clinging on to these clothes!

What has worked for you? Any tips and tricks on how to get over my "WAY TOO BIG CLOTHES" please advice and share on the moment when it finally clicked for you. Or does it ever?

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I haven't lost as many sizes as you I don't think but I did have to part with some of my comfort clothes. I dearly loved what I called my tent dresses, they now belong to my sister who has always been bigger than me. Even though I knew she needed them it was hard. One thing that help was when I put on a smaller shirt not tight just smaller I saw me a bit smaller. I could see that the triplets I'd been carrying around were gone.....I still wanted to keep, for me it was that just in case thing. I've been t4elling myself its ok I'm never going back there. Now that I've done it I've thought about them a few times. Its strange but I miss them, the thought that I could throw them on and cover some of me was comforting. Not to mention it was hard to find them. I guess I'll dread it each time I do it. The only other thing thats helped is telling myself if this fails who cares, fat clothes are never pretty, I would just be fat in a tent dress. I'm headed down for a change. Good luck in letting go

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Well...a little update...

I have been doing what my friend suggested...

My friend suggested I put them in a box for my mental "just in case" and just leave them there until my brain catches up.

And guess what? It's been really working! Also, AT HOME I've been wearing all those cute outfits I never could wear because I couldn't fit into and/or which I never felt "BOLD" enough to wear for fear they would show my rolls etc... And my confidence keeps growing each day. I am even taking pictures of me in the cute outfits and that helps me really SEE my progress. I'm so glad!

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