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Bariatric surgery is a major step, so I don't blame you for being scared. I just wanted to reach out and validate your feelings. I was scared, too, which is why I chose a non-surgical option (Endoscopic Sleeve Gastroplasty). It is not yet covered by insurance so it is not as popular, but in my experience thus far and per the medical literature it is safe & effective. Maybe ESG is something to keep in mind for later, if you still need a "tool" in the form of a sleeve. But I would wait until your weight stabilizes after the meds, exercise, and new healthy eating habits are established.
FWIW, I do not think your PCP is fat phobic. Obesity is a serious health risk, the older and the bigger you get. No one sees this more than a diligent PCP. Mine is 100% in favor of my new tool because she is the one who has been prescribing all my meds for hypertension and pre-diabetes, referring me to specialists, etc. I am just glad you went to see an endocrinologist and found a medical reason for your obesity.
In case no one else has said it lately, great job!! Even with new meds, losing that much weight is an accomplishment. I agree with the other suggestions here re: strength training and all. Best wishes to you.
I thought he wasn't in the beginning... I'm still looking around for a new PCP, when I recently found someone I was seeking recommendations from who used to go to him too.

She kept having pain and he told her to lose weight and she ended.going to the ER for having a ruptured ovarian cyst.

At this point it feels quite validating. Plus, it took my nutritionist fighting for me with him to get a recommendation to see an endocrinologist. Normal PCPs can do a TSH blood test to see, but he didn't even do that, so I think I'll trust the other comments and my gut for now.

Plus, I'm feeling much better on the meds and the weight is just sliding off! And, also one of the reasons I was hesitant as well was because I have super brittle hair and nails and I was afraid of the Hair loss part of the recovery. I know it's a little shallow but I thought about trying to get vsg long and hard.

I'm just so happy now that my body temp isn't at 92F anymore. Like I don't always feel so cold anymore. It's so freeing.

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39 minutes ago, Softtacocrumbs said:

I thought he wasn't in the beginning... I'm still looking around for a new PCP, when I recently found someone I was seeking recommendations from who used to go to him too.

She kept having pain and he told her to lose weight and she ended.going to the ER for having a ruptured ovarian cyst.

At this point it feels quite validating.

Very validating! You may consider telling the state medical board about your experience.. it sounds like this doctor causes harm and could cause death due to his fat phobic approach to medicine. it certainly could have done you great harm to be untreated when some simple, medically standard tests could have gotten you treatment sooner. especially refusing to consider anything other than weight when you had symptoms that were screaming something is wrong (body temp etc)

if you share your experience with the authorities it is possible he won’t be able to harm others (or other complaints will be taken more seriously in the future about him)

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