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I have tried online dating. It just doesn’t seem to work out. In fact, I hate it after a horribly bad experience. I don’t do bars, no single guys my age at church...any suggestions?

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I met my husband online 13 years ago. It might not work for everyone - and certainly I met some losers before I found my prince - but for me it was awesome! Good luck!!

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I didn’t think there were any other options these days.

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8 hours ago, elcee said:

I didn’t think there were any other options these days.

This is pretty much the truth!

Online isn't necessarily any shadier than any other way of dating. There are good people and bad people out there, no matter what.

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I met my husband online, too! You just have to be careful like with any thing, and I think you do better with sites you pay for.

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Shady? Not at all. I met my wife online.

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Hmm. Not any more shady than meeting someone at the bar. I think it's hard to meet people anywhere but online these days.

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I've gone on several dates from online sites and none of them were "bad". They didn't work out or anything, but no different than randomly meeting someone out in the real world. You never truly know what you're going to get. lol. The people I've ever actually dated I always met through friends. And let me just say that my friends, personally, have a crappy choice in men for me, so I don't recommend relying on your friends to hook you up with anyone. LOL. I'm hoping that somehow, magically, me just going to work and going straight home every day... someone will just happen to fall into my lap without me putting in any effort whatsoever.

Maybe the paid online dating sites are better than the free ones? Maybe people are more serious when they are paying for the subscription. I may try that some day. Match or something.

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I figure he will find me.... whether it be online ( not that i go to online dating sites LOL) at church, in town, wherever. I will just do me for now and focus on me and if something is meant to be.. it will find me.

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I figure he will find me.... whether it be online ( not that i go to online dating sites LOL) at church, in town, wherever. I will just do me for now and focus on me and if something is meant to be.. it will find me.
I totally agree! I'm not in a hurry for anything especially since I have not had my surgery yet, however I am an empath and I've noticed that I connect more with guys who are quote-unquote broken.[emoji58] I have already been married I have been divorced for almost eight years and being alone sucks!

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I think it's easier for women. I have messaged about 300 women and got a response on less than 10 and no dates. I have concluded I am undesirable, at least relative to the competition. I would waste so much time poring over their profiles and trying to come up with clever messages only for them to be read and ignored. Now I hardly message. When I do, it's a copy and paste message. I also only message the most attractive profiles. If I get a response, which I have yet to, I'll go back and read their profile to determine if they are crazy. If they are, I'll simply ignore them.

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I met my wife on Match.com 9 years ago, so it definitely works.
Stay away from the free sites like Plenty of Fish or OK Cupid this will help to weed out losers.
Be very picky of who you go out with.
Be very up front about what you are looking for.
You may have to have a few bad first dates before you meet someone you want to pursue a relationship with.

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Stop waiting around for Prince Charming. Sometimes you actively have to search for him. The poor idiot might be stuck up a tree himself waiting to be rescued. So do what's necessary to doing him.

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