So I'm having the sleeve done in August.. I have only told a few select friends and family members I told them to keep it hush hush... I haven't even shared it on social media it's been a long year to get done with all my pre test and labs in order to get approved.. Did you guys tell your FB friends yes or no......

I am at the very beginning stages of my journey... so far I have only talked with my Husband about it. I am unsure if I will share this journey with anyone else besides my husband and my brother. I just barely told my Husband I wanted to take this journey as it is something I have been going back and forth on for two years now within myself. I am hesitant to share this with my parents because my mother is very judgmental and honestly I rather not hear her negative comments.

My surgery is scheduled for May 7th. I've told my parents, in-laws, and a few select coworkers. (Those inside the circle of trust. ) My husband has been with me every step of the way so I didn't really have to tell him. My official story at work is that I'm having minor, routine surgery, which I think most of my awkward male coworkers (I'm an engineer.) thought meant I was having my lady bits out or adjusted. I've got theoretical money on which co-worker will make the socially oblivious comment first.

I have not told anybody besides my husband and kids and a few in my family. But I would rather keep it that way.

Like a few others, only my husband knows. It's worked out well for me and I like it this way. Sometimes I wish I had other people in my life I could talk to about it but I don't want to open that door, because once it's opened it can't be closed again.

I have told my closest friends and family but I haven't shared on social media.

13 hours ago, Veronica Garza said:

I started telling friends and family and then I realized the friends I told were a mistake because they will then tell everyone ... I felt some animosity from them making jokes and comments .. I also feel like my family sees it as I took the easy road .. so now I tell no one and I don’t post on social media

None of it is easy!

I told a very select few, and I’m glad I didn’t tell more people. I don’t need the world of Facebook watching (and judging) my journey. I think it could be a good level of accountability for some, but for me, no way.

15 hours ago, arianajo said:

My surgery is scheduled for May 7th. I've told my parents, in-laws, and a few select coworkers. (Those inside the circle of trust. ) My husband has been with me every step of the way so I didn't really have to tell him. My official story at work is that I'm having minor, routine surgery, which I think most of my awkward male coworkers (I'm an engineer.) thought meant I was having my lady bits out or adjusted. I've got theoretical money on which co-worker will make the socially oblivious comment first.

OMG, I laughed really hard about your awkward male co-workers.. I can see this scenario so vividly in my head. I bet theoretical money this will happen as well.

6 hours ago, baribetty said:

I told a very select few, and I’m glad I didn’t tell more people. I don’t need the world of Facebook watching (and judging) my journey. I think it could be a good level of accountability for some, but for me, no way.

I already feel judging eyes on me.

Facebook Friends... Nah

As of right now, only my husband, my best friend, and my son (who is also my lawyer) know. I really don't want my ex-husband to know (can anyone relate to that??!), and I know my mother will be judgy McJudgerson about it...my dad would be happy, but he can't not tell my mom...once the surgery takes place and I start to lose rapidly, I'm sure a co-worker will ask. I'll decide then whether to tell...

I haven’t talked about it at all on social media even when the comments started coming in about why I looked drastically different.

I belong to a body positive group and it’s too hard to articulate in writing all the reasons I did this that aren’t about being physically smaller. I had plenty of confidence and felt beautiful before my sleeve but I know I’m in the minority.

I took guidance from a close friend who had dramatic weight loss with out surgery who didn’t post her transformation on social media. Not because either of us are ashamed.

Now in person I talk about it but there was a small group (The Mr and a few select friends but no family) who knew ahead of my surgery. Afterwards I’ll talk about it pretty freely because going from a size 24 down to a ten in under a year is dramatic. I literally don’t look the same.

I knew ahead of time who I could trust with telling. The supportive folks vs the not.

I told my friends and my co workers. The only person who has been less than supportive surprisingly was a really close friend. Other than that everyone has been super supportive.

Same here I didn't shout it from the roof tops.. I did tell my mom and siblings about it when I first started the process with my doctor and wife.. I just told my employees at work 2 months ago and they have been nothing but positive.. all in all 15 family members know and my work crew

I guess I'm a rarity, but I've told everyone in my life and talk about it regularly on FB. And so far the response has been overwhelmingly positive. There's really only one person in my life who's been negative (in a passive-aggressive way) and I know it's all about her worrying that I won't be the biggest in the family any longer.