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So, I am 2 weeks post op today and doing okay. Trying to get my 85g of Protein in daily but I'm getting to 60s some days if I'm lucky. :wacko: Water, 64oz. is in a far off galaxy but I am doing my best at about 35 oz.

I had a revision sleeve from the original VSG in 2012. I am extremely fortunate to not only have a second chance and get my health back. I lead by example of what not to do as my husband is also having the surgery done later in the year or early next year.

I had my first post op visit with the dr.s office yesterday and everything looked great! Surprisingly, she told me my water % looked very good so, I'll take it.

I am out on short term since the day of my surgery, July 25th and come to find out this past Monday that I will no longer be employed of my job of almost 9 years. Basically, I am bonded every year because I handle money and every year that bond is renewed. So now enter in my story of why...

Last May of 2017, my dog suddenly went limp in his hind legs and needed emergency surgery. French bulldogs are prone to a condition called IVDD or Intervertebral Disk Disease. It is a common cause of back pain, rear limb paralysis, and inability to walk or feel the back legs. Basically, the pressure on his back from the disk was pressing on his nerves that send signals to the brain to control his back leg movement. Without removing that part of the disk, he would be paralyzed. With our minds racing, it was emergency surgery with a 90% success rate or pain management over time to see if he would recover,a 50/50 shot. My mind was made up immediately. My dogs are my world. His emergency surgery was 8k. Crazy to some but to me, I wouldn't have thought twice and would do it again if I had to.

My boy was recovering nicely with his medication management and physical therapy at home. I would sit with him and stretch his back legs and use massage like they showed me at the vet. He improved and I am happy to say he is back to himself today!

This 8k bill was put on a care creditcard and paid on time for 3 months. After that, I couldn't keep my head above water anymore. I reached out to a debt consolidator and had all of my bills rolled up into one monthly payment. It couldn't have come at a worse time. My son was going to be turning 1 in July and we had a bunch of expenses with him understandably along with some other typical bills that go along with owning a home. This debt wasn't the worse thing in the world but I knew I had do to take action.

Fast forward to now. I have faithfully paid my bill every month but took a risk. This consolidation dipped my credit rating. I had forgotton about this. Enter in my job. They do my background check and can't bond me so I can't work for them so here I am.

They have a severance package for me along with COBRA if I decided to take it. YEAH THE F *** RIGHT...At 900 bucks for 1 month for just my son and I, yeah, I think i'll pass. My husband is putting us on his for now through his full time job.

I am currently seeking employment but it stings knowing I'm getting penalized for making a decision I needed to make. Just gonna keep my head up. That's all I can do. I have my health back, my family and that's all I need..well a job too <_<

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Good for you for your positive attitude. Can you take your 401k/severance and pay stuff off so your credit rating can go back up? Maybe look into a real estate license course since that business is now doing quite well these days. You don't say the line of work, I am assuming sonething in finance, or jewelry or something. But your money skills wood blend well with real estate, title company for real estate, etc. And the hours are somewhat flexible. Good luck.

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@Sosewsue61 Thank you :) I worked at a township office for almost 9 years (October 26th). All employees are bonded and because of my situation,I was too high a risk for them to fork over an additional fee to cover me PLUS my pay. In their thinking, I assume that they rather hire someone new at a lower pay and save a ton and they are bonded the same as everyone else at the lower rate. It sucks!

Perhaps I could tap into my 401 but was warned up & down to not touch it but rather leave it and roll it over when finding another job. I feel like touching that 401 or what the township called it, a money market account would not only affect me at retirement but also at tax time. I'd get hit pretty good.

So many questions and paths to take along with my newly revised sleeve. I have to worry abt all this but I also have to take care of myself. Doc told me that yesterday with a stern warning. I'm so happy I downloaded the Baritastic App on my phone that chimes throughout the day to drink and take my Vitamins. ;-)

I ask to please say a prayer for me :778_heartbeat:

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I will say prayers for you💞

I use Baritastic App myself.

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Some lucky place is going to want You, beef You and be VERY LUCKY to get You. We just have to get the 2 of You together. 🙏along with,@Sosewsue61, we are Warrior Women , even God listens to us, at least when it is within His Will. Something good is c9ming ahead!

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