As @FluffyChix stated in the original thread:

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Let's share all our sophomore experiences, our angst, our struggles, our suggestions--let's talk about life! Let's become friends! You can be on any kind of food plan, do any kind of exercise or not, be gay or straight, engage in cardio or not--you just have to be in the "tweener" stage post WLS.

Not a Newbie but not yet a Vet - Sophomores have different challenges and are coping with an awkward middle stage, so please only post if you've passed the six month post-surgery mark!

12 hours ago, sideeye said:

I need more detail. Is it a princess carry? For how long? Are there certain start and end points? Does something specific happen when the carry ends?

I think the "show a photo or it didn't happen" mandate should apply here....or even a short video...?

25 minutes ago, MIZ60 said:

I think the "show a photo or it didn't happen" mandate should apply here....or even a short video...?

LOL

I’ll admit, I’m flummoxed. I mean, you’ve said you don’t like it, especially in public. That should not be hard to remember - maybe needs a pointed booster like “I happen to really like kicking people in the shins who pick me up unexpectedly”. Or maybe screaming like you’re mid-abduction once, and like you MEAN IT, so he’s not tempted to just try it out freelance in future.

Dig and find out WHY he likes picking you up, work from that angle to find a compromise? But if he’s still picking you up when you’ve outright told him not to, and he “tries to remember”... dude, kick him. Or bite him. Or yell “stranger danger”. Take up Krav Maga.

Not picking up another fully grown human is not a challenging concept to retain.

Man, all this "getting picked up" talk is a flash-back to high school for me. There was this one guy in our speech class who used to pick me (and my desk) up and carry me around the room. I wish it was because I was irresistible, but I always figured that it was because I was the biggest girl in speech class and he was just showing off how strong he was. The teacher would follow him around impotently saying "Orlando, put her down!" Understandably, I skipped speech class a lot.

6 hours ago, sideeye said:

I’ll admit, I’m flummoxed. I mean, you’ve said you don’t like it, especially in public. That should not be hard to remember - maybe needs a pointed booster like “I happen to really like kicking people in the shins who pick me up unexpectedly”. Or maybe screaming like you’re mid-abduction once, and like you MEAN IT, so he’s not tempted to just try it out freelance in future.

Dig and find out WHY he likes picking you up, work from that angle to find a compromise? But if he’s still picking you up when you’ve outright told him not to, and he “tries to remember”... dude, kick him. Or bite him. Or yell “stranger danger”. Take up Krav Maga.

Not picking up another fully grown human is not a challenging concept to retain.

53 minutes ago, Orchids&Dragons said:

Man, all this "getting picked up" talk is a flash-back to high school for me. There was this one guy in our speech class who used to pick me (and my desk) up and carry me around the room. I wish it was because I was irresistible, but I always figured that it was because I was the biggest girl in speech class and he was just showing off how strong he was. The teacher would follow him around impotently saying "Orlando, put her down!" Understandably, I skipped speech class a lot.

LOL I even said I'm going to pick you up now then he got an excited twinkle in his eyes and said ok do it. I redacted the offer. I will tell him seriously that i don't like it again before it happens so it does not look like a joke.

It makes them feel manly, strong, and virile, and like they can go caveman on their tiny, smokin' hot, girlfriend. Meh. What's not to like? Enjoy it while you can. Cuz at 55, Mr. F. doesn't even dream about picking anything up more strenuous than a mouse (computer) lol. If I suggested he do it, he'd look at me like I was cray.

Help I’m so confused. Not loosing much weight 7 months in . I still get full and can’t eat much but I feel like I eat more then I used too . Is this norm . So scared don’t want to screw up but I feel like I might . Eating small meals but snacking to much in between and when I snack I don’t get full . Only when I eat a meal do I get full HELP this doesn’t feel right

3 minutes ago, Debbielol said:

Help I’m so confused. Not loosing much weight 7 months in . I still get full and can’t eat much but I feel like I eat more then I used too . Is this norm . So scared don’t want to screw up but I feel like I might . Eating small meals but snacking to much in between and when I snack I don’t get full . Only when I eat a meal do I get full HELP this doesn’t feel right

Stop.

5 minutes ago, Debbielol said:

Help I’m so confused. Not loosing much weight 7 months in . I still get full and can’t eat much but I feel like I eat more then I used too . Is this norm . So scared don’t want to screw up but I feel like I might . Eating small meals but snacking to much in between and when I snack I don’t get full . Only when I eat a meal do I get full HELP this doesn’t feel right

When was your surgery? Sorry you're going through this.

You have to go back to basics, eat your meals. Drink your fluids. Prioritize protein and al dente veg. No composite, calorie laden, high reward style of meals that make you crave. Just simple proteins and veg and healthy fats. It's 4 days of pain then blessed relief from the snack and hunger monster.

Ok I’m back on slim fast twice a day and eating 1 meal at dinner will this reset my stomach and cravings

1 minute ago, Debbielol said:

Ok I’m back on slim fast twice a day and eating 1 meal at dinner will this reset my stomach and cravings

Slim Fast shakes are pretty high carb/calorie (even the "keto" ones). I looked at the "keto" ones the other weekend and was like WTF! Try 5 small meals a day. Or at least pick a better shake like Atkins High Protein or Premier Protein.

Edited April 9, 20197 yr by mousecat88

1 hour ago, Debbielol said:

Ok I’m back on slim fast twice a day and eating 1 meal at dinner will this reset my stomach and cravings

Hi Debbie.

Slim fast shakes (even keto) are a 'no'. Get yourself some isopure Zero Carb (https://www.amazon.com/Isopure-Protein-Powder-Isolate-Flavor/dp/B0015R26V8/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?crid=2NYY6LR9OVRPW&keywords=isopure%2Bzero%2Bcarb&qid=1554828012&s=hpc&sprefix=iso%2Chpc%2C116&sr=1-1-spons&th=1) if you must have a shake--mix it with some fairlife, or even water. But at six months you should really try to be eating solid food at least two of your meals (3-4 oz of lean protein, 1/2 cup veggies).

Snacks are ok --in my book at least--but something like 1.5 oz of cheese, edamame or cucumber slices. And no more than twice a day. Good luck!

Commencing Hell Week...

Slim fast advantage is low carb only 2 sugars and high protein without looking I know they are 20 gm protein or more

If you get hungry between meals, your “snacks” should be low-cal drinks. And when I say low-cal, I mean below 50 caps. Crystal Lite and peppermint/herbal teas are my go-to snacks, if I’m really feeling a pinch I’ll do 12oz coffee with half and half and a little sugar (this is right up against the line). My stomach registers it as food, at least.

The other thing I have a lot of are cheese sticks, but I’d only move to those when drinks are satisfying. Otherwise you risk just starting the hunger ball rolling.

After a few months of idling, I’m in a good groove right now - I voluntarily walk more distance than I need to (skip the bus, walk to the train) and when I buy food for lunch I’m able to mark the point at which I should stop eating and bin the rest. The clothes I wear are mostly medium, and the change in weather isn’t the nightmare it used to be (trying to coordinate clothes for many different temperatures that still look good together). I am RIDICULOUSLY chill and managing to maintain it, even while I’m back at work. I’m definitely going to start incorporating more vegan meals and yoga into daily life, since those two things appear to have made a pretty big impact on pretty much everything.

I’ll probably get tetchy again when I stall here, but life is so much better than a year ago. Even though I’ve got a tiny little pull in the skin under my neck and my underarms are practically spinnakers. Priorities!