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I can't stand the wait. My surgeon submitted everything yesterday. The girl at the office said she tried to get it approved online but BCBS instantly denied it.....AHHHHHHH that makes me feel even worse. I am currently at like a 43 BMI but I havent been above a 40 BMI for 3 consecutive years total I have been above 35. I AM SOOO SCARED THAT THEY ARE GOING TO DENY ME. They don't understand that I have TRIED EVERYTHING AND ALWAYS GAIN THE WEIGHT BACK. 4 years ago i did slim fast I lost 40 lbs within 3.5 months. I gained every bit of it back in less than 2 months....what did I do I slowly started adding small portions of my fav foods but it didnt matter that i continued exercise and only let my calorie intake slip 1-2 times a week..NO the weight just poored back on WAY easier than it came off. I have tried Atkins, weight watchers, slim fast, hydroxycut...I think I have taken every diet pill ever made...This year I started seeing a weight loss doctor (b4 I heard about the lap band) This started after I got my wedding pictures back...I was SO DISGUSTED..You know I tried really hard to lose a little weight before I got married...our schedule was really crazy and we ate out alot but i would totally limit what I ate and I drank tons of water....INSTEAD I GAINED 10lbs!!!! within 1.5 months after seeing the weightloss md I was down 20lbs. I THOUGHT AWESOME I HAVE FINALLY FOUND SOMETHING THAT WORKS FOR ME!! WWWRRRRROOOOONNNNNGGGGG..School started back and I didnt have the extra time to exercise. Plus between school and work I was exhausted. I didnt change my eating habits I continued low cal low fat no sodas and I was taking adipex so i only ate 2 meals a day And was doing well.It was like forever I didnt lose anything and they would get on to me bc I wasnt exercising but I did small things like take the stairs at work...then Adipex made me really have intestinal problems so i had to stop taking it...the weight just started pouring back on. i felt like i was starving all the time</p> <p>My problem----I dont have any serious co-morbidities.....I have arthritis in my knees bad, my legs within the last year have started swelling everyday after work (I never had that problem), my cholesterol has crept up to almost 200(and it was close to 100 2 years ago) and I am only 25, and I get real SOB easy. But after reading BCBS's website you have to actually have sleep apnea, or heart problems.........</p> <p>I'm freaking out cant you tell. I think my biggest problem is deep down inside I know my husband wants a smaller woman...I dont care what he says. I have seen the pictures that he used to look at...I dont feel sexy I dont feel pretty....I just want to feel like me again......I'm so nervous that I am gonna get a big red DENIED stamped on my papers. I can't handle the wait...and I cant handle rejection.......not anymore. </p> <p>People talk about breaking points...mine was when My great grandfather whom I had not seen in a long time came up to me and said WOW YOU HAVE GOTTEN REALLY FAT...I ALMOST DIDNT RECOGNIZE YOU:help::think:think:think

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alright..so maybe your app will take a lil longer. Its ok breathe/ We are all here for ya and will help anyway possible. sleep Apnea..you may have risks for it and not have it..I was approved based on the fact that my neck was greater than 17 inchs around, i snore and frequently wake at night..but i have never had sleep apnea

I was in the smae boat as you..Im young so my age prevented me from having alot of huge health problems. One way or another, you can do this. We are all rooting for you because we have all benn there

Good Luck:whoo:

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I have a less BMI than you and Empire BCBS approved me in 20 hrs. I had my surgery on Nov. 5th. My journey had started in July. My doctors took too long to write the letters etc.

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Thanks you guys :)

*breathing* :scared:

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Jelbel, our insurance switches to empire BCBS in January. but the bad part about that is now BDBS will pay 100% but after january they will only pay 80% plus i would have my deduc. at this point i dont care....just please approve me!!!!

Is monday too soon to call and make sure they have everything?

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I called and nagged those secretaries, I also called a representative from BCBS to ask how much they covered etc.

If you don't stay on top of it,nobody will.

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I ended up calling my husbands corporate office and got in touch with there representive for the insurance company,I went thru hell trying to get it approved on my own,but corp. really helped me out a lot. Don't give up. I get banded in 4 days.

