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I love this topic and have proudly been a member of the "whore club" for years. Well when I was playing...currently on a hiatus...to focus on me...wth was I thinking? argh!:unsure:

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ok, if you are a whore froggi wonder what i am going to get...

I would love for hubby to (hmm, how did u put it) "give me to swallow". but he never has, ever, with anyone, that way. we have been married 5 years and i try not to take this personally, but after 5 years, i do.

now before anyone gives me tips/hints, etc, let me tell you, i used to enjoy, no LOVE doing this, a couple of times, even as much as they (before hubby) did. In the past i have been told i am skilled. but anyway, i'm feeling not so skilled now. i have read books, have tried many different positions, locations, length of time, you name it, still no final results.

sometimes i dont even understand why he asks for it. like "road head", why would you want that if there is no final result? like i said, i used to enjoy it, but now, i just get frustrated and discouraged.

i've never talked with anyone else about this, i'm just barely starting to talk to him about how i feel about it. he has no problems any other way, just orally.

Have you told him it's okay ? Maybe he (subconsciously) feels like it wouldn't be good to let go like that, in your mouth?

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Have you told him it's okay ? Maybe he (subconsciously) feels like it wouldn't be good to let go like that, in your mouth?

Yes, definitely! To be honest, I recently learned something about his childhood (which is what I suspected) and I assume that is the issue. I don't push it. No reason for us both to be stressing about it.

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I got called a whore by some people for asking :embaressed_smile: but yeah I really wanted to know about the amount not the calories lol

Im so glad you asked !!!:D :D I had the same question, i also swallow and Was scared for the first few times, lol its so much worse to not swallow, what are people thinking, holding it in you mouth till u get to a sink? ewwww i thnk not swallowing is gross !!

But Im glad u asked, i knew it was protien,and i really dont think there is anything bad in it

I was about to go on a gay lapband site to ask !!:lol:

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kinda funny reading through this...

I was just thinking it was a liquid and you should wait at least 30 minutes after eating solids;) lol

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It really does depend on how tight you are, how thick it is and how much he cums....it CAN choke you if it is too thick and too fast.....been there done that gagged and barfed....

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(TMI ALERT!!!)

The thrill to know that I am in charge of that one thing, controlling every angle movement and speed ... its wow .... it just flat does it for me ...

(/end tmi)

Can't believe I AM saying this...but i AGREE!!! It kinda makes me feel powerful to know that I DID THAT...lol you know?Like...oh hell yeah...that's alllll because of me...yep...

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I've never had a problem before or after banding. Keep on doing what works for the both of you. The calories aren't enough to matter. I want to know how many grams of Protein I'm getting from my "snack."

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I know this thread is old... But I think guys say they never have just to get girls to try!

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