I have decided to start this thread and write this post because I have been feeling strongly about a couple of things and I feel a need to let it out.

First let me start by saying that I have been spending less time on LBT lately not because I am disapointed with the direction it is going but rather because as a male I find it to be dominated by the fairer sex and this leads me to my first issue.

I am frustrated with the rules of engangement here at LBT, I think they are Bul***it. The rules here are rules that only females could come up with and here is what I mean. It's okay to go on and on about a person as long as you preface your remarks with statements like "There is a person on LBT who I really like who has been attacked by others who I don't want to name" Everybody knows who the people are that are being discussed but as long as you don't say their names it's fine. This reminds of my early teen years when the girls in my class would play that game the sole purpose was to define who could be freinds with who.

I have no problem if someone thinks I'm an ass and tells me so. It's simple if I think your an ass***le then I will say "I think your an Ass**le" you can say back go F**k yourself your the ass**le.

Instead I read " This person is a really really great person who just wants peace on earth and these evil people (I won't say their names because I am a good person too just like you know who) are being terrible in how they attack her every word. I say bull**it, If you have something to say about someone have the guts to say it and the courage to name names.

The next issue I want to rant about is the one I am most passionatte about. There has been a lot of discussion about people making other people feel bad about their weight loss. As people who have decided to use the band as a weight loss tool we have leveled the playing field for the first time. This has made it possible for us for the first time to win our long battles with obesity. This does not however negate years and years of battling obesity and the scars that come with those battles. In my previouse life I was always in one of three states and these were 1. Losing weight 2. Gaining back weight 3. Obese ashamed that I had gained all the weight and more back and waiting for the next scheme to make me skinny again but had given up for now.

Depending on what state I was in my reaction to the weight loss of others was drastically impacted. When I was losing I was eager to hear and share in the weight loss advice of others. When I was in state 2 I was happy for those individuals who were in state 1 but sometimes I just wanted to tell them to shut up, I was afraid to because that was the first sign that I had moved to state 3 and was not going back to state 1. State 3 meant that I knew that everyone who was losing weight was a fool to believe that they wouldn't eventualy gain all their weight back and more. My only hope is that they would soon shut the F**k up and realize that they were doomed for failure.

The band has leveled the playing field but it hasn't removed those old biasis for any of us. What this means is when someone starts to give advice about weight loss often our first response is to want to say oh shut the f**k up soon you will be fat again. Our ability to suceed has been greatly increased but our moods still, at times, make us feel guilt when we hear about the sucess of others. (deep breath) so here is my point, there have been a number of threads from a number of people about other members of LBT not being completely supportive of the wins of others. My point is, it's okay, we should understand better than anyone what motivates this behavior. Why should it matter any way, I couldn't give a flying F**k if anyone disaproves of my weight loss. I am a few days away from my 2 year bandiversary and I have lost just over 120 pounds. I work out 5 days a week and I eat too fuc**ng much ice cream. But I am happy and certain that I will lose another 30-40 pounds by this time next year. If I only lose 20 no big deal I will lose the rest the next year. If anyone disagrees go F**k yourself!!!

Merry Christmas Mother F**kers :)

Ah finally a breath of fresh air, like I said if I think someone is a big ass I just say it. No stomping of feet no telling people to get over themselves. The way I see it name calling is name calling, curious how if I call you an ass I'm childish but if you call me childish your all grown up.

It's good to see that the queen of the Pussy Posse showed up. As soon as someone disagrees with any member of the Pussy Posse the full fronatl attack begins. Reminds of a certain phony Nurse on another board.

Stomps Her Feeties (Now that's childish)

Get Over Yourself

...does LBT searches for her name. Then everything starts all over again.

I've unfortunately seen the consequences of this sort of action. Not pleasant at all! None of us want THAT to happen--too much drama!

…queen of the Pussy Posse

I thought you just finished saying you hated name calling, TommyO? I'm SO confused!

