hi everyone the longer I wait for surgery the more odd questions keep coming up...

so I’m hoping someone can be open with me and answer some or all of the questions ...

If you didn’t know u had the surgery would you feel different to yourself physically? Meaning can you tell anything has been done. Do u feel weird?

Once you’ve healed...does it feel like your missing part of your stomach and your intestines have been rearrange ? Either by comparing how you normally felt pre op or by if you touch your stomach does it feel weird?

also any problems with sex or sleeping? I thought I read somewhere that to lay on your side you kind of had to scoop your side stomach up/intestines up and put on side sleeping pillow.... is that true? Or is there no difference?

Im wondering if we have to be careful with the way we move or lay? If so is that just temporarily or forever?
Or is it just like before but with a smaller stomachs and rearranged intestines.

also is the gas and poo really that bad? Is it controlable? Is it just for the first few months? Is there tricks to control it.

Does the poo Pourtie really work?

if u watch what u eat does it really help with gas and poo?

really wanting to know about if it’s had negative effects when intimate. I don’t want my future partner to know I had surgery.
I want to keep it that way and I want to make sure there will be no physical problems with intimacy later on after recovery. Please any info would be appreciated. Thanks

Edited December 10, 20205 yr by Notwhatyousee

You will have some scars on your abdomen, they will become much lighter over time but they will be there.

Which surgery are you planning to have?

Thank you. I just didn’t know if your insides would feel weird or u comfortable. Do u have to worry about your intestines getting twisted easy. I know scary thought.

The DS . I thought I would’ve had surgery over with by now but 2020 really put a damper on it all and it keeps getting pushed back. It’s been a year now. With any luck I will get it Feb. wanting Jan but don’t see it happening.
so meanwhile more ?’s are popping up

Edited December 10, 20205 yr by Notwhatyousee

I had the gastric sleeve. I have been married to my husband for 17 years and I guess I wasn't really concerned about the scars. After 17 years of marriage and 4 children my body is a well used machine, I have many many scars and stretch marks and a story behind each one of them. I am hoping the weight loss will give us many many more years together and maybe I will look at plastics later on maybe I wont we will see what the future holds when it comes.

As far as the gas and the pooing, again, when you are with someone you really love, the human body makes little noise now and then and thats life. I could run to the bathroom everytime I need to toot, I can control it. I have never had to change my pants due to uncontrolled toots with chasers either.....I guess everyone in different. I find constipation a problem more than the other and by golly if I have to poop and there is only one bathroom available and my hubby is in the shower or bath in the only one available you better bet your bottom dollar if I feel a movement coming on come hell or high water I will be in that bathroom no matter who is in there, and I will be happy to be on the toilet!

Your stats isn't on your info so I do not know your age but I can tell you this, the older you get the less you care about the little things in life.

I wouldn't be ashamed of having WLS to get in control of your life. WLS is only a tool, the hard work will have to be done by you. I am happy to have my husbands help with this journey. He is also overweight and has decided to do the sleeve as well. So we will be doing a lot of lifestyle changes together.

Good Luck and Happy Holidays

As for whether I feel anything ‘missing’ or does my stomach area fell different...the answer is no. I had a full hysterectomy about 5 years ago, and I definitely felt like my insides had been rearranged then. But even that feeling went away after a couple of weeks. With the gastric sleeve procedure I did not have that feeling at all. It was too uncomfortable to sleep on my side for about 2 weeks but I probably could have with the support of a pillow. Now I sleep on my side all the time and it’s completely comfortable, with the exception of my knees feeling much more boney.

The surgery part was not pleasant, but very temporary. I’m 5 months out, and I still have scars, but I’m sure they’ll continue to get lighter. Even now I bet a man wouldn’t say anything. It’s been my experience that men have a completely different set of observational skills than women, and in this case I would expect they wouldn’t even notice. ? The scars are small enough that they could easily be explained away with some white lies if you didn’t want someone to know.

I’ve had no problems with gas at all. As for bowel movements, what I eat definitely has an effect. It’s more that since I am consuming so much less that what I’m putting out is much less. I’ve had a couple of instances with constipation that I never had before. I just make sure to take some miralax at the first sign of any issues and the next morning I’m right as rain. As I’ve moved into eating more normal foods I’ve had fewer issues with that.

I can definitely tell I had surgery because I can't eat very much and for some reason really only feel hungry in the morning. Despite the fact I had the Loop DS and was told you don't get dumping syndrome they LIED because wheat makes me dump. I don't really get diarrhea unless I eat too much sugar alcohol (and get REALLY bad gas from it too so I avoid the sugar alcohol as much as I can) but my body DOES decide about 2-3 days a week to completely empty itself so you're in the bathroom for a WHILE (TMI, sorry). I'm a stomach and side sleeper and have no issues with sleeping like that nor does it hurt though I can definitely tell my intestines have been messed with when I have my bathroom trips, but outside of that l don't notice a difference. As to the bathroom thing... in the beginning food went right through me, but my system got used to it and now I usually only go #2 every other day or every 2 days, the problem with that is that my system decides 90% of the time that when I DO go I have to empty everything in me so you're are definitely in there for a while. And sometimes will have to go back for a return trip 1/2 an hour to an hour later. But the funny thing is my system is pretty much regular and this always happens around the same time of day. The surgery was one of the best things I ever did for myself and I'm glad I made the choice to have it done. Knowing what I know if I'd had to do it all over, I would.

I had the DS on Monday. Feel absolutely no different than when i went in. Bruised badly around the OP incision sites but apart from that feel absolutely no different whatsoever.

Mine was revision surgery though.

Id had the sleeve and sadi before.

Re sex: too early to be thinking about that, but the old boy rises so im sure it will be ok

I am having the ds after the sleeve. What should I expect? I really didn’t have any issues with my sleeve so a little nervous

During the healing period you will feel a little odd in the gut area but after several weeks, no.

Thank u

Thanks everyone!