partners reactions

Joyce in VA · April 23, 2005

My Husband says he would not go through the surgery but If I wanted to it was fine with him. Most of you have gone to other countries to get yours since it was cheaper but what do you do about the fills?

bandit · April 23, 2005

Wow, I just read this thread finally. I had never read it because Im not married and it didnt really have anything to do with my situation. But I just wanted to say how lucky u all r for having such wonderful life partners.....ur all very blessed!

HarleyNana · April 23, 2005

My dh was all for it if it made me happy. He did ask one time if they insurance was paying for it, it didn't matter if they were or not I was having it done, then I told him to go count his Harley's. He never mentioned the price again, LOL.

alatina · April 24, 2005

mine was completely leery-he doesnt feel confident in the Mexico factor but he supports and trusts me-he always backs me 150% in everything-sadly he will be leaving to go out of town on a business trip 2 days after I get home but hopefully when he returns in 2 weeks I will look and feel different

I am being Banded on Wednesday by Dr Kuri in Tijuana

I am praying to be 127 by xmas!!!I am 210 now

patty · April 24, 2005

My boyfriend has been very supportive, he has even come to support meetings with me. I was planning on a gastric bypass a couple of years ago, he was totally against that. At the time I was going to have surgery there was a lot of bad press about the bypass.

Patty

Jammin & Losin · April 24, 2005

My hubby has been very suportive through the whole process. He knows how hard I've tried to lose weight in the past and he just wants me to be healthy!!!

panda6 · April 24, 2005

My husband was nervous. He is very thin and didn't realize how much my weight bothered me since I was at my largest when I met him. After I explained the way I felt everyday..fat and unattractive..he said "whatever you need to make yourself feel better." Now that I am losing he is nervous I will "leave him for a rich man." I just told him if I wanted to marry a rich man I could have but I chose him (Iwas dating one when I met him.) Now I am nervous he won't like me skinny, LOL. I will say one thing even with just 30 lbs off our romance is much better!!! My self confidence is much higher which I am sure helps in that area.

hagerteresa · April 24, 2005

Joyce, I absolutely had a fill doctor lined up in my area who would take me even though I was having my surgery done elsewhere. That is one of the single biggest mistakes people make when going out of country is not having the proper aftercare lined up. If you live close to the border I suppose its fine for those individuals but I live in Oregon and had no plans on going back to Mexico for aftercare.

Alatina, Congrats on you banding date coming up. It is possible for you to reach your goal by x-mas but don't be horribly disappointed if it doesn't happen too. Every person has a different experience regarding the speed of weight loss and the need for fills. I evidently set my goal to lose 100 lbs by the end of year one (I forgot about doing this but both my father in law and my mom happened to remind me of it this last week). Now I'm just 2 weeks shy of year one done with and I'm at an 89.6 lb loss. Seriously, I am perfectly fine with that. I still do have two weeks but I'll be happy just to officially get past the 90 lb loss mark. Good luck on your surgery, Teresa

Marimaru · April 25, 2005

My boyfriend was totally supportive. I was actually on vacation with my mom and sister when I decided to have it done (I was telling my mom about this new thing I'd read about and she said "you should do that, I'll pay for it). He said that I should do whatever makes me happy (I still can't get him to tell me what he was REALLY thinking). He was quite nervous about the Mexico prospect, but was quite calmed when we got there and he saw that it's not quite like he had in his head.

DeniseG · April 26, 2005

My husband and I had our surgery done 30minutes apart. It was actually his idea. He had to convince me. If he hadn't been insistent in getting it for himself I wouldn't have gotten it probably but, I wasn't going to let him lose weight if I couldn't too. I was 45 pounds heavier than him.

nick · April 26, 2005

I'm glad to hear that most of everyones partners,husbands,wifes have all had reservations.My partner is very well informed,even has spent hours researching all the aspects of banding, offered all kinds of help until it became a reality. Now all I hear is any possible negative one can come up with. All I keep doing is reasuring him that it will be alright. well if all go's well monday may 2nd i'll be banded and on my way !!!

debri85 · April 26, 2005

My husband was and is very supportive, he's been through EVERY diet attempt I've done and that's a lot of attempts in 33 years.

He was concerned and I'd have been upset if he hadn't been...after all, it IS surgery. I did have to recognize his concern(s) and give it the consideration it deserved afterall, when you are part of a couple, you should consider each others views.

It did help to know that the mortality rate for this one is like 1 in 10,000 and the rate for the more drastic one is 1 in 200 or 300...BIG difference.