I have decided to start this thread and write this post because I have been feeling strongly about a couple of things and I feel a need to let it out.

First let me start by saying that I have been spending less time on LBT lately not because I am disapointed with the direction it is going but rather because as a male I find it to be dominated by the fairer sex and this leads me to my first issue.

I am frustrated with the rules of engangement here at LBT, I think they are Bul***it. The rules here are rules that only females could come up with and here is what I mean. It's okay to go on and on about a person as long as you preface your remarks with statements like "There is a person on LBT who I really like who has been attacked by others who I don't want to name" Everybody knows who the people are that are being discussed but as long as you don't say their names it's fine. This reminds of my early teen years when the girls in my class would play that game the sole purpose was to define who could be freinds with who.

I have no problem if someone thinks I'm an ass and tells me so. It's simple if I think your an ass***le then I will say "I think your an Ass**le" you can say back go F**k yourself your the ass**le.

Instead I read " This person is a really really great person who just wants peace on earth and these evil people (I won't say their names because I am a good person too just like you know who) are being terrible in how they attack her every word. I say bull**it, If you have something to say about someone have the guts to say it and the courage to name names.

The next issue I want to rant about is the one I am most passionatte about. There has been a lot of discussion about people making other people feel bad about their weight loss. As people who have decided to use the band as a weight loss tool we have leveled the playing field for the first time. This has made it possible for us for the first time to win our long battles with obesity. This does not however negate years and years of battling obesity and the scars that come with those battles. In my previouse life I was always in one of three states and these were 1. Losing weight 2. Gaining back weight 3. Obese ashamed that I had gained all the weight and more back and waiting for the next scheme to make me skinny again but had given up for now.

Depending on what state I was in my reaction to the weight loss of others was drastically impacted. When I was losing I was eager to hear and share in the weight loss advice of others. When I was in state 2 I was happy for those individuals who were in state 1 but sometimes I just wanted to tell them to shut up, I was afraid to because that was the first sign that I had moved to state 3 and was not going back to state 1. State 3 meant that I knew that everyone who was losing weight was a fool to believe that they wouldn't eventualy gain all their weight back and more. My only hope is that they would soon shut the F**k up and realize that they were doomed for failure.

The band has leveled the playing field but it hasn't removed those old biasis for any of us. What this means is when someone starts to give advice about weight loss often our first response is to want to say oh shut the f**k up soon you will be fat again. Our ability to suceed has been greatly increased but our moods still, at times, make us feel guilt when we hear about the sucess of others. (deep breath) so here is my point, there have been a number of threads from a number of people about other members of LBT not being completely supportive of the wins of others. My point is, it's okay, we should understand better than anyone what motivates this behavior. Why should it matter any way, I couldn't give a flying F**k if anyone disaproves of my weight loss. I am a few days away from my 2 year bandiversary and I have lost just over 120 pounds. I work out 5 days a week and I eat too fuc**ng much ice cream. But I am happy and certain that I will lose another 30-40 pounds by this time next year. If I only lose 20 no big deal I will lose the rest the next year. If anyone disagrees go F**k yourself!!!

Merry Christmas Mother F**kers :)

Unless you follow the threads, it's really easy to be completely disconnected and have no idea who likes who, who's a fan of whom, etc. 95% of the time I don't know who's referring to whom or why. So I always just assume they're talking about me.

Hear Hear!

This thread is hilarious!

Thank you Tommy!

I think the reason for no names in the situation you are writing about is that the person does LBT searches for her name. Then everything starts all over again.

However, this is indeed a funny thread.

Ooooo, who? I gotta know!

Me, right? It's all about me!

AND THAT IS WHY I have always preferred to be friends with guys. None of the caddy bullshit & CAT fights you see with women. I hate the crap on some of these threads & can't believe it is from adults.

AND THAT IS WHY I have always preferred to be friends with guys. None of the caddy bullshit & CAT fights you see with women. I hate the crap on some of these threads & can't believe it is from adults.

Isn't that the truth! Especially petty and childish name calling.

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f80/my-child-s-teacher-46652/index7.html#post653957

Yah I know what you mean, even worse are the know it all's who think in black and white, confident there are correct answers to everything.

Speaking of childish Ha Ha!!!!

Yah I know what you mean, even worse are the know it all's who think in black and white, confident there are correct answers to everything.

Speaking of childish Ha Ha!!!!

And here is the male example showing it's not always women that resort to acting like children.

Name calling, stomping his feeties, the works.

Need links?

Gee Wasa although I respect your apparent knowledge on lapband issues I have to wonder......where is the rest of your posse tonight? you know, losingjust me. Laurend & all the rest of your back up gang? Ya know, it's ok for people to question you or have a different opinion. I must say I have tuned out of LPT for the same reasons as TommmyO. Lots of petty shit going on here & I guess I've had just enough wine tonight to not play the PC role.

I would imagine some of them agree with me and some of them disagree. That's how it works with adults.

Wasa,

Some people wouldn't know those types of adult relationships. They would rather twist what you say to make them look more superior.

I would imagine some of them agree with me and some of them disagree. That's how it works with adults.

You might want to notify them of the same!!!:huggie:

Gee Wasa although I respect your apparent knowledge on lapband issues I have to wonder......where is the rest of your posse tonight? you know, losingjust me. Laurend & all the rest of your back up gang? Ya know, it's ok for people to question you or have a different opinion. I must say I have tuned out of LPT for the same reasons as TommmyO. Lots of petty shit going on here & I guess I've had just enough wine tonight to not play the PC role.

What are you talking about anyway? I have no idea what you are trying to say here. You respect WASa 's knowledge but you have a different opinion.

I am sorry but I just don't get your post.

I never know who anyone is talking about on this site, and that is probably a good thing. Tommy, I love your post and agree with it sadly. Women can be very mean With men at least you usually see it coming. LOL Donna