I never once said I hated name calling, I said it doesn't bother me at all. I said I hate it when folks don't have the courage to be honest about who they are talking about.

Heres a good example, You would be less confused Transformer if you read what people said and did not interject your own bias either that or your easily confused. See I was direct to the point and you know that I am talking to you. You did the same in your last post and I congratulate you for that, I only wish you wouldn't put words in my mouth.

I rather like the name Queen of the Pussy Posse, I think it's imaginative and funny. If someone called me the King of the Penis Posse I would think that was funny and get a good chuckle. Although I doubt very much that there would ever be a Penis Posse.

Heres a good example, You would be less confused Transformer if you read what people said and did not interject your own bias either that or your easily confused. See I was direct to the point and you know that I am talking to you. You did the same in your last post and I congratulate you for that, I only wish you wouldn't put words in my mouth.

As Steve Martin would say, "Well EEEEXXXXCCCCUUUSSEEE me!" Geez! What crawled up your butt and died?

Just to be really crystal clear in my communication so no one can be mistaken about whether or not I'm communicating in a direct enough manner, I am actually talking to TommyO. Speaking of biases, I think you've got a whole truckload of your own to keep you occupied so you can leave mine out of it.

I hope that someday I, too, will be an absolute model of communication perfection just like TommyO is...NOT! LOL! :flypig:

Sounds to me like you need a tall glass of warm milk, a blankie, and a very long nappie-poo. Take a chill pill and remember not to call me in the morning... :bored

]Although I doubt very much that there would ever be a Penis Posse.

Regarding the type of female being discussed here, I gotta say that you make one hellova female by your actions. So I don't really think you need to worry that someone will associate you and a penis in the same line of thinking.

Cheers.

Gee Wasa although I respect your apparent knowledge on lapband issues I have to wonder......where is the rest of your posse tonight? you know, losingjust me. Laurend & all the rest of your back up gang? Ya know, it's ok for people to question you or have a different opinion. I must say I have tuned out of LPT for the same reasons as TommmyO. Lots of petty shit going on here & I guess I've had just enough wine tonight to not play the PC role.

cooollll! im part of a posse? wish someone would have told me earlier.

and btw - its losingjusme - no t.

Oh my, is it starting again? Let me go grab some low-calorie popcorn! :popcorn:

Oh my, is it starting again? Let me go grab some low-calorie popcorn! :popcorn:

Pull up a chair and let the train wreck begin!

We need more females. Where's Tommy?

I wonder why it took me so long to start reading the R&R section.

This is so entertaining.

cooollll! im part of a posse? wish someone would have told me earlier.

and btw - its losingjusme - no t.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! Can I be in it? :biggrin1:

Short break TommyO...the 13th to yesterday.

What are you talking about anyway? I have no idea what you are trying to say here. You respect WASa 's knowledge but you have a different opinion.

I am sorry but I just don't get your post.

This is a carry-over comment from another thread that has since been deleted. You would have to read that thread to follow my reply to wasa.

:bounce:Can I join, too? I've never been in a posse before! Is the only qualification that we have female reproductive parts? I hope so because I can't afford to pay a "Pussy Posse Membership Fee" right now along with all of my holiday bills! :laugh

:bounce:Can I join, too? I've never been in a posse before! Is the only qualification that we have female reproductive parts? I hope so because I can't afford to pay a "Pussy Posse Membership Fee" right now along with all of my holiday bills! :laugh

BWAHAHAHAHAHA! Fee! Hilarious! :whoo:

The Posse Appears, don't worry Tonto their just a bunch of Pussy's. It seem's odd however that you would try to insult me by calling me a women, in case you didn't noticed your a woman.

Sorry I can't be online all the time to answer all your questions but this dam life thing keeps getting in the way. Maybe the Posse should consider getting one, even if you must share it amongst yourselves it would be a step in the right direction.

Hi Ho Silver Away!!!!