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Today makes 6 weeks since I had surgery. I've lost 20 pounds. Which is good, but it has been such a struggle these past few weeks.
I'm nauseated almost every time I eat, sometimes to the point I vomit and/or dry heave.
I'm on 2 different anti nausea medications, and will be starting a 3rd today.
I have had diarrhea for the past 6 weeks. Tested for C.Diff but thankfully it was negative.
food used to bring me joy, now it's pain and a chore.
I've not been getting the Protein in that I need which I know has an effect on my rate of weight loss.
I've been to the doctor, had tests done, trying the new medicine to see if it helps, then go from there.
Several "friends" at work have been pretty unsympathetic. I know they don't understand, they don't have to understand, but it'd be nice to have a little more support from them instead of "well have you changed your diet?" REALLY???
I've cried more in the past several weeks than I have in a long time.
I'm mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted.
I hope it gets better, cause right now this sucks....
Sorry I just needed to vent and cry.

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I'm sorry you're having such a rough time of it. I hope they get the nausea sorted out. Diarrhea for 6 weeks is dreadful. Have you been taking Probiotics? If the docs gave you any antibiotics during your surgery time (not unusual), you might need to reset the good bacteria in your intestines. Have the docs had you switch up your Protein? Maybe to something plant based? You could have a temporary sensitivity to whey or other milk products.

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I'm so sorry, you must feel like everything you're been eating runs right through. Sure hope they get a handle on it soon.

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I'm sorry you're feeling so crappy and I understand the lack of sympathy! I am five weeks from surgery and have been at a plateau for the last three weeks. If I hear one more person say maybe you need to change your diet, add more exercise, or maybe that's just the right weight for your body, I am going to lose it! I had weight loss surgery, it is going to take more than two weeks of weight loss to get my body to the "right weight". I am exercising 5 days a week and I have increased and decreased my calorie intake as instructed with no better results.

I read the comment about the plant based Protein, I had to switch to a vegan protein and it really helped. It seems I am now lactose intolerant and my stomach gets upset every time I eat dairy. I am using vegan protein and trying to drink Fairlife milk for the protein. It has helped with the nausea. It does seem like each week there is some kind of new problem with eating. I had a bit of a breakdown yesterday too so I understand!

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I had to food cycle early on, I could not eat things for more than a few days without becoming intolerant for no reason at all so my NUT suggested cycling different things in and out. It worked well for me.

Also have you tried ginger tea, or crystallized ginger root to chew on @J_Mkay ? Sometimes traditional medicine is equally as powerful, but as always run it by your team first

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Sorry your going through a hard time. Wish I had some type of advice to give you. Just know that all these people here will be a shoulder for to cry on. Somewhat better than having an actual person, you don't have to hold back at all or feel embarrassed. Hope you get it all figured out SOON.

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So sorry! Hope you feel better soon!

It will all be worth it in the end.

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Sorry for your misery, most people really have no idea how this effects us when we are struggling so much.

Acid reflux can cause nausea too, are you on anything for that?

Try some warm liquid 10 minutes before eating. It takes longer for some people to heal, I hope it resolves soon for you. Keep going to the doc.

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Sorry for your misery, most people really have no idea how this effects us when we are struggling so much.

Acid reflux can cause nausea too, are you on anything for that? Gall bladder can make you sick too.

Try some warm liquid 10 minutes before eating. It takes longer for some people to heal, I hope it resolves soon for you. Keep going to the doc.

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I've found while on the diet for liver' skrinking,if I go more than 4 hours from some sort, even $,protein shake, of food, it's like a fist grinding,hard in my upper abdomen. Is this gastritis, hunger,or my body Just complaing about what I'm fo8ng to it? Really really hurts! Why don't I ask my PCP? Dr Ringading is 7th Day Adventist, quits working at noon on Fridays and hides until 8AM Monday morning!

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