Need Encouragement!

[AmberFL 231]

I need to lose 15lbs before getting to the next step for the surgery on my sleeve. I am just feeling discouraged about it. I weighed myself this and I am down some weight but not as much as I would like. I know this is a lifelong thing and I will always struggle with this.

Can you guys give me the pros and the motivation because right now I feel like I cant do this.

[Possum220 222]

You are right it is a long term thing. For a little perspective - You will be eating something for the rest of your life. The choice is do you eat something that will nourish your own body or eat empty calories that do nothing for nobody and make your body be sick and have to struggle through life? You got this. Pick yourself up and rejoice in life. Start a new hobby or make a new friend. Do something that you enjoy that doesnt involve copious amounts of food.

Having the sleeve is just another stepping stone. It will provide you with more skills and more control with food. It will be worthwhile.

Health is a long term goal. You wont see changes every single day but they will happen if you take care of the body that helps you get around in this world. The days turn into months and the months turn into years. If your are trying to heal your emotions with food you will fail every time. Decide. You really can do this.

A year on from having the bypass - I can go for walks. I sleep much better. I can buy clothes in a normal store. I am more confident and I now more active in community groups. I have made new friends. I can take care of myself and not need to rely on others. I feel so much better in my own skin.

You really do want to give yourself the gift of life. You got this.

Edited September 26, 2023 by Possum220

[New To This23 102]

Break it up into small goals, 2.5 lbs or 5 lbs at a time. Celebrate each goal you reach with something fun, but not food or drink-related. like watching a movie, getting your nails done, taking a bubble bath with a book you have wanted to read, making something, a painting, beaded jewelry etc. just throwing some ideas out there for ways to celebrate along the way, to make the 15 lbs less of a drag.

You can do this, and yeah it is a lifestyle change, but so is every "diet plan", once you get over this hurdle and have your surgery it will be a lot easier with a reduced stomach. I know you can do it!!

[firesafety 2]

11 hours ago, AmberFL said:

I need to lose 15lbs before getting to the next step for the surgery on my sleeve. I am just feeling discouraged about it. I weighed myself this and I am down some weight but not as much as I would like. I know this is a lifelong thing and I will always struggle with this.

Can you guys give me the pros and the motivation because right now I feel like I cant do this.

there are lots of people here to help you thru 1 day at a time - have you started your liquid diet as of yet? Do you feel hunger all the time? What do you really need at the moment?

me personally and just as frustrated and nervous as you are Amber.

[AmberFL 231]

On 9/25/2023 at 6:24 PM, Possum220 said:

You are right it is a long term thing. For a little perspective - You will be eating something for the rest of your life. The choice is do you eat something that will nourish your own body or eat empty calories that do nothing for nobody and make your body be sick and have to struggle through life? You got this. Pick yourself up and rejoice in life. Start a new hobby or make a new friend. Do something that you enjoy that doesnt involve copious amounts of food.

Having the sleeve is just another stepping stone. It will provide you with more skills and more control with food. It will be worthwhile.

Health is a long term goal. You wont see changes every single day but they will happen if you take care of the body that helps you get around in this world. The days turn into months and the months turn into years. If your are trying to heal your emotions with food you will fail every time. Decide. You really can do this.

A year on from having the bypass - I can go for walks. I sleep much better. I can buy clothes in a normal store. I am more confident and I now more active in community groups. I have made new friends. I can take care of myself and not need to rely on others. I feel so much better in my own skin.

You really do want to give yourself the gift of life. You got this.

thank you! From what I hearing I need to choose my hard, do I wanna be heavy and hurt or do I wanna eat better and live a better life? your right! I think my issue is I am putting this on a timeline and I need to remember that its an up and down side to side journey.

[AmberFL 231]

On 9/25/2023 at 7:57 PM, New To This23 said:

Break it up into small goals, 2.5 lbs or 5 lbs at a time. Celebrate each goal you reach with something fun, but not food or drink-related. like watching a movie, getting your nails done, taking a bubble bath with a book you have wanted to read, making something, a painting, beaded jewelry etc. just throwing some ideas out there for ways to Celebrate along the way, to make the 15 lbs less of a drag.

You can do this, and yeah it is a lifestyle change, but so is every "diet plan", once you get over this hurdle and have your surgery it will be a lot easier with a reduced stomach. I know you can do it!!