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I can't stand the wait. My surgeon submitted everything yesterday. The girl at the office said she tried to get it approved online but BCBS instantly denied it.....AHHHHHHH that makes me feel even worse. I am currently at like a 43 BMI but I havent been above a 40 BMI for 3 consecutive years total I have been above 35. I AM SOOO SCARED THAT THEY ARE GOING TO DENY ME. They don't understand that I have TRIED EVERYTHING AND ALWAYS GAIN THE WEIGHT BACK. 4 years ago i did slim fast I lost 40 lbs within 3.5 months. I gained every bit of it back in less than 2 months....what did I do I slowly started adding small portions of my fav foods but it didnt matter that i continued exercise and only let my calorie intake slip 1-2 times a week..NO the weight just poored back on WAY easier than it came off. I have tried Atkins, weight watchers, slim fast, hydroxycut...I think I have taken every diet pill ever made...This year I started seeing a weight loss doctor (b4 I heard about the lap band) This started after I got my wedding pictures back...I was SO DISGUSTED..You know I tried really hard to lose a little weight before I got married...our schedule was really crazy and we ate out alot but i would totally limit what I ate and I drank tons of water....INSTEAD I GAINED 10lbs!!!! within 1.5 months after seeing the weightloss md I was down 20lbs. I THOUGHT AWESOME I HAVE FINALLY FOUND SOMETHING THAT WORKS FOR ME!! WWWRRRRROOOOONNNNNGGGGG..School started back and I didnt have the extra time to exercise. Plus between school and work I was exhausted. I didnt change my eating habits I continued low cal low fat no sodas and I was taking adipex so i only ate 2 meals a day And was doing well.It was like forever I didnt lose anything and they would get on to me bc I wasnt exercising but I did small things like take the stairs at work...then Adipex made me really have intestinal problems so i had to stop taking it...the weight just started pouring back on. i felt like i was starving all the time</p> <p>My problem----I dont have any serious co-morbidities.....I have arthritis in my knees bad, my legs within the last year have started swelling everyday after work (I never had that problem), my cholesterol has crept up to almost 200(and it was close to 100 2 years ago) and I am only 25, and I get real SOB easy. But after reading BCBS's website you have to actually have sleep apnea, or heart problems.........</p> <p>I'm freaking out cant you tell. I think my biggest problem is deep down inside I know my husband wants a smaller woman...I dont care what he says. I have seen the pictures that he used to look at...I dont feel sexy I dont feel pretty....I just want to feel like me again......I'm so nervous that I am gonna get a big red DENIED stamped on my papers. I can't handle the wait...and I cant handle rejection.......not anymore. </p> <p>People talk about breaking points...mine was when My great grandfather whom I had not seen in a long time came up to me and said WOW YOU HAVE GOTTEN REALLY FAT...I ALMOST DIDNT RECOGNIZE YOU:help::think:think:think

My BMI is around 38/39, but I have sleep apnea, high blood pressure, esophageal reflux, high cholesterol, bi-lateral knee arthritis, everything but diabetes, as my bariatric doc pointed out. I would LOVE to give you a few of mine to help you out, but, trust me, be glad you have none, and trust that you will be approved. My coworker had borderline sleep apnea, borderline high blood pressure and she was approved by Blue Cross. I am nearing the end of my 6 month "diet" required by insurance (they want you to lose weight so they can deny you, the bariatric team doesn't want you to lose weight so they can do the procedure) after which I take paperwork for signoff to my PCP, then that goes back to the bariatric office, at which point it will go to insurance. I am still hanging like you, but if my coworker was approved, I surely should be. Keep the faith. We are pulling for you.

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It's OK kaninag... I have BCBS of FL through work, and I know I would be denied because there is a woman I work with who is 20 years older and even heavier than me that has been trying to get approval with no luck.

I'm basically on here for general weight loss support, because I have never really tried to lose weight before. I am a vegan, and that change in my eating habbits is having a big impact on my lifestyle that I have found to be helpful!

I wish you the best of luck on your journey to the band!

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