I'm having an internal struggle about telling people that I am having bariatric surgery. My husband has been so supportive so has my parents and 3 really close friends. But when I told my mother in law after I received my official surgery date. She said well why can't you just follow a diet. I don't think she meant it to be as hurtful as it sounded but its comments like that I don't want to hear. It was already hard enough to make the decision to start my weight loss journey and to get to this point I am now. Its an accomplishment that I am proud of but I feel like I am keeping it a secret. After my mother in laws comment I don't think I will tell anyone else. Has anyone had the negativity with telling people in their life?

So glad to hear someone else researched this to death as well . I, too, agreed that after years of yo yo dieting , my appetite thermostat is broken and this seems a plausible way to reset it . I am worried when I hear that people have regained their weight but I think you can if you are not mindful of what goes in your mouth and how much you move . When is your surgery ?

They were not supportive at all. So i don’t share. Didn’t tell my parents until the day before.

On ‎12‎/‎12‎/‎2018 at 6:29 PM, notmyname said:

I didn't tell many people. When I told my brother and SIL, I thought they might not be fully supportive. So I armed myself with data. As a percentage, how few people my size are able to lose significant weight and keep it off. The stats on how bariatric surgery works where diets don't. How rare complications are. How much I'd thought about it and tried every other way. In the end, I know they wish I hadn't had to do it, but they understood that it was the only way forward for me. Other than that, I told 2 friends and my boss. Just not anybody's business.

I told a few close friends and of course most of the folks at work knew thru the grapevine. I have not told my father or brother and SIL but I'm going home in march so they will def notice a diff. I hope to be down around 50lbs buy then