I love the idea of rewarding myself! 15lbs seemed so doable 2 weeks ago and now im like this is really hard! keep on keepin on!

[AmberFL 231]

On 9/25/2023 at 10:11 PM, firesafety said:

there are lots of people here to help you thru 1 day at a time - have you started your liquid diet as of yet? Do you feel hunger all the time? What do you really need at the moment?

me personally and just as frustrated and nervous as you are Amber.

No I haven't I am just on the first step to get scheduled for my surgery so right now I am doing WW trying to lose the 15lbs and then keep it off till surgery. I am doing a good job of trying to mirror the bariatric diet with lots of Protein so the hunger isn't there its the crazy cravings. I like to have a cocktail or two every night and I have stopped drinking so I am missing that part.

[NickelChip 749]

My advice is not to think in terms of "being on a diet" but in terms of "what does healthy eating look like." I know at least for myself, I've spent so many years counting calories or doing fad diets, and I'm burnt out on the tracking and the counting, and feeling deprived and waiting for it to be "over." What I've started doing instead is focusing on what healthy eating really looks like and trying to choose mostly the good things and eliminating the bad things. For example, I've started having a smoothie every morning with 2 oz spinach, plain Greek yogurt, unsweetened almond milk, frozen fruit, chia, flax, and hemp seeds, and Protein Powder. I know that everything in it is great for fueling my body and I feel good about drinking it. At lunch, I have a massive salad. Like, I bought a serving bowl and I fill it to the top with spring mix, spinach, shredded carrots, cucumbers, tomatoes, cabbage, beets, and mushrooms. I put about 3oz chick peas and black Beans on it, and 2-3 oz lean deli meat, plus a Tbsp each of pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds, and sliced almonds. I top it with a freshly squeezed lemon and Tuscan seasoning blend instead of dressing. I'll be honest, the thing is so filling I barely have room for dinner. I do eat dinner, but it's light and mostly Protein and veg. Since I've started doing that and gotten all the Snacks out of the house (no more buying pretzels, crackers, and other easy carbs or sweets) and only allowing myself fruit or nuts for a snack, I haven't really felt hungry at all, and I haven't been craving junk like I used to. I've also cut back on caffeine and stopped drinking diet sodas. I started making these changes in July and I'm down almost 15lbs without having to write down everything I do, because it's mostly the same every day. For me, this is something I can keep up long term as long as I am mindful of what I allow myself to bring into the house. Give yourself time, you can do it!

[NickelChip 749]

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Edited September 27, 2023 by NickelChip

[AmberFL 231]

On 9/27/2023 at 2:06 PM, NickelChip said:

My advice is not to think in terms of "being on a diet" but in terms of "what does healthy eating look like." I know at least for myself, I've spent so many years counting calories or doing fad diets, and I'm burnt out on the tracking and the counting, and feeling deprived and waiting for it to be "over." What I've started doing instead is focusing on what healthy eating really looks like and trying to choose mostly the good things and eliminating the bad things. For example, I've started having a smoothie every morning with 2 oz spinach, plain Greek yogurt, unsweetened almond milk, frozen fruit, chia, flax, and hemp seeds, and Protein Powder. I know that everything in it is great for fueling my body and I feel good about drinking it. At lunch, I have a massive salad. Like, I bought a serving bowl and I fill it to the top with spring mix, spinach, shredded carrots, cucumbers, tomatoes, cabbage, beets, and mushrooms. I put about 3oz chick peas and black Beans on it, and 2-3 oz lean deli meat, plus a Tbsp each of pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds, and sliced almonds. I top it with a freshly squeezed lemon and Tuscan seasoning blend instead of dressing. I'll be honest, the thing is so filling I barely have room for dinner. I do eat dinner, but it's light and mostly Protein and veg. Since I've started doing that and gotten all the Snacks out of the house (no more buying pretzels, crackers, and other easy carbs or sweets) and only allowing myself fruit or nuts for a snack, I haven't really felt hungry at all, and I haven't been craving junk like I used to. I've also cut back on caffeine and stopped drinking diet sodas. I started making these changes in July and I'm down almost 15lbs without having to write down everything I do, because it's mostly the same every day. For me, this is something I can keep up long term as long as I am mindful of what I allow myself to bring into the house. Give yourself time, you can do it!

All that sounds so yummy!! That is so great! congrats on the weightloss!